#rather than. the even worse guys.

[cruelsister-moved2]

i also don’t think ‘security in your masculinity’ functions as a cure for violence against women. in fact, the cure is (put simply) compassion and empathy for women, the recognition that women are human beings, which is something masculinity is explicitly constructed against. because masculinity isn’t a biological reality, it’s a social construct defined against a feminine ‘other’ and associated with power. traits/behaviours/embodiment that one culture and time period associates with masculinity are associated with femininity in another.  In that context ‘security in your masculinity’ means... security that you don’t have to behave like [insert racialised/class-prejudiced portrayal of stereotypes male violence here] to preserve the privileges you expect to be surrounded by as a member of the dominant gender class. the irony in the ‘secure in my masculinity’ brag is that it makes the men with genuine cause to fear for their place in masculine hegemony (disabled men, gay men, trans men, men of colour, jewish men, immigrant men, working class men, etc) more of a threat than the men who are most secure within it. and now, under this framework, striving for inclusion within the privileged class, fighting to maintain its definitions, and subscribing to its values, is... feminist praxis?  and of course, in all of this, men’s experiences are centralised in the conversation of violence against women. violence against women becomes a tribal issue between groups of men, a.k.a 'feminist’ men are taking fundamentally the same perspective as the 3750 year old code of hammurabi.

#its so lazyyyyy #and when people are like im secure enough in my masculinity to paint my nails or whatever the whole thing really falls apart #like masculinity is a social construct #either youre saying 'im secure enough in my adherence to this social construct to occasionally divert from it' (thus legitimising the #construct) or you're just subscribing to a bioessentialist notion of some fundamental masculinity #that still protects you even when you aren't performing masculinity #like. stfu #i really dont know where these (almost invariably straight) guys think gnc people fit into this. chances are they dont think at all lol #and i love how he draws attention in that article to how often the implied 'insecure man' is working class and/or not white #because it's like yeah you're a threat in your struggle to secure power (and ofc marginalised men often DO hurt women around them in order #to do this) BUT the men who don't have to do this because..their power is already ultimate...are framed as the good guys #rather than. the even worse guys. #anyway as always compare butch masculinity with men's masculinity and you'll find masculinity is not just a neutral set of traits that #just randomly happen to be associated with men for no reason #okay anyway im done i dont care any more im breathing into a paper bag

[leupagus]

Ted Lasso, the character, is one of the only representations of 'sometimes getting better with your mental health issues means that you are less visibly happy, and that is okay, because you are not required to be happy in order to be loved' out there and I am really discouraged that so much of the audience is angry at that.

#ted lasso #the guy we meet in season one is so so so much sadder and is suffering so much more #than the guy we say goodbye to in season three #but the guy in season three doesn't crack as many jokes and doesn't grin and laugh at every opportunity #I really didn't expect the fandom to interpret that as 'he's even worse off than before!' #when the fact is that when you're able to have an inherent sense of self-worth rather than relying on Doing Everything Right #that you become less manic about making sure everyone likes you all the time #which is what ted did for the first two seasons #I dunno I just wish there was more room for this kind of character #and... for this kind of person #believe mothereffers #theodore lasso

[rollforjackass]

thank god i've come back to tumblr after all this time bc where else could i say "i've been simping for the scarecrow from batman begins lately" with impunity. anyway thank you cilian murphy for your service

#idk his take on scarecrow fascinates me bc of his progression through the trilogy #like we're all familiar with the 'villain descends into madness' trope and how it's usually played as a tragedy #we see traumatic backstories & flashbacks & the underlying narrative is 'i don't want to be this way' or 'i just want it to stop' #so i'm obsessed with the fact that when we see crane again in dark knight & dark knight rises he's Even More Confident than he was in bb #he goes from quiet meek-ish schemer to wise-cracking criminal who smirks at the batman when he's unmasked #and then to the preening judge of bane's mock court doling out death sentences like it's a game to him #and like we Could have had the scarecrow that we saw in the end of bb: straitjacketed & descending into madness #we Could have had a harvey dent-ish downfall where he becomes someone to pity rather than someone to fear #but we didn't! we got a guy who said 'what drives you crazy makes you stronger' and went on to have a whole lot of maniacal fun #and i think that's really the essence of how batman villains Become iconic batman villains: being utterly ride or die for their public imag #scarecrow: oh i got gassed & went a little delulu? i'm a known criminal who will never hold a job as a doctor again in my life? #scarecrow: so what i'm getting here is that i'm free to become Worse~ #batman #jonathan crane

[tommyssupercoolblog]

being a pacifist is so hard because people will be reblogging memes like "reblog to kill the worst guy ever" and YOU FUCKING HATE THAT GUY. You hate them so much. you hate them so fucking much and you appreciate the spirit of other people hating them. But you just can't in good consciousness wish death on someone, even as a joke.

Like I fucking loathe BitchassDickLord3000 but I'm not going to be able to like to charge OR reblog to cast, dearest tumblr mutual. Because if there is literally any possible way BitchassDickLord3000 could be stopped (or reformed!) by literally anything, ANYTHING on the planet but death, then i'm not gonna be serving up poison in their dinner. I just don't think I should be able to kill people even if they're the worst. thanks

#i made a textpost #fuck these guys but i'd much rather imprision them for life then kill them. #solitary confinement has in some cases been listed as worse than death so if that's needed then I ALSO have to advocate for sun lighting #and a vr headset or garden or SOMETHING to keep them healthy. #even if i hate them. #like you have to understand I just...I can't torture or kill someone. not even our abusers. not because I don't want to but #because I believe it's wrong. and because I'm not going to compromise.

[vaugarde]

yeah its important to have interests that arent just for children as an adult because at the end of the day it’s good for you and the way you percieve media overall to have a variety of things that you like but like you also shouldnt make fun of adults who are passionate about childrens media and imply theyre stupid for it. i think both of these takes can exist at once

#i dont like how some people are taking ''read a book for adults'' as ''do this so you are less cringe and stupid in my opinion'' #rather than ''do so because its genuinely good for you'' #and even so if someone likes childrens media and they like to analyze it and theyre not being a jackass to kids about it #just leave them alone? sometimes that's just what their interests are and thats okay. it makes them happy #and i hate to be That Guy but uhhhh. yeah theres an overlap here w nd adults #not all of us but certainly a good amount bc some special interests are so strong that they last throughout childhood #past an ''acceptable'' age #and again not the case for everyone but like most autistic adults i personally know are into childrens media #and have been into a specific property since they were a young child #and thats just autism like im sure for people with down syndrome and others have a similar experience #and even if they like something recent like bluey like. who cares it is not hurting you #echoed voice #and it also annoys me that most posts like this have people going ''um well fandom moms are annoying tho'' #or even worse literally implying there's inherently a sinister motive #as if its not common for adults to get mocked for being childish and naturally get defensive #and as if every single adult into a pbs show or toh is inherently a bad person or something. #bc people will go through several mental gymnastics to defend being a jackass over something not socially acceptable #before they go ''yeah thats kind of rude sorry''

[syn0vial]

i wish i could enjoy leverage but so much of that show is watching bad people getting their comeuppance in terribly uncomfortable ways and rather than deriving any pleasure from this, my anxious brain just kicks into overdrive of "what if that happened to us"

#i watched a good number of episodes with my friend who's a fan #and that episode where they replace that guy's anxiety medication with caffeine pills and trap him in an elevator? #or something like that? #actually quite upsetting to me. even just remembering that scene makes me feel anxious #i guess shit like that gets under my skin more than say‚ straight-up violence‚ bc it feels more plausible in day-to-day life #like i'm probably never gonna be involved in some john wick style armed brawl #but the thought of someone intentionally driving me into an anxiety attack bc they hate me feels much more real and personal #it's kinda funny bc i think that putting the bad guys in Sensory Hell rather than doing anything ''worse'' #is the show's way of keeping things light-hearted #but for me it's like ''NO THANK YOU‚ I'LL TAKE THE VIOLENCE PLS'' #idk idk i'm weird‚ i just know i'd happily take a pistol whip to the face over caffeine pills during an anxiety attack any day

[beautifel]

seems like my heart does nothing but break lately

#oh my god dont read the tags. it breaks for everyone :( but on a more personal level #for my gf whos sinking deeper into something n i cant even help bc im a wreck myself but i am so so scared to lose her #still havent even been able to book a psych appointment n i rlly dont know where to go with all these ..em*tions #Guys i rlly dont understand one thing. how come one random freak whos in ur life at some point can derail a whole person like eons later #jeopardise their whole future just by crossing some lines for funz i really dont understand this #not fair not fair at all this is evil #and becasue u got unlucky someone wanted to be disgusting u have to carry the consequences #i rly still cant even say it i still cant even write it #i dont even know how . irl the only perosn i told in some capacity #is dealing with her own trauma and i hate that jsut being understanding is not enoughlike #Wow Lmao Its just Funny How it Shapes You. & U Can Never bury it forever becuz it will always catch up to you😂😂😂😂😂😂 #AND THE PAST CAN NEVER BE ERASED 😃😃😁😁😂😂😂🔫🔫🔫🔫🔫🔪🔪 #at least my gf has been taking steps to deal with it for.3 yrs and i just never even #LOL i feel like such a coward but the sh*me and the g**lt associated with the Thing..r so overwhelming i cant even admit it #what would i even do at the psych appointment like straight up what am i gonna say Lol #hai iam here to process something i dont actually remember probably becasue i was a child but imnot sure. n id rather #kms than tell u how i know 😂. So thats also why my heart breaks. for that little girl who was a ball of shame i guess and no matter #how much i cognitively.like rationally know its not my fault the ball of shame n guilt is still there #n it swallows me every time i vaguely start 2 think about acknowledging the Th*ng #or whatever. And thats just my end of the deal but my gf has it worse genuinely bc she remembers everything n still has to see the freak #n it went on for yrs n her family doesnt know n heres the worst thing hes a beloved family member a sweet boy with struggles of his own #well i hope he walks into traffic for doing what he did to her

[quietwingsinthesky]

even has killed people—though perhaps that depends on your definition of people—and it’s not. how do i put it. it’s never cool, you know? it’s never a moment where this puts them in control of a situation, where they can show off some skill in putting someone down. because even is not, generally, very powerful, and they do not know how to do this.

it just gets messy.

which is one of those terrible reasons why they… well, they don’t like the master, but they have to like that she can do it easy, quick, clean. she can give even the ability to, as well, when she wants. if for no other reason than it means that they won’t have to scrub it raw off their skin later, they appreciate that.

#but if left to their own devices? #what im saying i think is: the doctor 🤝 even: has killed someone with a rock #and of course i say whatever your definition of people is because you’d have to ask if you count daleks as people #i’m honestly not sure if even does. they might have pre-getting launched into a pocket dimension war. they really might have. #very expansive definition of people on account of them not really feeling like they should count as one anyway so therefore if they do. lots #of things must. including the murder trash cans. they’re flesh on the inside aren’t they? they speak they think they hate. #but i think they stop. because it’s better not to. it’s easier. and guiltless too. not like a dalek stops to xonsider your personhood. #but to be very very clear. even has also killed just. guys. #actually i have in my notes here that the tone-setting moment of this whole. arc? #is that it really starts with a jailbreak. predicated on lackluster security for one of the prisoners because they are *just* a human. #and the other is. well. and there’s a war that won’t end that there’s no escape from now to worry about. #but the tone-setting part yeah. is that this really starts with even befriending someone like them through the bars. time lords need #janitors too you know? someone has to clean up around the cells. and they let even out for a minute because of that friendship. #as you can imagine. even is not going back in the cell once they’re out of it. no matter what they promised. and their ‘friend’ is going to #alert someone. and. #you need to understand most of all from this first point. that even doesn’t know that regeneration isn’t A) an inherent trait of gallfrey #rather than a granted one and B) infallible. that’s the cslculation they make. that whatever damage they do won’t matter because they’ll #come back from the dead. ………they do not. #it’s reslly a ‘congratulations! you broke free of the narrative constraints (and safeties) of standing near the doctor! murder is now #unlocked! good luck!’ moment akdhfkshdkfj #anyway. <3 makes their life worse on purpose <3 #dw oc

[infizero]

light and misa's "relationship" is rlly tragic and fucked but also in an isolated state its really fucking funny. ESPECIALLY if you consider them both to be arospec like i do

#misa is like ''oh light my wonderful boyfriend~!! we need to go on a date we haven't been on one in so long!'' #(i know that when you're dating you're supposed to go on dates. so we have to go on a date every so often to assure me that i'm getting a #good grade in Having a Boyfriend something that is both normal to want and possible to achieve) #and then light is like (internally) 'i would literally rather kill myself than spend time with her but i need her for my purposes so i have #to appease her' (externally) ''ok sure i guess misa'' #and then they go to a restaurant and misa waits for him to kiss her the whole night (she does not attempt to herself) #meanwhile light just sits there and goes nonverbal for long extended periods of time while he monologues in his head about how to appear #like a normal (straight) human being (spoiler: he's really bad at this) #and every so often he'll be like ''you look nice. this food is good. other boring pleasantries'' while glaring as if he's poisoned her food #THEY LIVED LIKE THIS FOR 4 YEARS. #again. awful. but also kind of fucking funny. gay aroace guy and aroace girl going through the motions of a heterosexual relationship for 4 #whole years. they hate each other for sure dawg ToT obvs misa to a lesser extent but i think she definitely had a lot subconscious hate for #light. that only got stronger the longer things went on #also during this time they definitely had sex a Single Time because they got to a point where misa was like we've been dating for like #2 years normal couples usually sleep together way before then...... and light was like. LOUD SIGH. ok #it was terrible. neither of them enjoyed it and they never spoke of it again #gee wonder why that was (holding the ace spectrum behind my back) #anyways they're so awful im obsessed w them. awful apart and even WORSE together. it's beautiful #then you throw L in this mix and it gets even funnier and MORE awful #(he's bi aroace to me btw. for the record) #serena.txt #death note posting

[smpsys]

Having crushes on fictional characters is so embarrassing. What do you mean I hear a voice line and start getting all giggly? Shoot me now

#this is about Warren Graham #“welcome to the end of the world ladies” #I'm not even a lady #but I'm blushing #it's so bad #even worse being an introject of both a guy that would rather die than admit this kinda thing #and the guy that Warren hates enough to beat up #ughhhhhh #system #character crushes #N

[skenpiel]

AAAAAARGHH!!!!!!!!! OK FINE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I GIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i guess i do like dirk now. whatever

#had another dream we were buddies it was cool actually #so. whatever. i cave #i think its just cause he reminds me so fucking much of my friend like it is fucking uncanny how alike they are #so whenever i read his dialogue im just like. hehe thats my friend #also. his first interaction with dave (thing i was crying about last night) is so. funny and messed up and well written and weird #its just. so sad. he was really really looiking forward to meeting him #like......... for his whole LIFE he was looking forward to it #and he finally gets to meet his hero and hes so nervous and trying to stay cool and all #hes just. starstruck. and he was really really REALLY looking forward to that conversation #and his personal hero just. makes it a point to let him know how much he fucking hates being there #hes like god i cant wait to go fight that bad guy and dirk has 2 sit there like #ah........ so hed rather risk his life to a maniac with lord english poweres covered in blood than talk to me............. ahhh........... #its just. YOU KNOWWWWW #its endearing. they managed to make it so painfully awkward #they made it SO AWKWARD!!!!!!!!! even worse than roxy and dave straight up called her hot multiple times #and she in return kept prying for information about his love life #and also even when dave said normal things he was awkward as fuck. he asked a question then just Didnt work with it #like........ isnt the point of getting to know people that you ask a question they answer it and then you talk about that topic awhile? #isnt it like.......... more of a pointer on what you can talk about to keep the other persons interest rather than. a genuine question #urgh anyway i fucking give up. i like dirk So what fucking sue me #hey btw i totally forgot about this when you said it but jade when you told me you wanted to fuck dirk what was that about #hes also gay. thats like a whole Thing even though it isnt #care to elaborate on that by any chance. cause id like some clarification on what you meant by that #mainly...................... what part of that man is fuckable.................................... #AHH!!!!!!!! EVIL SPIDER!!!!!!!!

[flamboyant-king]

I’ve been hearing different kinds of art advice and I’m torn on them.

Should you go through and finish something even though it doesn’t look good and is flawed in many ways OR scrap the piece and do it a different way/abandon the idea altogether?

#im a person who doesnt want to waste resources. If im unsure of the outcome then i dont do it #i dont know how to sew or bake because i dont want to waste fabric or ingredients on a fuck up #but i want to have fun DOING SOMETHING. Like haha baking cupcakes would be fun haha oh no its burnt #i havent gone through with ANY STORY IDEA ive had because i dont know how it willbegin all the way to the end #and im hearing advice like make that shitty make that shitty game but i cant bring myself to even start it #like i CANT make things without a purpose. If i dont have the finished product in mind #im too afraid to mess up im too afraid to fail #but like doing nothing is worse than failing no? #the other advice i saw was just leaving things as sketches. Not everything needs to be finished and not everything needs to be seen #and thats another issue i have. Not only will i not do things unless i know the productis good #i wont show you guys anything unless its appealing. And combining those two..li just dont make anything anymore #like…i cant take either advice because of how embarassed ashamed and afraid of failure i am #i want to let loose. I want to be free. I want to create nonsense from the heart rather than thinking everything through and through #every meticulous detail. Every sketch upon sketch upon sketchto deliver on something no one will see #i get that. I get that im not hot shit. Im not big or important. I have nothing left to bring to the table and #i guess knowing that stops me from doing anything because i think that the only thing im allowed/forced to do is make things worthy #i dont display my art in my room anymore. I dont doodle random things anymore. I open commissions because my drawings need a purpose #and thats stupid because im nobody. I have no purpose. My purpose is just to enjoy life. And being like THIS isnt enjoying life #its not even drawing its just anything. Socializing being with friends or family. Watching movies or playing games #i cant enjoy myself. Because i dont know how its going to GO. Thats not living. Life isnt fucking planned. Its spontaneous #but i cant DO that. And I dont know how to fix it. #but thats enough about me. What advice to you go by? Just going with it or redoing it?

[starlooove]

Genuine answer tho kindaaaa because my entire point with the tim wealth thing is that even if the point about it not having much basis in canon was true (which. Lmao) it’s still gonna impact how he’s written by the writers and viewed by the fans; when it comes to writing stories a lot of people see middle class as the Relatable class which is precisely why I think those hardcore Tim Stans are pushing it so much

#im not gonna make it long bc like. if u get it u get it there’s not much u have to explain #but i am gonna say it’s very funny they don’t wanna say he’s broke #if his wealth doesn’t matter at all they could easily say he has nothing #but they’re too classist to say it #hard assumptions buuuuut im not giving plot points don’t impact character guy the benefit of the doubt #when it comes to monetary status there are implications that come with them #when it comes to the general public middle class has the most neutral implications #atp with so many convos on class consciousness and negative traits associated with the wealthy #it feels like they just don’t want Tim associated with that #imo that’s what makes him cool #the fact that he’s extremely intelligent but held back by limited world view which can cause him to fuck up his relationships (steph) #or be callous and cruel in his words (Jason when Tim was first starting as Robin) #i think him choosing to be Robin even tho he would’ve arguably been extremely successful otherwise #and choosing to have this worldview expanded in ways that he might not like (his arrogance biting him in the ass meeting ppl like Lonnie- #-learning to extend empathy and compassion in a way that might seem unnatural at first) is cooler than middle class kid picked up by #billionaire like the other 20 #plus i think him being written as the opposite of Jason was so intentional that to ignore it is stupid. not even explaining like c’mon man #but i think the parallels this creates with Bruce -did NOT have to do that shit ur life is WORSE bc ur doing that shit- are fun #like in conclusion if u wanna ignore that Tim’s rich fine whatever #but ur so boring and I’d rather watch paint dry than hear whatever you have to say about him #there’s too many bad things associated with both lower class and higher class for them to be comfy with tim in either #so they’re pushing for neutral middle #just like tim isn’t arrogant and rude at times but he’s also not a complete pushover #so he’s smart but he forgets to take care of himself #he’s not Bruce’s favorite because Bruce is so mean but he can’t be Bruce’s least favorite so he does everything for him #just bland takes on bland takes bc God forbid the rich white boy has some spunk #which is a massive disservice to his character btw. like i hate on canon Tim a lot but he’s interesting to me #it’s why takes like this don’t even piss me off or anything it’s just. so boring #evil opposite to ‘Batman is the man Bruce is the mask’ #ur so smart and profound I’d love to hear more. please tell me about how much tim loves coffee and worshipped Jason as Robin.

[cruelsister-moved2]

i really feel like ken liu was just like oh so really bad things happen to women, especially marginalised women and sex workers, under imperialism and colonialism. so i should just like show horrible things happening to women all the time and women being pushed into sex work because of imperialism. aaaand my work here is done #realism #gender

#i literally cant put my finger on it all but its just. sooo... #he has like a whole story abt SWs being murdered by a john #and the framing was just soooo off to me #like we also barely see the girls as human we just see them through the eyes of the guy murdering them #and the stoic traumatised cop woman also doesnt really humanise them #idk i hate when i hated something and idk how to explain why but #everyone ive talked to who read it was like.erm #and apparently he does it in his longform fiction as well #which i feel like has the potential to be even worse bc he can expand characters way more so if he STILL doesnt for women.. #the top review of the paper menagerie collection is a white guy being like oh and the titular story is about like memory bla bla #and doesnt mention gender at ALL like i loved that story but again the framing of the mother was kind of callous and weird #even though to me she was really or shouldve been the main character rather than her son #but its like i guess you could be making a POINT about us only seeing her through her son etc etc whcih is why i liked it but then people a #clearly not interpreting it that way

[insertsona]

oops . sorry prince

#OKAY HEAR ME OUT. it. what i have in mind. makes their guilt surrounding fucking up the conductor make a lot more sense #(which if prompted. i could elaborate on . but id rather not bc id like to draw it maybe) #it makes it make a lot more sense but probably also makes it worse #so. yayyyy #before it was just 'oh fuck . i shouldnt have done that . thats a whole actual guy i fucked up . thats Wrong even if hes an asshole' #this . makes it a little more than that #casinos art :] #casinos ocs: Prince

[0tul1ss]

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#mannn i literally assumed he ghosted-- why on earth would he text me after so long???? #i was fully like 'ok the last msg i sent literally makes me cringe a bit to read but its been months so ig im never opening the convo again #it was simpler before when there felt like there was nothing else to do and easier to move on. i even had a little crush on someone else ! #now i have a whole wheel of decisions to choose from #and idek what i truly want from this guy anymore bc even just platonically he kinda fucked it up like. idk #or rather i want a lot of different things and idk what to choose #i want my friend back. i want to never see him again. i want him to know every truth of what ive felt and i want him to know none of it #i want him to miss me or maybe wonder about me sometimes down the line. i want him to not spare me another thought for the rest of his life #i want to reply only 'go fuck yourself' and i want to write him a letter and i want to ghost him better than he ghosted me #i want to tell him i love him and i want to tell him i hate him and i want to say nothing at all #i want the closure i was denied. i want to protect the closure i now have #<-going insane #anyway its soooo stupid like i already grieved for this shit bro. i accepted the end of this years long close friendship #anyway idk why im doing so much processing of this in a vent post nor do i know why i always feel compelled to post these when i do #good thing i keep a small presence on here lol. but yea uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh send post #ok wait i saved this as a draft and went to go look for what i had been tagging vent posts with #[couldnt find one i had been using consistently even tho the whole point is so ppl can blacklist it if they want whoops!!] #and i saw another vent from another time he just kinda disappeared on me #and while this time was a lot worse for a lot of reasons i think its important to say this-- #that the last thing that i want is to go back to square one of this stupid awful cycle #vent