#only in tumblr did i find kurtbastian/seblaine/hevans/kelliot shippers

[merinelsa]

I hated Adam and Kadam. I don’t know why! Maybe I just didn’t like the idea of Kurt replacing Blaine and vice versa (though I joke about Blam). I just wanted more happy Klaine. I think also people thinking he was wonderful because of his English accent was like, what seriously??

ha Kadam , the relationship everyone seems to either hate or love , always the extremes , even though they barely had any screentime or development enough to bring out such extreme emotions

If you ask me whether i ship kadam , the answer is no since canon gave us barely any content to base off my feelings for them . But if you ask me whether i wanted a better built midgame for kurt even if it was through adam , then yes , i'll always want kurt to experience all aspects of life and about being in relationships before coming to his own decisions which will ultimately help him in his relationship with blaine.

But , i don't hate adam ? like he was barely there and his only job was to be supportive of kurt and hype him up and compliment him when kurt was putting himself down . there were no complex emotions involved and ended before anything could become of it . Kurt surely appreciated adam but was still using him as a rebound from blaine and couldn’t really give his full attention to adam just like the writers 

But again , i used to dislike them  and find them useless but now i’ve come to a place where i appreciate every relationships the characters have than take the fandom mindset of ‘ why did these characters meet / why are they in a relationship ‘ when every encounters the characters have , even the small ones , will only help them build the person they become by the end of the show . it really helps you be a positive person in the fandom

now , i’m not trying to put words in your mouth , but as far as i’ve seen , most people hate kadam because the shippers try to compare the supportive yet shallow nature of adam with the more complex , a person with his own individual feelings and faults , nature of blaine . they try to compare the barely present and one sided relationship of kadam with the complex relationship of klaine . And i truly understand that side of emotions from you since that is kind of my same feelings with blam . not to dredge up old feelings , but when i first started in the fandom , you could only find either brittana or blam shippers , atleast it was like that for me who was coming into the fandom only because of klaine and to fangirl about them . and the same thing of comparing the blam friendship to klaine relationship and in turn comparing kurt to sam was present , not taking into account that blam was only a friendship in the show and klaine was a relationship that was trying to live their life as adults and had adult responsibilities unlike blam who could still be there highschool selves .so this really put a bitter taste in my mouth for them which i’m trying to get over since getting into the klaine part of fandom .

so, what i’m getting at is that , most of our dislike towards characters/ships come maybe 40 % from the show itself and the rest from our experiences in the fandom . not saying your dislike for adam/kadam is invalid but i can guess it got hightened as you came into the fandom and the negative part of the shipping world .

And , adam was the only semi serious midgame kurt ever had so i’m trying to just reblog something about them because i do like kurt apart from klaine and like other aspects of his life and want to acknowledge the all rounded character of kurt , including his other relationships and since i’ve come to not hate kadam , i thought having them in my blog was not a bad thing.  

i hate adam’s accent , i’m sorry . whenever i hear what’s shakin’ bacon , i want to rip my ear out and cringe so hard . i’m sorry to people from that area , this is in no way me trying to attack your accent , but adam just makes it worse. 

so yeah , in conclusion i don’t hate adam/ kadam but do not ship them either and wish for a better built storyline for them but glee writers are just not good at giving good midgames . and i truly understand your dislike towards them . 

#mer answers #1908jmd #anti kadam #anti blam #maybe ? idk #tried not to go much into blam side of things #but since you brought them up i thought maybe going a bit into it might not be a big problem #again it all comes down to our experiences with fandom a lot of the times #one of the biggest reasons i've tried not to get into such big fandoms before glee #but i truly loved klaine a lot and they were one of the first big gay relationships i'd fallen in love with #and i thought there might be some great things to experience about them with the fandom #and then the only people i could find for a long time were brittana/blam fans who were extremely anti klaine #before coming to tumblr the only non klaine kurt/blaine relationships i'd known people shipped was blam #only in tumblr did i find kurtbastian/seblaine/hevans/kelliot shippers #and the hate really got to me since i myself was in a very vulnerable state at the time #and klaine was honetly such a huge comfort #so those anxieties come to kick in time and again when i see romantic blam posts #but i've tried to be a better person about it since i truly like blam friendship and want more for blaine than just the klaine relationship #but you just can't control your reactions towards past experiences popping up again #why am i so intense with this shipping thing god #like i want to be casual #but being in love with a relationship for such a long time ( atleast long for me since most of my obsessions wither within max 4 months ) #can make you a fierce protector #sorry for the rambling #idk if you'll even see it since i tagged it anti blam #but whatever i just wanted to say i understand your dislike towards kadam #since i most probably would've felt the same if those were the shippers i'd interacted with