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I do think it's pretty funny that fanfic premises based on illegitimate kids as an excuse for crossovers over the years have gone from "Mom character CHEATED on Dad character 😡" to "once upon a time, mommy and daddy had a threesome and now we have YOU!" lmaoooo. People don't want marital discord they just want a third parent

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hey hey gamers, moneys getting a bit tight so i wanted to open up commissions for icon/signature designs! ive been using typography to make icons that also double as signatures/watermarks for art, so if there's any artists out there who have been struggling with your personal branding i'm ur guy LOL

pricing is $10 for a basic signature design, $15 for a full icon version like these, and $20 if you also want a render version (see jamblesoup examples above). alternatively if youre not looking for signature/branding help then a regular icon would just be $15.

if you'd like one you can message me on here, or i have a link to my ko-fi in my pinned post. you can find more examples of my art at @nightlight-art or in the #gingeryart tag on this blog!

limits and some extra details on my commission process below the cut:

will not draw:

incest/rape/pedo/you get the gist

will draw but don't have a lot of experience:

furries/mechs/gore/nsfw

commission process:

i'll make you a few sketches based on your prompt, number of which will depend on how specific it is. ill send you them and you can request as many changes as youd like.

once we've decided on a final sketch and rough color palette, i'll proceed to rendering, and send you a heavily watermarked mostly-finished version for final edits. side note, i have had people take advantage of me to get multiple works for the price of one by making me redo things entirely based on issues that should have been pointed out in sketch stages, so i ask you try to be as descriptive as possible during sketching and keep final edit requests to around like 2-5 things, but that's not a hard line as i know those people are rare. as long as it's clear you're trying to work with me and not run me in circles, we'll be good dw.

once we're happy with the final draft, i'll finish up the remaining details and remove watermarks. if you're going through paypal, this is the point where i'll ask for payment, but obv if you're going through ko-fi that'll have already happened.

i'll let you decide if you want me to post the final product publically or not (if yes i'll be sure to tag you!), and i'm happy to send it via email or something to get you the highest resolution

#self rb

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What is your opinion on terf blocklists, where every one on there at the time had clear and intentional radfem beliefs pushing shitty ideas about trans people and easily identifiable as to what exactly they believe via what they say and circulate and who they constantly reblog shitty things about trans people from?

I promise this is a genuine good faith question; I want to understand if the thing I've been taught be others to do with the purported intention of eliminating platforms for terfs to protect ourselves and others is actually helpful or if that also has far reaching consequences I hadn't considered before. I'm trying to think about it but struggling with the idea I got taught to do them/follow them (blocklists) for being to identify correctly and block, not harass. But do the harms of encouraging that approach actually outweigh the benefits and that doesn't change even if the blocklist is for actual bigots?

Again, genuine question. Trying to learn.

I think the problem here is less in how a blocklist is constructed; it's not hard to imagine that a list can be made under strict enough criteria, with enough careful vetting, to contain only Genuinely Bad People- or at least people who would not object to being placed in the category of that list. It's also not hard to come up with categories of people that feel morally reprehensible enough, and unattached from any marginalized identity enough, to be "safe" to target: it would be absurd to argue against a "Nazi blocklist" that contains only self-proclaimed Nazis.

The problem also isn't really in how blocklists are intended to be used; it's pretty fair that someone might want a list of people to block pre-emptively in order to avoid harassment, particularly when that harassment is bigoted. It's not hard to imagine that someone making such a list is doing so with the intent that it only be used for blocking, and that they might even make an effort to say as much in the post. And at that point, is it really their fault if someone goes against their clearly-stated wishes?

The problem is that a blocklist is, by fundamental design, "free research". It's put forth entirely so other people do not have to do their own research, which means the entire premise discourages people from doing that research.

You aren't offering up a list of people that others should go look into and form their own opinion about, you're offering up a list of people you already did the research on so people can copy/paste and be done with it. It would be counterproductive- and frankly silly- to post a blocklist with some "but make sure to double check these yourself!" disclaimer, because like, that's not the point of the list. Nobody is going to do that. Even if they did, they're looking into these people under the assumption that there is something to find; everything is going to look suspicious in a way it never would have without that framing.

The question isn't whether a blocklist can be made with good intentions and due diligence; the question is whether it can be made with ill intent or sloppy execution, whether anyone can tell the difference, how likely they are to actually check, what you're doing with that list, and what impact your choices have.

If I make a list, the message I send is, "you can trust me. I did the research, I did it right, and this is a Good Blocklist. If you trust me, you should trust this list."

If I reblog a blocklist, the message I send is, "I trust this list. I may have even checked it myself. This is a Good Blocklist. If you trust me, you should trust this list."

The majority of the people who follow me probably believe they can trust me to some extent; oftentimes, people just trust that whatever is on their dashboard is trustworthy, because someone they follow put it there. Those are their friends, and their friends are trustworthy!

This should make you nervous. You should not be comfortable with this. People make mistakes all the time, and even if they did do the research (it's so much more likely that they did not, especially if they're not the original creator), someone else's standards of what kind of person "deserves" to be on a list like that are very likely different from your's. Are you going to double check every single name on that list yourself?

Well, if the accusation is bad enough, probably not. Especially if the accusation is something like "Nazi" or "TERF". And if you do start checking, how likely are you to check every single name? If the first 3 or 5 seem to check out, will you bother with the other 50 on the list?

What if OP hid someone in that list who doesn't belong there; someone they just have a personal grudge against? What if OP defines "TERF" to mean "anyone I assume doesn't think trans women are the most oppressed", and after the first 15 actual TERFs, the list is just a bunch of transmascs- many of whom don't even disagree with OP in the first place? What if they define "TERF" to include anyone who has ever been a TERF, and one of the people on that list is a trans person that has been rumored- without any foundation or grain of truth whatsoever- to have once been a TERF?

Will you know? Will you check? Even if someone you trust reblogs it? Even if someone you trust made it?

A blocklist may not have the same kind of obviously punitive intent as a callout post does, but it's a tool from the same toolbox. People think callout posts are about "safety", too. Lots of people also think that about the criminal justice system, about prisons, about the death penalty.

The question is not whether that could be true, or whether there could be a world in which justice is administered correctly with these tools. The question is whether it could fail, and who it hurts when it does.

Who can abuse this system? How easy is it to do so? Who is most likely to be hurt; is it the intended target, or people who are already disempowered by our systems and society?

What is the best way to go about this?

Even done correctly, a blocklist is not the most effective tool here: people can remake their blogs, change urls, and often have sockpuppets ready to go anyway. The list is rendered useless and inert as soon as enough people change their strategies to evade it. A more effective tool is education; teaching people how to recognize a TERF, or TERF ideology, on their own. Teaching them why those ideas are problematic. Encouraging them to block and disengage, and teaching them why engaging is harmful and counterproductive. Talking about de-radicalization, cult recruitment and radicalization tactics, and how to fight this epidemic.

Telling people what to think does not solve the problem, but teaching them how to be critical might.

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When you’re unsuccessfully looking for something and start gradually increasing your It Could Be There range. Like yeah sure maybe the rice cooker pot is in the freezer, idk

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i'm sorry but this is the only submission to this trend that i'll consider giving any thought to

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The year is 2030.

At the Cincinnati stop of her "world tour", Taylor Swift ends her set. As she walks off the stage, she leans into a nearby mic and says "oh by the way, I'm lesbian".

She's still milking a public relationship with a man named Chett Whitesman, so this is met with a combination of cheers and confusion. Immediately, the media mobilizes. They have to intercept her before she gets onto her private jet, and ambush her for an interview. Luckily, this has become much easier these days. Since the release of her 2027 album, "The Carbon Emissions of my Heart", T Swizzle has performed a ritual sacrifice of an endangered species on live camera every time she boards her jet, a #girlboss way of saying that her emotional pain can only be healed by the tortured screams of drowning polar bears.

(Since this practice started, a devoted faction of Swifties have started a carbon negative algae farming commune, with the express intent of negating taytay sweezie's contributions to climate change. Apparently "her tortured soul deserves to pollute without guilt". They haven't even come close to their goals.)

Taytor Twift is intercepted after this ritual, as she's walking up the steps of her plane. When asked what the lesbian statement was about, she nonchalantly says "oh, I thought it was clear that was a joke. Anyways, G T G!" , before biting into the still beating heart of an emperor penguin.

During her flight, discourse on the newly renamed twitter-X-ElonIsExtremelyVirile Corp goes nuclear like it never has been before.

There's a camp of swifties thoroughly convinced that her relationship with Chett is all a beard so that she can still keep touring in the New Christian Republic of Florida, and the interview at the plane was deepfaked.

A different camp of Swifties feels insulted and betrayed that she would be anything less than a paragon of allyship. To them, this is the worst slight the queer community has ever experienced.

A third camp of Swifties insists that she *is* dating Chett, and is also a lesbian. They get insulted that anyone would police Taylor's labels. Comparisons to the Boulder, Colorado shooter are made.

A group of non Swifties tries to point out that everyone is fucking insane and that 'ole taytay regularly tear gases pride rallies to make way for her promenade to stadium venues, and who the fuck cares about this shit and point out that what a billionaire celebrity does for five minutes of PR is not worth your attention or discourse, nor does it warrant harassing other people for the labels *they* use, and isn't it really fucked up that Taylor is making a joke of how people describe their identities? They are promptly doxxed, harassed, and banned.

Bi lesbian discourse is off the charts. Nothing Taylor said has anything to do with it, but it happens anyways.

A lone transsexual who actually goes outside once in a while tweets "hey guys isn't it kinda fucked up that 2.4 billion people have been displaced by mega storms this year that her jet contributes to and is also specifically designed to fly over" and is promptly doxxed and harassed off the platform.

After an exhausting 9 minute plane ride, Tailing Swiffer lands in Columbus for the next performance of her world tour. She unveils a new single that contains the line "ride my horse after dumping him, stepping up onto my SAD dle".

All is forgotten. All is quiet. The Swifties continue as usual, moving on to the next discourse about these lyrics.

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i was cuddling with my boyfriend last night when his shoulder started tensing up (like he was readjusting or gently pushing me off) and when i asked him if he was okay or needed me to move or something he went “no you’re fine, i was just imagining myself pulling a large rope. i didn’t even realize my shoulder was doing that lmao” then refused to elaborate and i have never been as attracted to him as i was in that moment.

#saw a study a while ago saying that when youre thinking words the muscles in your mouth are making micro movements along with it #or its like. making a face because of an argument youre having in your head

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hey friends, bills are coming up soon and i could really use any help i can get, esp rbs to help boost 💜

hey hey gamers, moneys getting a bit tight so i wanted to open up commissions for icon/signature designs! ive been using typography to make icons that also double as signatures/watermarks for art, so if there's any artists out there who have been struggling with your personal branding i'm ur guy LOL

pricing is $10 for a basic signature design, $15 for a full icon version like these, and $20 if you also want a render version (see jamblesoup examples above). alternatively if youre not looking for signature/branding help then a regular icon would just be $15.

if you'd like one you can message me on here, or i have a link to my ko-fi in my pinned post. you can find more examples of my art at @nightlight-art or in the #gingeryart tag on this blog!

limits and some extra details on my commission process below the cut:

will not draw:

incest/rape/pedo/you get the gist

will draw but don't have a lot of experience:

furries/mechs/gore/nsfw

commission process:

i'll make you a few sketches based on your prompt, number of which will depend on how specific it is. ill send you them and you can request as many changes as youd like.

once we've decided on a final sketch and rough color palette, i'll proceed to rendering, and send you a heavily watermarked mostly-finished version for final edits. side note, i have had people take advantage of me to get multiple works for the price of one by making me redo things entirely based on issues that should have been pointed out in sketch stages, so i ask you try to be as descriptive as possible during sketching and keep final edit requests to around like 2-5 things, but that's not a hard line as i know those people are rare. as long as it's clear you're trying to work with me and not run me in circles, we'll be good dw.

once we're happy with the final draft, i'll finish up the remaining details and remove watermarks. if you're going through paypal, this is the point where i'll ask for payment, but obv if you're going through ko-fi that'll have already happened.

i'll let you decide if you want me to post the final product publically or not (if yes i'll be sure to tag you!), and i'm happy to send it via email or something to get you the highest resolution

#origibberish #i reworked the commission process section a bit since when i wrote it i forgot abt kofi lol

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"people in real life: hey man how's it going" is a killer phrase. instantly neutralizes whatever insane discourse you find online. gonna start using that from now on

#it is but i give it about two weeks before it starts getting overused in the wrong situations like touch grass #by which i mean yknow. used in petty arguments by people not realizing theyre the exact people it was directed at

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like. for instance a while ago i made a post that was like "its funny when im like. really insecure on if a post i made is actually good or not, and then someone disagrees in a certain way that makes me suddenly able to see through the anxiety and look at my work clearly and go 'oh. oh no not only was i right, i was turbo right, theres some excellent ideas here. thanks for the wakeup call though' " and even as i was posting it i was like "ok but is that actually what happened or was that just you getting defensive? like that kinda sounds like confirmation bias in reverse, you werent sure of an idea until someone disagreed with you so you immediately became glued to your guns" and its like. well if that is what happened then im not the person to ask am i? by default my answer is gonna be "no, that's not what happened," because if it wasn't then i'm just gonna tell the truth, and if it was then im still glued to those guns and am not gonna be able to acknowledge it until im peeled off of them so going on a thought spiral about it is pointless. and yet my brain goes ahead and spirals about it anyways and then im typing up giant paragraphs justifying my own mental processes to no one and its like "ok. at what point does this stop being how normal people's brains work. because i think perhaps this is not how normal people's brains work."

there's also the question though of if this is in fact a good book for me to continue reading given im pretty sure i have moral ocd from how much i already Question Every Motive And Action I Take Forever And Ever In Endless Circles That End With Me Feeling Like Im Lying To Everyone And Myself About Everything Ive Ever Done. but also i feel like thats the kind of thing this book aims to relieve anxieties about by the end? so im gonna power through it

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there's also the question though of if this is in fact a good book for me to continue reading given im pretty sure i have moral ocd from how much i already Question Every Motive And Action I Take Forever And Ever In Endless Circles That End With Me Feeling Like Im Lying To Everyone And Myself About Everything Ive Ever Done. but also i feel like thats the kind of thing this book aims to relieve anxieties about by the end? so im gonna power through it

#either itll help or itll make them bad enough to be diagnosable so. either way its a win ig LMAO #origibberish

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picks book up. shit wait i was taking a break to ponder. puts book back down. blogs about book. picks book back up. shit wait i w

#origibberish #i guess thats how you know its a good book is if its making me god this insane about it by just the end of the first chapter

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like i need yall to understand the sequence of events here was

me: haha since this section is about jokingly saying people are Absolutely Wrong about minor opinions itd be funny if i said the minor rhubarb pie opinion is wrong as a joke because i fuckin love rhubarb pie *does it* hee hee hoo hoo anyways reading onwards

book: bet u rhubarb pie lovers thought it was funny to be pointed out and were laughing along with me

me: AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA I SURE WAS, UP TOP

so committed to being committed to a bit i just played out a bit with this book

#also raises the question of how many layers of joking can you put onto a bit before it becomes indistinguishable from an unironic statement #like. you guys will never know if it actually did happen like this or if the first part was actually meant genuinely and then when i hit #the second part i got defensive and was like 'shit make it look like a joke' #and to a certain degree neither do i #like yes i did include the (lol) from the start and genuinely was intending it to be playing along with a bit‚ tho i didnt realize the bit #would indeed play me right back #but theres also the question of like. is that what i actually think or is that me lying to myself to cover up embarassment that #i did in fact get played right back? i dont think im embarassed about that but im also embarassed by the idea that someone #else would think i didnt understand that it was a bit as well as i did or that i could in fact be wrong and theres an #extra layer of irony in all of this that puts the joke on me and I Dont Want To Be Wrong #yeah you can tell this book is already rewiring my brain a bit JEBFKSNFKSBFKDJ #and plus then its like. are these tags also part of that? am i performing a bit for myself right now? i kind of feel like i am but also #thats also how it feels to talk down unhealthy thought patterns #because like the book says like. theres no present tense of feeling wrong‚ you can only feel that you /were/ wrong #the only present feeling of wrongness is of feeling right otherwise the whole thing wouldnt be possible #so then how does anxiety and self image issues play into that yknow? when youre Constantly Afraid of being wrong and also dont actually know #who you are‚ how can talking about yourself and your feelings ever feel like anything but a lie? #idk. many things to ponder #origibberish

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ok i finished the first chapter and am gonna take a break now but im v excited to keep reading im really liking the way the author looks at things so far

#there are parts ive kinda disagreed with either what shes saying or how shes saying it but i mean given the whole point of the book i doubt #that the author would take offense at that and would in fact encourage it esp given that its a book and not a convo #like. i should hope i have some disagreements with just the introductory chapter‚ she hasnt had a chance to fully explain herself yet and #i feel like having a written record of my disagreement before potentially changing my mind is very much in the spirit of the ideas this book #is offering yknow #like at one point shes talking about religious perspectives on wrongness and says some scholars believe its abt like #our wrongness comes from eden‚ our lack of understanding of absolute right and wrong that god has #but its like. ok but the whole point with the garden of eden was that the lack of knowledge of right and wrong /was/ the extra knowledge #god had and we didnt that prevented us from sinning #eating of the tree and Gaining the knowledge of good and evil was what gave humans the ability to sin in the first place #because if we cant know something is wrong and choose to do it anyways then what is the sin? #its like how with animals we don't see them killing each other as wrong #because they dont have 'morals' like we do‚ they dont have a sense of right vs wrong so the things they do cant be classified that way #so idk if its like. thats just a difference in how my church taught us vs the scholars the author checked out #or just like. a misunderstanding in the story of eden? #i just dont get presenting eden as the example for 'we dont have the knowledge of right and wrong god does so thats what makes us able to #do wrong' when the whole thing with that story was like. #gaining the knowledge of right and wrong was what gave us that ability. like thats just backwards #(also disclaimer that i am not a christian and do not actually believe in these things‚ im just using the language as if i do here to kinda #speak from the perspective of my past self who /did/ believe it) #so im excited to find out if like. shes gonna expand further on that (next chapter is abt history so maybe) and ill be like #ohhhhh ok i see what that meant #or if ill be like 'hm yeah you just maybe had a misconception abt how the garden of eden story worked' #and like i can kinda see room for the first one already in that it said like 'we dont have gods /absolute/ knowledge of right and wrong' #so theyre saying like. we were given /some/ of the knowledge of good and evil‚ but that that in and of itself didnt /actually/ bring us up #to gods understanding of it #idk its been a while since i reread the bible‚ i do kinda remember there being a second tree? but i dont think it was like #'tree of full onniscience' i thought it was the tree of eternal life or smth #or maybe im just mixing up the bible and the narnia remix of it? i know there is a tree of eternal life in the magicians apprentice #origibberish

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image desc under the cut bc it wouldn't fit in alt

image desc: picture of page 16 of Bring Wrong by Kathryn Schulz, reading:

"bors (Neighbors) fulminate - or litigate - over one another's exterior paint colors or inflatable lawn ornaments. It is barely an exaggeration to say that I once almost broke up with someone over the question of whether rhubarb pie qualifies as a great dessert (obviously not) and whether The Corrections qualifies as a great novel (obviously so).

Granted, most of us are a bit wry about our tendency to treat our own predilections as the transcendent truth. Still, knowing that this behavior is ridiculous seldom stops us from engaging in it. The late novelist and critic John Updike once noted that the trouble with writing book reviews is that it is "almost impossible to ... avoid the tone of being wonderfully right." The same goes for our informal reviews of almost everything. It's as if I believe, in some deep-down part of myself, that rhubarb pie radiates a kind of universal ickiness, while The Corrections, in some intrinsic way, just is brilliant. (And you, my rhubarb pie loving reader, are marveling at how wrong I am.) It follows, then, that anyone sufficiently perceptive and intelligent would respond to these things - to everything - the same way I do."

In the first paragraph, the words "(obviously not)" are highlighted yellow, with "wrong (lol)" written beneath it in black. In the second paragraph, "(And you, my rhubard pie loving reader, are marveling at how wrong I am.)" are highlighted, with "yesssssss" written next to it. End desc.

so committed to being committed to a bit i just played out a bit with this book

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so committed to being committed to a bit i just played out a bit with this book

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