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suitchuck again?

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Ok I'll explain the joke:

If I say a sentence like "I'm going out clubbing, I wonder if I'll meet my boyfriend there" there's an ambiguity in what I mean the term "boyfriend." I could be referring to a particular person who is already my de re boyfriend, who may or may not have decided to also head out to the club. Or I could be wondering whether I'll meet a de dicto charming stranger who I'll hit it off with and will end up becoming my boyfriend.

So the "joke" in the original post is that the speaker (the de re boyfriend) in the original post is longing after the idea of having a boyfriend and wants to be in a relationship with "a boyfriend" de dicto but doesn't have a particular person in mind. And if instead you took the actual question literally the answer would be "no, because you can't date an unspecified person"

can a de dicto boyfriend and a de re boyfriend ever really make it work out

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can a de dicto boyfriend and a de re boyfriend ever really make it work out

#brain noise

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underwaterr

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commission

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NOT A COQUETTE LANA DEL REY ALBERT EINSTEIN EDIT

#babygirl

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heck

#laugh rule

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‘WHERE are the manic pixie dream BOYS?’ well, ur not gonna like it, but mostly in hallmark christmas movies

#hehe i've been called this before #not in a trad christian rural wet dream way though more in an “undiagnosed” sort of way

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Zoroastrianism claimed "fire" and things still didn't work out so I think they might have just been doomed by the narrative.

It's funny that the existence of yoga means that certain stretches are inherently Hindu. Zoroastrianism should've claimed jogging, maybe they'd still be a major religion

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"a painting showing a tunnel with an animal in it and the other piece in front"

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one aspect of this which i think about a lot is the literalization of many online millennials. this is something we all have noticed i'm sure. it's like the opposite of irony-poisoning... literal-poisoning. it makes one very unfunny, obviously, but this is another aspect

it isn't just the therapy-speak thing, it's the idea that it is 'dangerous' or potentially problematic to leave anything unsaid or implicit. one other example that comes to mind is those 'guides' on consensual sex that were big in like, 2011-2015, which advised you to stop and ask your partner verbally before doing literally anything during sex.

obviously i'm not anti-talking during sex... some things should be discussed before they happen, sometimes feedback is necessary, sometimes requests are made... but if you've had sex you know that it would be unpleasant, strange and unsexy to halt and ask permission for every touch. and it would be unnecessary, because there's so much nonverbal communication going on, and if you have the empathy of even a brick, it's usually easy to read

this gives me the same vibe. it isn't the job of people getting married to word their vows with exit clauses just in case. it is the job of the state to provide cheap, easy, no-fault divorce. people generally get married because they're madly in love with someone and think they will spend the rest of their lives with them. of course, normal sane people are able to hold in their head simultaneously the idea that shit happens and this marriage might end in divorce and not death, as around a third of US marriages do.

but it's not romantic to say that. no one who's genuinely in love wants to fucking say that at their WEDDING. we all know that! people get divorced! some things can be left unsaid! not every moment of our lives has to be this ridiculous slog of explicitization

and suggesting we all explicitize everything kind of implies a lack of theory of mind for others. This is something i notice often from people who are intellectual in some ways but low on common sense and/or social skills, and have gotten caught up in this literalized culture of constant yapping and oversharing - they start to think other people are bumbling buffoon NPCs. They think anyone who doesn't post to social media in the style of a very explicit, therapized internal monologue doesn't actually have one. They think people who keep their mouths tactically shut about certain things didn't notice that thing at all. They think tact and propriety and earnestness are evidence of gormless stupidity. They think wedding vows are supposed to sound like your therapist is selling you car insurance.

#yeah the “do you know you can just wear things” as a response to “we need to bring this back” was an example of this

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NGE is about a lot of things. Big robots. Sex. Bad parenting. The impossibility of ever truly understanding yourself, let alone another human being. Christian aesthetics. Owning a penguin.

But more than anything it's about how hard it is to be 14

#travelling back to 2007 to tell my past self about the hedgehogs #also maybe the gender thing i guess

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The action in Camus's L'Étranger (1942) hinges upon the idea that being an atheist in interwar period France makes you even more persecuted and marginalized than an Algerian.

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#yeah

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Marxists who get really into it are basically just the world's lamest Christians.

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people born in 24 Are 2000 now

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well played @official-kircheis