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Celebrating the day we tied it all together… Happy Anniversary, my love…❤️ “When love comes home, it lights a fire in the darkest night and warms me in my soul. When love comes home, there will be peace that falls upon this heart. When love comes home.” -M. English (at Sedona, Arizona) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cp8Xcv6JsYO/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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A single sentence can change the course of someone's life, as was the case for me when my mentor unleashed a torrent of wisdom that shook me to my core. I felt exposed and vulnerable. She had seen right through me! As the shock subsided and her words sank in, I realized that she had given me a precious gift: The permission to take up space,to be seen,to be imperfect,and to share myself generously with the world. This generosity, she reminded me, wasn't just about grand gestures, but also about the small and quiet moments,full bodied expression,and self-care.It was about being present,honest,and true to ourselves,and allowing ourselves to be seen in all our beauty AND our messiness. Her words stayed with me long after our 2 year mentorship ended.They have been a source of comfort,strength,and inspiration,reminding me that generosity is not just a virtue,but a way of living and being. I am struck by their relevance in today's world. We live in a culture that often values success,achievement,and productivity over generosity,compassion,and self-care.We're told to hustle,to grind,to push through our pain and exhaustion,to put ourselves last in the pursuit of our goals and dreams. What if we shifted our focus from doing to being,from achieving to giving,from perfection to authenticity? What if we embraced the power of vulnerability,of opening ourselves up to others,of sharing our stories, struggles, triumphs with generosity and grace? Saying yes to life, even when it is messy,uncertain and scary. How generous are you willing to be?Will you share yourself with us, with the world, with all your imperfections and vulnerabilities and beauty?Will you take up space, spread your wings, and dance with all the joy and sorrow and wonder of this fleeting life? I dare you to say yes. I dare you to meet me here in this generosity, to let your heart be opened and your spirit be moved, to embrace the power of words and the beauty of connection. I meet you here, with all my being, and I am grateful for the gift of my mentor's fierce love and wisdom that continues to inspire and guide me to this day. . . . #sakredshesisterhood #feminineleadership #womenswork #flowstate (at Saint Petersburg, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpleIPYsPGF/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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I have a client who is finalizing her divorce today. She said it feels like she is going to her funeral. I get that... The divorce is not of her choosing, so it is a day (and a season) of grief. And liberation. We talked for a moment after we prayed and I mentioned that in many ways this is a death. A death to her former self- the self that allowed her to be in bondage for many, many years. When something dies, it makes way for a birth and Creator makes all things amazing. We just have to trust and let go. Simply but not easy. This is an initiation into a new way of life if you choose to accept the invitation. 📧 Feel all the feels, love. Feel them at your core... And, welcome to your new life, sweet friend! The world needs more of THIS new you. . . . .#sakredshesisterhood #womeninbusiness #relationshipadvice #womenentrepreneurs #feminineleadership #feminineembodiment #divorcesupport #resignationletter #movementismedicine (at Palmetto, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpVIkSFM9pg/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#sakredshesisterhood #womeninbusiness #relationshipadvice #womenentrepreneurs #feminineleadership #feminineembodiment #divorcesupport #resignationletter #movementismedicine

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I have a client who is finalizing her divorce today. She said it feels like she is going to her funeral. I get that... The divorce is not of her choosing, so it is a day (and a season) of grief. And liberation. We talked for a moment after we prayed and I mentioned that in many ways this is a death. A death to her former self- the self that allowed her to be in bondage for many, many years. When something dies, it makes way for a birth and Creator makes all things amazing. We just have to trust and let go. Simply but not easy. This is an initiation into a new way of life if you choose to accept the invitation. 📧 Feel all the feels, love. Feel them at your core... And, welcome to your new life, sweet friend! The world needs more of THIS new you. . . . .#sakredshesisterhood #womeninbusiness #relationshipadvice #womenentrepreneurs #feminineleadership #feminineembodiment #divorcesupport #resignationletter #movementismedicine (at Palmetto, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpVIZL_MEMu/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#sakredshesisterhood #womeninbusiness #relationshipadvice #womenentrepreneurs #feminineleadership #feminineembodiment #divorcesupport #resignationletter #movementismedicine

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My life changed when I got radically honest and radically responsible about what was happening in my life. All of it. The ugly parts. The parts that people saw and the ones no one knew. EVERYTHING. It didn't happen in an instant. It didn't mean I didn't sometime fall back into being the victim. With practice though I owned it all. When you own it you alchemize it. It allows you to come from a place a power. A place of possibility. A place of sovereignty. Life happens. There is no way to escape the waves that come with being a human. When you believe that you can handle it, that God has your back, that everything is figureoutable you will come from a completely different place. Claim the power that is your God given right. Know that you can design the life of your dreams when you start by believing you can. . . . #sakredshesisterhood #feminineleadership #feminineembodiment #relationshipcoach #relationshiptoself #womenswork #lovenotestoyourself #sovereignty #sisterhoodovercompetition (at Palmetto, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CpSzj3RJxzA/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#sakredshesisterhood #feminineleadership #feminineembodiment #relationshipcoach #relationshiptoself #womenswork #lovenotestoyourself #sovereignty #sisterhoodovercompetition

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Dating Intentionally: I just wrapped up a call with a 1:1 client who is dating again after a long term marriage and heart wrenching break up. It’s beautiful to experience how sovereign she is in this process as we have been working on shifting who she is subconsciously attracted to from a place of fullness. See, we often repeat cycles over & over because we keep our heads in the metaphorical sand refusing to take a long honest look at ourselves. The thing about a blind spot is you can’t see it. You don’t know it’s there. And the things you don’t know you don’t know, you can’t really do much about can you? Discerning an old pattern from a new start is partly rooted in the subtle feelings you get around someone. If you’re out to lunch & out of your body (aka not present- which includes overthinking, worrying, anxiety, over analyzing, running a constant commentary in your mind, judging, criticizing etc), you’re not present enough to catch the subtleties that guide the dating process. A lack of presence paired with a lack of self awareness about your own habits/patterns/blocks is what almost guarantees a repeat pattern with a new person. Also, if we’re chasing chemistry over soulful alignment we’re going to keep meeting the same relational challenges with a new person. People get all twisted about this, so let’s be clear I’m not saying you shouldn’t have chemistry with your person. But if it’s the only thing you have it’s just not going to go anywhere deep or fulfilling. You will absolutely be attracted to a person you have soulful alignment with, AND you’ll also have deep respect and appreciation for all the other aspects of them that make them them. From this place you can set a pace that feels good and grounding for BOTH people and explore the experience of physical and emotional intimacy when it’s most aligned instead of using it as a bargaining chip for commitment. 👉🏼Want to know more about how to date intentionally? Let’s chat: Send me a DM or http://quick.callwithSandy.com . . . #sakredshesisterhood #datingcoach #relationshipcoach #womenswork #conversationstarters #embodimentpractice #revealyourbeauty #feminineleadership (at Palmetto, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/Co7Wi_xMOwz/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#sakredshesisterhood #datingcoach #relationshipcoach #womenswork #conversationstarters #embodimentpractice #revealyourbeauty #feminineleadership

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Have you caught yourself defending your value to someone? I can remember pleading my case to a partner to see my worth. Defending myself against their accusations. Trying to fight the gaslighting. Trying to prove I was enough. More than enough. I closed the case on my worth years ago. It is a done deal and no one will hear me argue it ever again. Ready to close yours? You are worthy and nothing. Not a damn thing will change this! . . . #sakredshesisterhood (at Palmetto, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CoubAxlukYP/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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This time of year can be one that triggers if you are focused on finding love and keeping love. Basically, the pain comes from focusing on the lack versus the abundance that already lives within you (and relationships in general). As my mentor invited me to, I’m also inviting you: ‘Look beyond what you are told love is. Open your eyes. Do not force things to happen, do not try to make things happen. Be still and realize there is only love in this world. The way you can get to know love is by simply being with it. Simply be with the hardships. Fall in love with the hardships. Simply be with the obstacles. Fall in love with the obstacles. Simply be with what is. Fall in love with what is. Simply be with love. Fall in love with love. Simply be with God in the pause. Fall in love with God within your self. Simply be with your self. Fall in love with your self. Everything and everyone you see. It is all you. It has always been you. Love.’ In deep devotion, Sandy 💋 . . . #sakredshesisterhood (at Palmetto, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/ConUTPUJ2Sx/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Who is speaking life into you? My beautiful synchronicity soul sister sent this to me in the middle of the night 6 years ago..💕 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼 Dear wonderful YOU, I hope his attention span is as long as every word that exits your mouth your heart. I hope that he hears your truth and meets it with gratitude for your vulnerability. I hope he loves you in a way you didn’t know love existed. For you have only seen love in other places with shaky ground that fell beneath your hopeful feet. This is who I hope for you— Because you are worthy of being loved by a heart so bright the sun blushes in admiration. Xoxo-❤️ . . . . #sakredshesisterhood #lovenotes #feminineembodiment (at Saint Petersburg, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CoSY6RIuY6z/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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The inability to receive support from others is a trauma response. “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning is a survival tactic. You needed it to shield your heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you. From the parent who was absent and abandoned you by choice or the parent who was never home from working three jobs to feed and house you. From the lovers who offered sexual intimacy but never offered a safe haven that honored your heart. From the friendships and family who ALWAYS took more than they ever gave From all the situations when someone told you “we’re in this together” or “I got you” then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when shit got real, leaving you to handle your part and their part, too. From all the lies and all the betrayals. You learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Or that you could trust people, but only up to a certain point. Extreme-independence is a trust issue. If I don’t put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, I won’t have to be disappointed when they don’t show up for me, or when they drop the ball... You may even have been intentionally taught this protection strategy by generations of hurt ancestors who came before you. You don’t trust yourself, either, to choose people. To trust is to hope, to trust is to be vulnerable. “Never again,” you vow. But no matter how you dress it up and display it proudly to make it seem like this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth, it’s your wounded, scarred, the broken heart behind a protective brick wall. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either. It’s a trauma response. The good news is trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed. You are worthy of having support. Of having a true partnership. Of having your heart held.Of being cherished. Of having someone say, “You rest. I got this.” Delivering on that promise you are worthy to receive. You don’t have to prove it. You don’t have to bargain for it. You don’t have to beg for it. Simply because you exist. -Jamila White (at Saint Petersburg, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CoMQCIFOXV4/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Proverbs 4:23 tells us, “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” Guarding our heart means we have to first guard our mind. Because what the mind thinks influences how the heart feels. If our thoughts are cold and bitter, then you can guarantee our hearts will eventually grow cold and bitter, too. Life is not just what we make it, but what we choose to focus on. If you’re like me, it’s tempting to cop an attitude, complain or be negative when life doesn’t go your way. But we don’t have to complain or focus on the negatives, because we’ve been given a choice. And that choice is to instead turn our eyes whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable (Philippians 4:8). It’s the choice we make when we need to have a better perspective (or a total attitude adjustment). Try this exercise to see what I mean. I’ll use my disdain for winter as an example): Just take the components of Philippians 4:8 and write out a positive thing to focus on for each category. WHATEVER IS … TRUE: Winter won't last forever and soon I'll be outside again. NOBLE: Winter is an opportunity for me to be reminded of how amazing my husband is. He drops me off nearly everywhere we go! RIGHT: Winter is a time to grow even closer to God, because more time inside means more chances to read the Word. PURE: I might not like snow, but it's a beautiful reminder of what Jesus did for us on the cross — He washed our sins white as snow! LOVELY:The weather outside is frightful, but with my space heater the weather inside is perfect for writing. ADMIRABLE: Winter brings with it my two favorite holidays. And suddenly, winter doesn't seem all that bad! This is how we give ourselves a better perspective and an overall attitude adjustment. This is how we keep our hearts from growing cold and bitter. I hope this exercise encourages you, and I hope you’ll make it a part of your daily life. We can feel negative emotions, but we don’t have to become a slave to them. Move them thru your body... You will experience the world with more depth.❤️❤️ (at World Equestrian Center - Ocala) https://www.instagram.com/p/CoCrpb2uswm/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Is there ever a part of you that wants to be free from what can feel like the “shackles of daily life”? The part of you that's fed up with putting your happy face “on” to make someone else feel better. And, just wants to show up with hair a little knotted and unkempt. ⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The woman in you that is sick and tired of people-pleasing. Is ready to say, NO! Or maybe to say, YES! Is not afraid: To get dirty. To get fierce. To be a little messy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Well, what if I tell you that she lives in all of us. She is wild. An open hearted, expressive “hot mess”. Gutteral and raw. Untamed at her core. Proud of her giving, loving heart. And understands she is wonderfully and perfectly made! Sound intriguing? If you would like a place to call home, Where there is no shame or judgement for acknowledging that sometimes we just have to “go wild” to come back to home, Come over to my FREE online community- 🌱🌱🌱🌱🌱🌱🌱🌱🌱The SakredShe Society https://bit.ly/39qn1Hf (Link BIO) And if you are already there, feel free to forward and share with other friends that may be craving some coming undone...😉 . . . #sakredshesisterhood #womensupportingwomen #embodiment #womenempowerment #feminineenergy #sisterhoodovercompetition #cometogether (at The Collective St. Pete) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cn9vAnbufBN/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#sakredshesisterhood #womensupportingwomen #embodiment #womenempowerment #feminineenergy #sisterhoodovercompetition #cometogether

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Reignite your relationship.👇🏼👇🏼 Even when it feels as if you only have memories of “what was”. To reignite the passion, it helps to revisit the beginning. And give yourself permission for yearning for what was and what can be! While you can’t expect that fuzzy sensation to last forever, you can revisit the places where the butterflies started. The beginning stages of a relationship are marked by powerful feelings of infatuation, fantasies, and desire. I have plenty of tips on how to reignite your relationship, but it starts with you. How can you love YOURSELF even more? And how can you view your partner thru the eyes of the Divine? And show up for the relationship you desire and not the one you may be in? For 90 days show up as that partner who falls in love with their soul versus the role that you have held them in. Can you show up for the relationship you desire versus the one you are in? It’s easier than you think… Want some assistance? Link in bio.🌿 . . . #sakredshesisterhood #couplescoaching #womenswork #womenscoaching #relationshipgoals #relationshipadvice (at Saint Petersburg, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cn0LfiWsoRg/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Now, that I got your attention…🤭 Contrary to popular belief, there are people who think the problems in the world are because of too MUCH masculinity - and one way they to fix that is to emasculate men. 😳 That’s a lame and toxic way to bring something back into balance. We don’t need fewer results produced in the world. We need boldness and vulnerability. There are still something like 18,000 children that died today from hunger and neglect, half the world is homeless, a huge percentage doesn’t have clean water, and slavery still exists. We don’t need fewer results, we need bigger results. We don’t need less masculinity to balance it out, we need more femininity. We need more of the Sakred Feminine. More open hearted queen energy. Being a Queen is not a luxury, it is an imperative. 👑 It is missing in our culture, and it is missing in our world. What are your thoughts on cultivating more of the Sakred Feminine instead of us focusing solely on cutting the balls off of ALL of masculinity? (First picture taken at our friend @elie.bedran.39 bday “1000 nights of Elie” party. . . . #sakredshesisterhood #embodiedmovement #feminineembodiment #masculineembodiment #embodimentpractice (at Tampa, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CnxlGu9JD1X/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#sakredshesisterhood #embodiedmovement #feminineembodiment #masculineembodiment #embodimentpractice

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What is costing you your peace? My peace is one of my most prized possessions and I protect it like a mother protects her child. It does not mean that my peace is never disturbed. It just means that I am very clear when it is out of balance. What would it mean for you to live a life that felt safe? A life that felt calm? A life that felt on your terms? When I found out I could create a life of my own design, I couldn't wait to share with other women so they do could feel what I felt . This work is potent because it transforms. (at Palmetto, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CnjfgjoO4CB/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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I work with single women and couples. Many of my single women are healing to manifest a relationship that fulfills them to their core. Then there are my women in relationship who are looking to resurrect their relationship, deepen it, or maybe even leave it. What space resonates with you? Checking in with your relationship and nurturing it is pivotal to its health and longevity. It is a living breathing entity. Have you set it to forget it? Relationships need to be fed or they die. Check in with yours. Where can you be more present? Where can you be more vulnerable? Where can you be more intentional? Creating mindfulness around your relationship, carving out quality time with just the two of you, and having meaningful communication around what matters will make a difference in your union. When you set the intention to find the gaps in your relationship and work on them together, you will find it will get easier and easier. If you are curious about either 1:1 Coaching or Couples Coaching with John and I, we would love to chat with you. Schedule a call with me and let's talk possibility... http://quick.callwithsandy.com (at Saint Petersburg, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/CnhobeMJ6jN/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Sound familiar? I work with single women and couples. Many of my single women are healing to manifest a relationship that fulfills them to their core. Then there are my women in relationship who are looking to resurrect their relationship, deepen it, or maybe even leave it. What space resonates with you? Checking in with your relationship and nurturing it is pivotal to its health and longevity. It is a living breathing entity. Have you set it to forget it? Relationships need to be fed or they die. Check in with yours. Where can you be more present? Where can you be more vulnerable? Where can you be more `I work with single women and couples. Many of my single women are healing to manifest a relationship that fulfills them to their core. Then there are my women in relationship who are looking to resurrect their relationship, deepen it, or maybe even leave it. What space resonates with you? Checking in with your relationship and nurturing it is pivotal to its health and longevity. It is a living breathing entity. Have you set it to forget it? Relationships need to be fed or they die. Check in with yours. Where can you be more present? Where can you be more vulnerable? Where can you be more intentional? Creating mindfulness around your relationship, carving out quality time with just the two of you, and having meaningful communication around what matters will make a difference in your union. When you set the intention to find the gaps in your relationship and work on them together, you will find it will get easier and easier. If you are curious about either 1:1 Coaching or Couples Coaching with John and I, we would love to chat with you. Schedule a call with me and let's talk possibility... http://quick.callwithsandy.com (at Snell Isle) https://www.instagram.com/p/CnhIBqau-w7/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=