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I’m a minor, and I’m going to be for a couple more years. I know some people don’t really like interacting with minors as much, but I want to make fandom friends. I haven’t told anyone but I can’t meet up with people or buy as much merch, and I don’t want to wait to be an adult to participate in fandom. Do I just not tell anybody or should I make friends who don’t care?

I grew up in the generation where every adult in our lives made it excessively clear that revealing the fact that we were young online was dangerous behaviour. I'm regularly horrified to see teenagers post their ages where anyone can see them. My initial, gut reaction to this question is dear god don't tell anyone you're a minor.

I'll leave the actual decision around whether to reveal your age up to you, but I recommend talking to your parents or another trusted adult before you do. If you're not comfortable doing that, then please read up on some privacy tips for teens to help you stay safe online.

You don't need to meet people in order to participate in fandom. You don't need to buy anything to participate in fandom. All that you have to do is join the online community of people who are nerding out, squeeing, creating, celebrating, and talking about your favourite characters and stories.

This might mean that you're a silent lurker, looking at art and reading fic without commenting or reblogging at all. It might mean that you become a fanartist or a fic writer or a podficcer or fanvidder or a cosplayer or a fan crafter or any of the myriad other types of creators that exist in fan spaces.

It will probably also mean that you'll be somewhere on the spectrum between the two, and that your involvement will change in type and degree as you move from one fandom to another. There are some fandoms where I'm a lurker, some where I'm a commenter/reblogger, some where I'm a writer or an artist.

Try lurking in a community first and picking up the vibe. What are the people like here? What are the rules? Do these people have the kind of community I want to be more active in? You can always reveal your age later if you feel like you want to.

People are online are going to assume you're an adult until you tell them you're not. Lurking will also give you a chance to see if you're comfortable with the kinds of conversations those communities are having. If you're not, then it's okay to back out. You can come back some other time if you want to give it another go. In the meantime, there's always another group of fans for you to meet.

Take care of yourself and stay safe. ❤

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conspiracy theory: people on other social media sites keep saying tumblr is dead so they can mine us for resources without anyone else going to the source

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The q slur discourse is just... so astounding to me.

It should be easy enough to say “this word is a slur, it means something many lgbt people don’t want to associate with. If you want to reclaim it for yourself, that’s great, but please don’t use it for others.” And be done with it.

But people have clung onto the word as their whole identity, and feel as if the acknowledgment of the word as a slur is a personal attack.

They also find it to be a personal attack when others say they don’t want to be referred to as the q slur.

It’s so blatantly clear that they aren’t fighting to reclaim the word for themselves. They’re fighting to use it for everybody. And they get mad when people push back.

If you can’t understand why many lgbt people don’t want to be referred to as weird, strange, odd, etc., you’re incredibly dense.

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For anyone who is unclear on the matter or needs to hear this: fictional characters, while awesome, are literally not real. They do not exist and therefore are not worth sending death threats and suicide bait to real people over. There are 0 exceptions to this rule.

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I’ve seen this new trend of girls posting videos like “I hate my boyfriend for bringing all of his stupid boy things into our apartment when we moved in together 🙄” and then pictures of his hot wheels collection or a Halloween skeleton or an extremely cool pirate flag. Give him to me you do not deserve him.

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something about the wave of Alfred Molina thirst makes me think of that "Everyone is Beautiful and No One is Horny" essay. shan't elaborate right now but give me a moment.

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Did anyone else just like. Never understand the whole, "it says gullible on the ceiling" thing?

Like. Someone told me that in middle school and I looked up and said "no they didn't" and somehow that meant I "fell for it"?

I still don't understand. You told me something. I checked to see if it was true. Ergo, I am a fool.

That's not a prank, it's not a joke, it's a lie? Not even a funny lie? It isn't true?

It's been over ten years. I pay taxes now. I still don't get it

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anybody wanna get gay married in this fit 😳😳😳

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“Why is education getting worse”

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stop everything, this is bitty doing research for his thesis

there’s more lmao, unhinged bitty energy

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this is superior humor

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controversial soapbox here, but “anti fujoshi” is just the progressive way of gatekeeping women from liking the same stuff as men and an excuse to be as misogynistic as you please without getting any clout for it lmao

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So do people know about the fucking horrible real life event in Wales that everyone's favourite mindfuck film The Lighthouse, starring Robert Pattinson and Willem Dafoe, is partly based on, or do I have to tell you all