#and it's frustrating

[redysetdare]

I'm an "AroAce Stereotype" I'm Romance averse/Repulsed> I'm Sex repulsed I'm non-partnering I hate the idea of marriage in all forms I don't want a QPR at all I'm loveless I'm someone who gets uncomfortable at sexual talk and sex jokes I'm someone who often has innuendos or sexual concept fly over my head. I'm someone who can't tell when someone is flirting with me I'm someone who can't pick up on romantic or sexual tension I'm someone who finds "shipping" to be annoying I'm someone who says "They just seem like friends to me" I'm someone who believed that attraction could be turned on or off I'm someone who can't make sense of romance at all and cant figure out what makes it different from every other relationship. I'm someone who thinks romance is stupid and sex is gross and I don't understand the big deal everyone makes about it I'm someone who never was upset to find out I was AroAce but rather relieved as I have a genuine fear of being stuck in a romantic relationship that i do not want. In all cases I am not an AroAce who can be considered "normal" by the standards of allo society.

I'm not just a stereotype for you to shit on. I'm not the reason aphobes are aphobic I'm not a problem that you need to erase and refute to be accepted by allos. I'm not an experience that you and ignore as "not really how aspec people are" just because You are not part of it. Stop leaving us behind. Stop throwing us under the bus. We deserve support too. We deserve to not be demonized and shunned because we're an "stereotype". We are not the problem. We are not a problem to be fixed. start fighting aphobes on their logic instead of trying to make up for our existence.

#text #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #aroace #arospec #acespec #aspec #mostly talking abt aroace experience because thats me #but this can go for other aspec identities too #aphobia #im just tired of other aspec people agreeing with the oppressors that certain experiences are wrong #and promising that THEY aren't like that THEY are normal and shouldn't be ridiculed #but never do anything to protect the rest of us from ridicule #because really they just want to protect their experience they dont care about the wider community #and it's frustrating #because we should all be supporting each other because thats how things get better #if we tell aphobes there are exceptions then suddenly all aspec people can become an exception #because they dont care about us being socially acceptable aspecs they care about us not being aspec period #they dont want us to exist because then they have to question their world view and that dont like doing that #so they'll play nice with the ones they can pretend are normal before they decide that you're not good enough either

[youngroyals-stuff]

#those good old days #don't remind me #only promo we get now is Omar occasionally posting something #and it's frustrating #did y'all see the promo Heartstoper gets #thay litts started filming s3 hs so fast #like wtf dude #wilmon #young royals #young royals season 3 #prince wilhelm #wilhelm x simon #edvin ryding #simon eriksson #omar and edvin #prince willhelm #prince will #heartstopper #i hope you have a nice christmas

[eleminim]

You know, just pass...

#not to complain but #idk about you but I've been thinking #I'm afraid of getting older #day by day #and having to act like an adult and mature #without experiencing any 'crazy' thing #i mean doing any childish thing and being excused due ti my age #i mean I can't afford that anymore #and it's frustrating #and upsetting #and sad #and draining #eleminim #ik it may not be worth it but #again

[theroundbartable]

Sometimes I question whether or not I'm ace, and then my friends tries to explain a series to me and refers to this character as "the one with the sexy eyes" and my brain short cirquits, because wtf is that supposed to mean?

Like... It's eyes. What?

Her: but they are brighter than that of the other guy.

Me: ...

Her: you'll know when you see it.

Me: *watches two seasons of the series* how tf did she even see the eye colors? *Zooms in* ...

Me: i don't know what I expected.

#ace #look #i learned aesthetics through art and art only #which means i look for symmetry and tiny “flaws” in design #on the technical attractiveness level #all characters of this show should be on the same Level #i really don't get it #i know not all aces have this problem #but i do #and it's frustrating #because i can't work with simple adjectives #like beautiful #or sexy pretty and also ugly and stuff #it's so hard #i learn which characters are pretty and why through other people's fanfiction #i have eyes but no opinions

[bonefall]

Doesn't Shaded Moss's sister survive and become Shadowstar? I think she has kits too, or Rainswept Flower had a brother because he was Shadowstar's first deputy.

Anon I'm sorry to tell you that Shaded Moss is not related to the Shadow family in any way, and also the entire Shadow family ALSO died out with the death of Tall Shadow, her brother Moon Shadow, and his son Sun Shadow.

There are two separate families at play here and both of them are extinct.

#I mean it it's BAD #They kill off characters so carelessly that they kill off practically all the initial bloodlines #Which is one of the reasons im really not receptive to the sentiment 'DOTC is exciting! At least people die!' #Like #Who are they killing off? Are their deaths good? Do they complete arcs or leave lasting impacts on the main cast? #Usually the answer is no #And it's frustrating #Unless it's clear sky in which case everyone's deaths are justifications for his crummy actions #No deeper reflection or growth required he was just 'Being Protective Because He Lost So Much :(' #I get angyyy

[akorah]

Me: Forgets why I'm avoiding tumblr

Tumblr: Has pornbot spam in all of my followed tags

Me: Report 3 and that's my naked people tolerance for the next two days

#personal thoughts #with tumblr cutting staff this is just going to get worse #and it's frustrating

[pianoisnotfortheweakofheart]

Hey, do you ever think about that one song you spent years learning, and could once play with your eyes closed, and now you can't even remember how it starts?

#cause I do #and it's frustrating #I should've #kept up with it #but I didn't #piano rants #piano #other instruments

[femmespoiled]

I find myself in a weird position sometimes, because I know I'm a poc, but sometimes I'm afraid of how I'm perceived and that people don't think I am which happens a surprising amount, and it makes me feel insecure participating in discussions, because it's like can you see me in this group with you too?

#I'm just rambling about my own complexities #if my mom ever heard me doubting my blackness and my colour she'd be so mad #but over and over I'm told all of the things I'm not #and it's frustrating #because if i participate i don't know if you'll discount me and just think I'm speaking out of place

[normal-with-adhd-is-a-joke]

the knowledge that having a routine of regularly visiting places is the only way to naturally make friends vs the terror of being a wheelchair user who is a visibly queer woman and knowing that having a routine makes you more vulnerable to being attacked.

#when I move I want to have a routine of getting coffee or something in the same place every week #but like it's reasonably not safe #and it's frustrating

[louistthegreatest]

I’m sorry but people shouldn’t be mad at the fan’s leaving because well it’s frustrating to be a louis fan,same shit different day etc so obviously people will get annoyed and frustrated and leave

The thing is, in the latest days I have seen a few posts of people leaving because the fandom is making their experience very uncomfortable. They are not leaving because of Louis. And it is sad to see it...

Of course that fans are entitled to be mad at Louis and his team because the lack of promo when we are all expending our time doing the promo they should be doing and people can rant all they want about what makes them mad but I guess for some people it's too much negativity and I also understand that because I myself have to leave Tumblr for a while when this happens since Louis and his music are my scape to a happy place and reading 25 consecutive posts about how Louis is lazy and doesn't want to promote his music (which I do not agree) is not what I want when I come here to have a break from my shitty life...

To me it's a 50/50 here. I understand fans being mad but also I understand fans thinking other fans are ruining the experience for them.

I don't know what is going on, no one in the fandoms really knows, but as I have said before, something is quite fucked up when Louis is not promoting his own album...

#Please this is just my thoughts and are not directed to anyone of you #I know how you all feel about what is happening #And I know it's because we all love Louis a lot #and it's frustrating

[sheerioswifties]

Is anyone else feeling this weird kinda dichotomy in life rn where you're like wow the shit is really hitting the fan in every way all over the world and like wow we're really gonna see a second great depression and possibly civil war and ww3 and the planet on fire and then an ice age maybe and every day is something else piled on or we're on higher alert for nuclear meltdowns or bombs and you find yourself googling where the hell the nearest fallout shelter is if there even is one and then Taylor goes and does something like drop a new album or reveal that the special edition, only available for like a day vinyls make a clock if you were in the 1% that got to get them and you're kinda like okay Taylor I know you gotta do your thing but also like we're out here having to decide between groceries and gas every week and it might not even be a choice soon bc the supply line is not even gonna get the groceries to us but go off like hey yeah we totally can just get all these awesome things and we totally have the time for this......... but then, you're, you're like... but you know what okay but actually we kinda needed the distraction right now so thank you Taylor?!? Yay?!?

#maybe send some more help to ppl cos we all doing worse than in 2020 #but no is it just me bc #i keep going back and forth like i got SO excited for the new album like YESSSSS #but also i was not able to watch the vmas or anything or keep up and of course couldn't get all the vinyls #and when you're looking at the cost of everything you need to survive and bills in your emails next to TN emails with SPECIAL EDITION MERCH #ONE DAY ONLY 2 BILLION DOLLARS YAY GET IT NOW #and it's frustrating #but then like i said it's also a much needed distraction? ? to get back into clowning and #planning for the release and all the things #what is life #random thoughts #Sept 16

[maryellencarter]

so on friday a friend gave me pokemon scarlet and i've been playing it between customers... i'm having fun but it's pretty confusing trying to figure out what pokemon are worth keeping/leveling.

there's a blue graph and a yellow graph and neither one tells me what they're measuring, and as this is my first pokemon game other than pokemon go (which did not have these graphs, or if it did i missed them when i was playing), i have no fucking idea what's going on. i've been going by the sort of yellow-gray graph that has a little bright yellow hexagon in the middle, because that's the only one that shows me differences big enough to see, but then I leveled up a Magikarp to Gyarados and its yellow-gray hexagon totally changed shape and size, so now I have no fucking idea which graph tells me "this pokemon has the best potential" or whatever like the three-star ones in Pokemon Go.

...I don't want to hit the endgame and find out that all my pokeymans are fucking useless because I didn't know what to look at (which is what happened in Pokemon Go because I did most of my leveling before any of the good appraisal tools were introduced, and also I could never attend Community Days due to my work schedule, and didn't have any local friends to raid with).

#also i'm extremely exhausted because it's the busy season at work #so i don't have a whole lot of brain #i tried googling some stuff but either it's talking about when you've already hit level 100 #or it's talking about a totally different generation of games #or it's talking in a way that assumes you already know which damn graph to look at #and it's frustrating #jt plays pokemon scarlet

[snonkerdoodlefizzy221b]

everything's a courtesy call nowadays and nobody's genuine

#And it's frustrating #We're all so insipid it's crazy #Nobody is genuine with kindness #It's just a power play #It's just a courtesy call #sixx am #Spotify

[fabulouslygaybean]

why do drawing studies have to be so hard

#im trying to figure how how tf these guys are Shaped #and it's frustrating #no arms/legs because i just needed to focus on how the torso works. and donnie's battle shell bc its frustrating to draw #okay to reblog if you want #its not finished art so idc but im keeping reblogs on so whatever

[kyber-heart]

Y'know... at this rate if they made queer class story romances a cartel unlock... I'd bloody take it.

These Kotfe - LoTS romances are so short and unsatisfying.

#listen... i know the game isn't a dating sim #and a lot of the fandom is sick of the people that treat it as it is #but bw made this happen and now they aren't bothering #and it's frustrating #admittedly this ties into a larger issue i have with the later expansions as a whole #at least since sor... the expansions are very hollow stories really #kotfe was in my opinion a mess #but that's more on execution than plot (though plot is a big issue for me too) #and lately it's reached it's crescendo with these tiny updates for flashpoints etc #the updates are so short and don't really tell a story #it's very like the mcu where it has to hook you for the next update #like just gimme a story with a beginning a middle and an end #well that went off on a tangent #still... just gimme satisfying queer content again #i miss it

[redysetdare]

If I hear one more allo person use “Ace/aro people can still have sex/be in romantic relationships” as an excuse to continue erasing aro and ace characters I’m going to start biting.

#text #YES i know aro and ace ppl can be in romantic relationships and have sex #YES i know that demi and grey and other aspec identities exist #But so often allos use those as an excuse to force characters into romantic relationships because they cant imagine anyone not being in one #or they only interact with media through shipping #and it's frustrating #at this rate it feels like i can only trust aro and ace ppl to treat these characters right