Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat!
you ever think about how men who enter female dominated spaces (male beauty youtubers) are adored and celebrated and welcomed and women who enter male dominated spaces (gaming, sports) are often verbally abused to the point of quitting the activity all together
“You’ve heard this myth. One dark, one light, live inside. Feed one & it survives. When will we learn what we starve always becomes claw & teeth & snarl?”
— setting the table, Kara Dorris
(via amouthfulloflove)
That one tweet that was like "we should scrap 95% of feminist theory so far because it's transphobic and wh*rephobic" vs that one post that was like "women are never allowed to build a literary/religious/theoretical canon for themselves because it's always forcibly reinvented every 30 years, women have no connection to or knowledge of feminist theory that has been formulated for literal centuries, all the while males have their revered Enlightenment philosophers and their Aristotle and Socrates and nobody is taking them away from men no matter how society changes or how "problematic" they were" and I'm too tired to formulate this more coherently but the truth is women and feminism are always suspended on thin ice with no celebrated intellectual heritage and tradition despite the fact that it obviously exists, and this is such a huge way women are alienated and disempowered