#issues w people online. bc a lot of people project their trauma onto every story about conflict

[lycunthrope]

to the anon who sent me a novel about my post on how the internet screwed up discussions of NPD: im sorry about your experiences. but you do understand that post comes from the perspective of someone who was abused by his mother with another highly stigmatized personality disorder. right.

#i apologize but this is the exact thing i was talking about #where you are letting your traumatic experiences w someone w said personality disorder drive the conversation #listen i understand i KNOW it's a hard thing to have as your triggert #but thats something to be worked on #im not discrediting a community of abuse survivors nor am i telling people they shouldn't talk about their abuse just bc their abuser has #a stigmatized personality disorder. nor would it be logical to claim the personality disorder didn't effect the behavior of that person. #but that's the key word: behavior. a personality disorder does not define your values #so i find letting abuse become synonymous with personality disorders (in this case NPD) makes it really hard to talk about inerpersonal #issues w people online. bc a lot of people project their trauma onto every story about conflict #not to mention making npd synonymous with abuse takes the blame off the person and shifts it onto their disorder #and makes it harder for people w npd to seek treatment