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im gonna be so normal from now on it'll blow ur minds guys

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self hatred maxxing by doing the negative selftalk when im almost on my periods

#the mix of shaky distress & reassuring familiarity of feeling fucking awful lol

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it's biblical self-disgust wednesday

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i've seen quite a bit of confusion about this, so let me attempt to clear things up :

empathy is the ability to feel somebody's emotions as though they are affecting you personally. for example, somebody tells you "my dog died last night!" -> you now feel as though you've lost a pet personally -> you feel grief and sadness just like the other person. not everyone has empathy. it's a trait some people develop and others don't. some have high empathy, some have low empathy, some (like me) have none.

sympathy is the ability to understand and care about somebody else's struggles, even if you don't feel them yourself. so, somebody tells you their dog died -> you realize how this affects them emotionally -> you care about this person, and are upset that they are suffering. not everyone has sympathy either! it's a scale, just like empathy.

compassion is doing something to relieve another person's suffering or make them feel better. somebody tells you their dog died -> you don't want them to remain upset -> you come up with ways to help them feel better, like offering comfort and distractions, or other forms of support. compassion is a learned trait, not something you can be born with like empathy or sympathy. anyone can learn to be compassionate, although some may struggle more with it than others; it's a skill, just like anything else.

however, none of these are required to be a good person. that's a choice you make on your own accord. i hope this clears things up!

#guess i mostly work with compassion #im usually like damn it would suck to go through that lets find a solution #and i feel sympathy mostly in the form of frustration/anger #idk about empathy #sounds like it makes so much more sense to have low rather than high empathy

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remembering ur episodes when ur no longer in an episode is so humbling

#idk if i genuinely forget details for most of them unwilingly or if it's the shame but i do not see em #except when i do but no i dont

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fuck it i failed. normalcy NOW

okay i'm gonna go on a don't do anything weird and don't have weird thoughts challenge and see if i'm normal and mentally stable and i just haven't tried hard enough and that's the only reason i'm still like this or if something is maybe a bit wrong

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okay i'm gonna go on a don't do anything weird and don't have weird thoughts challenge and see if i'm normal and mentally stable and i just haven't tried hard enough and that's the only reason i'm still like this or if something is maybe a bit wrong

#for real this time;;; #istg every couple of weeks i poan om doing this exact thing #but then i forget to follow through

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mfs be like "the trauma does not affect me" and then act so traumatizingly

#it's just that i dont feel awful about it rn #disgusted at my own thoughts but im not sad #so even if it bothers me its like whatever

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I'm built different. like incorrectly i think

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omg it's failing to break the cycle sunday!

#but i did manage for 5 days so thats cool #i just cant when i dont have school it breaks my ability to form habits i just stay in bed all day and get sad :{

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ive found that partially treated mental illness can sometimes look to uninvolved onlookers like faked mental illness.

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omg it's failing to break the cycle sunday!

#im trying to be functional but i yet again couldnt brush my teeth today or shower or wash my hair or cook lol

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i am a loser in ways you can’t even wrap your head around

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omg it's waking up disgusting thursday!

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Hi all! I stumbled upon a website pertaining to sexual abuse and assault of men/boys. Here is their page of some books/films they recommend. Trigger warning for sexual abuse.