#i know theres (even more ouch) a portion of lesbians and queer ppl who see nonbinary as woman-lite or feminine man

[mejomonster]

Being nonbinary and dressing feminine sometimes despite very much not being a woman is. Its like hello strangers hello new friends im making please dont immediately steamroll

#contemplating a lot #rant #feel free to ignore #i just. so like. im very nonbinary #which i suppose many nonbinary people are #to the point im like. well i cant go to a transmasc support group or a transfem support group cause i doubt either would #see me as someonr who fits (wish my city had a general trans meetup but we arent big enough i guess) #i know I KNOW theres a bunch of cisgender fucks who think nonbinary = woman and it drives me up a Fucking wall #i know theres (even more ouch) a portion of lesbians and queer ppl who see nonbinary as woman-lite or feminine man #and just dont fucking put in the effort to grasp what being outside man or woman (or overlapping) could be #(probably ovdrlaps w ppl who refuse to grasp pansexuality or bisexuality) #and like. when i was young? maybe i wouldve seen myself as a trans man #but when that didnt totally fit i felt well. maybe bigender then. nonbinary. yeah that fits i suppose #or maybe i am a trans man who just doesnt want to change myself for societal pressure #but i do relate to being a woman too? so nonbinary feels best. but i certainly dont feel like a woman #im okay with she he they. but if i tell strangers theyll usually default to ONE so i just say #THEY so strangers dont immediately try to basically pretend im not nonbinary by sticking to another pronoun they feel is easier to them #and if i say They the fact remains: are these new strangers or friends dicks who dont respect my gender even tho they #accomodated to sayibg they? do they say she in private to friends. do they refer to me as a gender im not when im not present #idk i have been... interacting with a lot of straight dudes lately. and im like? im bi and nonbinary so im like. well if ur straight dude im #not sure u would even Wanna date me? u are aware im a dude too? are u okay with that? can u respect that??? #which has NEVER happened to me before. cause i only dated bi guys nonbinary peeps like me or nonbinary lesbians #ive never dated a person i feared may actually not see me as I Actually Am and have accepted iy