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I got to do some shadow work and improve. There are ugly things about my character I’m not feeling that no one nor I deserve. Got to get it together.

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I wouldn't recommend any woman to get in a relationship if they haven't first established themselves economically. Women become easier targets for abuse and control when they lack the resources to provide for and sustain themselves. The last thing you want is to invest your time in a man, become vulnerable and open up to him, only for him to use that to his leverage to belittle you and make you his servant.

Create something of your own, build a name for yourself first, that way you'll be able to date the man you truly want, not the one you need. You'll be able to dictate when/if to leave at your own say without being tied to or dependant on him.

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”James Earl Ray did NOT kill Dr. King”

~Judge Joe Brown

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For example Frederick Douglas’ wife did so much for his ungrateful ass. She helped him get on his feet, gave him her last name, and supported him financially and took care of house and home. And in return was does this nigga do? He lets white abolitionists tear her down and treat her like a slave in HER HOUSE. Moved two bitches into HER HOUSE over a span of 20 years. Belittles her for being illiterate while using HER MONEY. Not even in death does she get the respect she deserves. His last wife is more recognized as being apart of his life than she was. Just trash. And y'all still normalize that shit as if it’s a black woman’s job to struggle. Fuck that.

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If you have ever felt nervous about what people think about you or have had Social Anxiety I 100% on my mama suggest the podcast episode “UnF*ck Your Brain” it’s “Episode 55: Social Anxiety”! It’s by Kara Loewentheil.

I listened on Spotify, she has other places where she’s posted too!

Honestly, you don’t even need to have major social anxiety! It’ll open your eyes about opinions and what other people are thinking about you… which *spoiler alert* there’s a big HUGE change they’re not!

To keep it short, she described it as ‘what we fear people are thinking negatively about us are just our own insecurities being projected’. It’s what we think of OURSELVES. You never stress that someone will think a quality you perceive as positive about yourself is being negatively thought about in someone’s mind. Only qualities you think are negative about yourself.

Ex) I NEVER think someone thinks I’m too short, because I’m 5’2 and I do not perceive my height of 5’2 as a negative quality about myself. BUT!When my nails aren’t done, I start feeling that people are judging the manicure upkeep of my hands. I believe they are thinking negatively of my groomimg habits, because I PERCIEVE MY NAILS NOT BEING FRESHLY MANICURED AS A SELF NEGATIVE. People have their own lives/problems and probably won’t give my nails a 2 second thought and there are people who think 5’2 is too short.

Afterward, she tells you how to get over the fact that, yeah, there are times where people are judgey because humans judge… its what we do. But human qualities are subjective and opinions aren’t facts. Humans perceive other humans from their own pre conceived notions. “You can be the most delicious peach in the world and there will still be someone who doesn’t like peaches”.

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Something that really irks me is people telling you what to do with your money without knowing your financial situation. This week alone someone told me, while I was complaining about my student loans, that they heard of people paying theirs off in 2 to 3 years. Like I can get rid of 30k + just like that. And it was my supervisor, who knows what little I make, who told me this. And someone now is telling me to own 2 cars just in case something happens to one of them. All this talking and no one is putting up any money for this shit.

#money #finances

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Did Ruth Bader Ginsburg effectively use girl power when she let a gas pipeline through the Appalachian Trail.

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HORROR FILMS IN THE 2010′S: Every decade of horror has a different tone and feeling to it. Things come and go. Tastes change. It is very possible that in 20 years we will feel nostalgia for the 2010s the same way we feel nostalgia for the 1980s. However, what is more likely is that, like the 80s, the era of horror we’re living in now will reverberate. It will continue on. It will remain ever-relevant to us as audiences because, quite frankly, we will keep coming back to the films we’re watching now. Because quality films stay alive. Long live the 2010s — a new age of Gods and Monsters. (source)

Get Out (2017) dir. Jordan Peele The Cabin in the Woods (2011) dir. Drew Goddard The Conjuring (2013) dir. James Wan Us (2019) dir. Jordan Peele Hereditary (2018) dir. Ari Aster It Follows (2014) dir. David Robert Mitchell The Witch (2015) dir. Robert Eggers It (2017) dir. Andy Muschietti

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Y’all, I just don’t when things will safe and when we will live in a post pandemic country (I’m speaking for the US since I live here). It’s just not taken seriously and I say that as a person who works in healthcare. Whole ass professionals don’t believe it’s real. I’m sitting here like “pandemics are not new to humans, why can’t it be real?” They swear after the election it’s all gonna be mysteriously be over. Like all these preventable deaths were a hoax. Help.

#covid 19

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y’all not shitting on Tory Lanez enough for me & these rappers are way too quiet

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Fuck Tory Lanez.

Fuck Trey Songz.

Fuck Russell Simmons.

Fuck Talib Kweli.

Fuck 50 Cent.

Fuck Chris Brown.

Fuck R Kelly.

Fuck Nas.

Fuck Dr Luke.

Fuck every man in the industry who’s an abusive piece of shit and who continie to get away with their shit because their victims are black women and they are protected by an industry and a culture where black women are seen as sub human.

And to the black women who partake in defending and protecting abusers and victim blame, fuck you too.

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Whooo chile