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Holy shit I just worked out my problem with the ‘we need to educate men not blame women’ thing (besides the obvious ‘they know it’s wrong and they do it anyway, because the evil is the point’):

It is just another form of hyper individualism.

Ok, in some quarters we are slowly moving past the ‘what was she wearing, why didn’t she leave’ point, and towards the ‘he shouldn’t have done that and it’s not her fault’ point, and that’s wonderful, but by focusing exclusively on the behaviour of the individual, whether victim or perpetrator, you are very neatly removing the rest of us from the equation, and (most likely) doing so out of laziness.

Yes, we need to talk about men who commit violent acts, and seek to prevent them, but that doesn’t just involve telling men not to do them - it involves changing the rest of society to protect women and children from the men who don’t want to change. It’s a collective effort.

Rather than saying ‘men need to do better’ and then patting ourselves on the back and calling it a day, we need to start enacting large scale change. Most abuse takes place in the home? Ok, let’s overhaul our approach to domestic life, the nuclear family, and social isolation. Some abuse takes place in the streets? Ok, let’s redesign our streets to make them safer, let’s create community protection groups with only women, hell let’s move towards a 24 hour society with no empty streets. Would any of those interventions work? I don’t know, but if we really care about protecting women and children from male violence, anything has got to be worth a try.

Move past individualism. Move towards true community. Step up.

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nothing new. taylor swift (ft. phoebe bridgers).

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i support women’s wrongs but not men’s rights

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rereading my own writing is just a constant fluctuation between "damn, girl, you wrote this? (affectionate)" and "damn, girl, you wrote this? (derogatory)"

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Charles M. Schulz (American, 1922-2000, b. Minneapolis, MN, USA, d. Santa Rosa, CA, USA) - Lucy van Pelt and Charlie Brown from Peanuts.

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Kurt Vonnegut, Mother Night

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Never seen this put so beautifully

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lexi coping with trauma by pretending her life is a movie she’s just like me fr

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A list of lovely moments and feelings

Slow dances to your favorite tune alone or with someone you love

Random and unexpected hugs

Handwritten letters

The smell of books and the sound of turning pages

Hearing the phrase "I love you"

Compliments from strangers

Returned smiles

Someone playing with your hair

Sunrises and sunsets

Handwritten notes found in old books

Cardigans, big sweaters and knitted socks

The taste of food after a long, tiring day

When you finish reading a great book and you feel like you've lost a good friend forever

Feeling the cold wind caressing you skin and hair

When you're at the beach and you close your eyes to listen to the sounds of ocean waves crushing against the shore

Playing with children and hearing them laugh

Making lists

Long, meaningful discussions with someone who means a lot to you

Slow kisses

Being brave enough to do the right thing

Hearing "this made me think of you" and "I miss you"

Playing with animals on the street

Visiting your grandparents

Long peaceful baths

unexpected car trips

No homework

The excitement of new beginnings

Waking up after remembering a nice dream

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Enjoy your pumpkin spice people ✨

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very telling how you can replace the word “gender” with “aesthetic” in almost any text post made by genderists and it fits perfectly

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Ppl who pretend Harry Potter has no author are complacent with the historical and current erasure of women's achievements.