#obviously there’s a difference between inadvertently writing these situations (bad. reevaluate your relationships and idea of romance)

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actually, i’m still thinking abt a) that one post that mentioned that op dislikes the trope of “s/o out of control via a curse or other magic trickery and they are scary and want to hurt you, but you love them enough that you break them out of it” and b) the convo juno and i had about fantasy using abusive / assault-esque situations in an attempt to come off as romantic or dedicated or whatever, and i’m thinking about how……. it’s more effective when a curse like that immediately breaks the moment the person they love is in danger. because they love you—why would the person you love ever, ever make you scared of them? why would they ever hurt you? even with magic involved, you matter more to them than anything….. they would never, ever cause you harm or make you uncomfortable or anything.

idk, jst bugs me that novels (ya, especially) have a very casual approach towards consent—that they wave away bc of magic and fantastical elements—when really… you can have all of those and have it still be a healthy and consensual relationship. they act like the s/o hurting someone bc they’re under a curse is alright, bc that was just the curse! it wasn’t them! yeah, and if they beat their lover bc they’re intoxicated, that’s fine too, right?

#obviously there’s a difference between inadvertently writing these situations (bad. reevaluate your relationships and idea of romance) #and INTENTIONALLY writing them (bc you know what’s going on and you’re not endorsing abuse….) #but idk. thinking of that first trope wrt the bone witch and how kalen was under a spell and told to hurt tea #but he didn’t do it bc he would never ever under ANY circumstance hurt her #like!!! that’s what i mean!!!!! that’s a relationship where you feel there is TRUST #that’s why when azure is in beast form and is dangerous—he would never hurt chrysi bc there is trust there #he loves her and he instinctively knows that #am i coming across clearly? idk if i’m making sense or if this is a ramble #but i’ve been rlly bugged by this situation ESP in oua//bh #like that scene is kinda fucked up when you realize there was no trust or consent. it was scary. it was assault #i was talking to my friend and she said it was kinda hot right? then i said ‘idk. it felt like he was assaulting her and it was p uncool’ #and she stopped and reevaluated it and went ‘…oh my god you’re right’ #yep! i know i am! none of those ‘jacks sexy scenes’ are sexy… they’re just creepy and have assault-y overtones #anyway. i’m stepping down from my soap-box #memorie.txt #assault tw #<- since i discuss it in this post p heavily