One of the worst things about parts of the feeder community is the widespread disrespect of the big people in it.
Some examples:
Not everyone has a humiliation kink. People don't always like to be called "piggy" because not everyone means it in a complimentary way. Not everyone has a sort of bdsm-esque approach to gaining. It's Rude (at minimum) to include anyone- even fat people, even gainers, even people who have expressed interest in that particular flavor of kink in the past- into your kink without their consent.
Don't demean the fat people you are attracted to, and treat them like people with boundaries, desires, and dreams of their own. Have conversations. Be polite, and when they set boundaries respect that.
Just because someone is fat it doesn't mean they don't deserve respect. Too much of the world assumes that.
concept: feeders who love and dote on their feedees and take them on normal, non-kinky romantic outings. feeders who genuinely find their feedees attractive, even if they want to lose weight. feeders who know that it’s okay to lose weight. feeders who respect their feedees’ wishes
Fat distribution is a glorious thing! I’m just constantly in awe of how blessed we are with just the variety of shapes and sizes that gorgeous fat people come in.