#without the song and dance of being actively and repeatedly scolded as an adult for regular person mistakes

[vvelegrin]

man another thing that's been very nice about having moved out of my dad's house is that... i am under no obligation to convey anything to anyone <3 i don't have to tell my parents about my doctor appointments, i don't have to tell people my intentions, i don't have to defend making purchases or arranging my life in a way that makes things easier or more pleasant because people don't even have to know about these things in the first place.

it's really fucking nice.

#experienced the unfortunate combination of 'pathological anti-liar' and 'being a fucking doormat by nature or whatever' #and 'controlling father that has to know everything and will directly curtail any attempts at privacy with guilt and authority' #that i sometimes compulsively try to make someone understand things about me even when it the direct outcome of such is unpleasant #here's to breaking these habits lads #discovering that i can do things and have preferences without going to protestant hell or even worse dealing with my dad #i can even pay my Idiot Tax without the external application of guilt #that is payments or late fees or forgetting to return something that doesn't fit and et cetera #that sometimes come up on account of being a fucking mess LMAO and would be less of a thing if i achieved a level of organization #that i simply will not realistically reach at this juncture but am generally working on getting myself in order for #i just make sure i routinely set aside a lil money for potential mistakes and i deal with them as they come #without the song and dance of being actively and repeatedly scolded as an adult for regular person mistakes #prattling about the self #edit to note that yeah i know there are times when i should convey things to people but you know what i mean