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Just me in the fancy cocktail shop shoving three whole dried hibiscus flowers in my mouth and sucking it like a good chew.

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Gordon Ramsey telling one of the Worst Cooks contestants not to put anything inedible on the plate because customers are stupid was honestly such a read for me.

Every time I go to a fancy cocktail place I eat all the garnishes. Even whole charred lemon wheels.

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Oh yeah, duh. Idk why I didnt think about how its not really helpful.

Okay so, Ive got one.

If you're visiting a temple that says "please dont come inside if youre menstruating" and youre on your period would you go in anyway?

Options:

Yeah, no one would know

Yeah, and Id tell them

No, Id wait outside

No, I would not desire to visit such a place

Unsure/Id have to hear peoples arguments for either side

Thanks for the submission!

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I guess its inspired by like "should you honor cultures because youre a guest even if theyre sexist?" Bc if there was a Christian church with a big "no menstruating" sign out front I'd be going every month to dump my cup out in the baptismal.

But being that Im not Indian, Nepalese, Indonesian, or whoever else it would feel... colonizing I suppose, as a white woman, to paint the walls with my blood. Its not really my sexist culture to rage against. But Id fully donate to like a legal fee fund for women who did do it.

but at the same time sexism affects all women so is my choice to honor a sexist culture contributing to the oppression of Southeast Asian women? I dont want that either. Like if I do nothing am I sort of abandoning Southeast Asian women instead of helping them?

Okay so, Ive got one.

If you're visiting a temple that says "please dont come inside if youre menstruating" and youre on your period would you go in anyway?

Options:

Yeah, no one would know

Yeah, and Id tell them

No, Id wait outside

No, I would not desire to visit such a place

Unsure/Id have to hear peoples arguments for either side

Thanks for the submission!

#idk i hate religion but i just had a similar circumstance where it felt wrong to keep my hat on inside a church where tohono o'odham worship

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It also just comes with time. When I first learned to drive my I was very timid and awful at it. The guy who taught me used to tell me "you probably caused an accident back there." Which was... not helpful. Anyway I got better at it and it didnt even take that long.

I can’t believe you convinced me to be be independent and get a drivers license. it’s scary. I feel like I will get into a car crash and die everytime I drive and it’s only been a few days since I passed the test and started driving alone. the dmv test person said I looked like someone she would see on the news that would die in a car crash because I looked too nervous for “the real road” with cars that break rules and run lights and she didn’t think I could outmaneuver a drunk driver going the wrong way and that I would die. every time I get behind the wheel I think “I don’t want to die, I love lesbian sex too much to die this young” and everytime I turn onto a road I see your icon and post saying it’s bad for women to be passenger princesses and I want to go back in time to when I thought that was better and I wasn’t in a metal death trap driving myself to my own demise and early grave

Independence is important and there are many emergency situations that call for the need to drive. If your friend who drove you someplace was hurt and you couldnt call someone, it's important to have the skills to get out of that situation.

If you can afford it, I'd maybe look into a specific defensive driving class that would make you more comfortable behind the wheel and makes you more aware of things on the road sort of thing. I had a friend who was very nervous about driving and took one and she said it helped her immensely because she felt more prepared to handle things thrown at her on the road.

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Lmao they FINALLY fired my awful manager. They made our terrible assistant manager acting manager and didnt make me acting assistant. Theyd literally rather have no one than me.

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Wow. Not sure what made me look this up but apparently its recomended to wait 1½ years between having children.

This is because it can cause complications like pre-term birth and low birth weight which it turn can cause cerebral palsy, adhd, anxiety, depression, asthma, crooked teeth, hearing loss, NEC, and ROP.

Idk I just know a few women getting pregnant right now who are doing like 13 months and fewer between kids and wow. Do they even know that?

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Hearing from my other homeschool survivor friend always cheers me up.

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Is she saying cadillac or как дела?

bentley girl bad ending (x)

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I also texted a friend of mine to come do trivia tonight like he used to before we were on opposite schedules. I got the right night off and hit him and his gf up and they both ignored me.

Was also trying to be humorous to my trivia team about my homeschool mother relying on edutainment video games to teach me and saw my "friends" roll their eyes.

#like im so alone rn lol

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Sat thru trivia with a bunch of pride questions and the question was "within two years when was the original gilbert baker flag made?" and this dude next to me rolls his eyes and goes "how is there even a creator for stripes of equal size in rainbow colors?" Like heterosexuals are still fucked up about the rainbow nearly 50 years later.

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The Lover by Marguerite Duras

100 Fiction Books to Read Before You Die

The Namesake by Jhumpa Lahiri

The Book of Margery Kempe by Margery Kempe

The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison

A Small Place by Jamaica Kincaid

The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy

Frankenstein by Mary Shelley

We Need to Talk About Kevin by Lionel Shriver

The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie by Muriel Sparks

The Girl by Meridel Le Sueur

The Kitchen God's Wife by Amy Tan

The Secret History by Donna Tartt

The Color Purple by Alice Walker

The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver

Veronica by Mary Gaitskill

Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Alias Grace by Margaret Atwood

Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte

The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath

Mrs. Dalloway by Virginia Woolf

Kindred by Octavia Butler

Middlemarch by George Eliot

Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen

To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee

Uncle Tom's Cabin by Harriet Beecher Stowe

Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston

Passing by Nella Larson

The Left Hand of Darkness by Ursula K. Le Guin

Brideshead Revisited by Evelyn Waugh

Death Comes for the Archbishop by Willa Cather

Play it as it Lays by Joan Didion

The House of Spirits by Isabel Allende

Wuthering Heights Emily Bronte

Little Women by Louisa May Alcott

White Teeth by Zadie Smith

The Power by Naomi Alderman

The Street by Ann Petry

The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton

Mary Barton by Elizabeth Gaskill

An American Marriage by Tayari Jones

Small Island by Andrea Levy

The Idiot by Elif Batuman

The Outsiders by S. E. Hinton

The Price of Salt/Carol by Patricia Highsmith

Room by Emma Donoghue

The Sea, The Sea by Iris Murdoch

Garden of Earthly Delights by Joyce Carol Oates

Wide Sargasso Sea by Jean Rhys

Wise Blood by Flannery O Conner

Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn

Picnic at Hanging Rock by Joan Lindsey

Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier

Salt to the Sea by Ruta Sepetys

Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand

The Awakening by Kate Chopin

Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe by Fannie Flagg

The House on Mango Street by Sandra Cisneros

The Well of Loneliness by Radclyffe Hall

House of Incest by Anaïs Nin

The Mandarins by Simone de Beauvoir

The Lottery by Shirley Jackson

A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara

Corregidora by Gayl Jones

Whose Names are Unknown by Sanora Babb

Half of a Yellow Sun by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

The Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood

See Now Then by Jamaica Kincaid

The Lowland by Jhumpa Lahiri

Beloved by Toni Morrison

The Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan

The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt

Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver

The Ministry of Utmost Happiness by Arundhati Roy

To the Lighthouse by Virginia Woolf

My Antonia by Willa Cather

Democracy by Joan Didion

Black Water by Joyce Carol Oates

The Violent Bear it Away by Flannery O Connor

Sharp Objects by Gillian Flynn

My Cousin Rachel by Daphne du Maurier

The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand

I Must Betray You be Ruta Sepetys

The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson

The Mare by Mary Gaitskill

City of Beasts by Isabel Allende

Fledgling by Octavia Butler

A Wizard of Earthsea by Ursula Le Guin

The First Bad Man by Miranda July

Sense and Sensibility by Jane Austen

Moses, Man of the Mountain by Zora Neale Hurston

Disobedience by Naomi Alderman

Quicksand by Nella Larsen

The Narrows by Ann Petry

The Blood of Others by Simone de Beauvoir

Under the Sea by Rachel Carson

Go Set a Watchman by Harper Lee

Under the Net by Iris Murdoch

The Birdcatcher by Gayl Jones

Desert of the Heart by Jane Rule

In the Time of the Butterflies by Julia Alvarez

The Memory Police by Yōko Ogawa

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#or lit. anything by her

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I cant watch bg3 content on youtube because everyone puts the female characters in revolting modded outfits.

Just saw Laezel with breasts like volleyballs protruding off her body. Like fucking leave that frog alone.

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Tell me why my manager texting me 30 mins after his shift starts asking me to cover for him.

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Actually Im not sure feminism has materially improved my life. I started dressing for comfort, and my employee "lost respect" for me, and I got demoted. Im now accutely aware that no matter where I go, no matter what I do, I have to work twice as hard as my male coworkers to get essentially no where. If I work in a female domimated field I will never be paid. If I work in a male one Im subject to harassment and no promotions. Idk. I think all feminism did was say "oh your boyfriend shouldnt have abused you." I even lost all my friends talking about feminism

I just want to kill myself more than ever. All Ill ever be is a failure.

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rn i really like pickling and marinating and cold brewing. like you do something and forget about it for some hours/days and now you've got yourself a reward for your patience. this isn't supposed to be deep

#real