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#with the ''sometimes we aren't capable of real change until someone loves and accepts us exactly as we are'' thing
lith-myathar
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#say what you will about sera dragon age but they really were nailing something
#with the ''sometimes we aren't capable of real change until someone loves and accepts us exactly as we are'' thing
#if you've gone through life being told there's something wrong with you from every direction and constantly asked to change and improve
#that creates both some extreme problems around self worth (feeling inherently damaged and unlovable) and a LOT of anger
#anger that's got no real target so everything and everyone becomes something to resent and resist
#you are not enough. you will never be enough. even the people who love you are always trying to fix you in the name of helping
#and maybe you tried to be different!!! but it didn't work and so you are a constant disappointment
#finding somebody who just loves you and sees you amd doesn't demand that you change is.... unthinkable
#suspicious. trusting that is not going to come easily
#but if it's genuine? that's a place where growth can really start. because it stops being about fighting back and all the resentment
#it lets you start believing that maybe change is not synonymous without capitulation or losing this battle you've been fighting
#your entire life against the world telling you you aren't good enough
#a part of you believed it but another part also knew it wasn't fair and that's the part
#that would rather destroy yourself with self destructive behaviors than admit they're right
#ahem. i am definitely projecting here but there's a reason i always felt super attached to her!!
#and i think i get it now a lot more than i used to
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