zemathememequeen

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hiii if you are aromantic/arospec and can take a bit of time to answer some questions about your experiences in the wider queer community, i'd really appreciate it. & if you are alloro please spread this around anyways!

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The thing about me being a trans woman who hasn't done any voice training is that my voice is genuinely androgynous.

If people don't know anything about me except my voice (e.g. talking to a stranger online in voice chat), then they usually read me as male. But if they know that I'm a woman beforehand (either because I told them or it's irl and they can see me), then people read my voice as feminine.

It truly is quite bizarre.

#trans #trans woman #transfem

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If you exclude aro and ace people from the lgbtq+ community I hope you get run over by a truck btw

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I saw a post a bit ago of someone saying how silly it is that "that that" is a perfectly grammatically correct thing to say in English. But they said that as though that were the only word that could be doubled up like that in English.

There is also of course "had had", but I think the silliest example of this is "do do". You may not have seen this but I assure you it's grammatically correct. Because while "do" can refer to a generic action, it can also be placed before a verb to emphasise it.

For example: "How do I know you’ll actually even pay me if I do do it?"

All this to say: English is a do do language.

#thank you techno #i'm only a hobbyist linguist

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No I'm pretty sure that's something else. In each of the examples I gave, they're doubled up because they serve different grammatical purposes in the sentence, and it's purely coincidental they happen to be the same word. Whereas reduplication is done with intent.

In the case of "that that", the first that is a conjunction, while the second that is a pronoun.

In "had had" the first had is a modal verb indicating the past perfect tense, while the second had is the action verb.

In "do do", while the presence of the first do is to emphasise the second one, it is merely a coincidence that the second verb is also do.

That's not to say reduplication doesn't exist in English; it certainly does. But I just don't think these are examples of it.

I saw a post a bit ago of someone saying how silly it is that "that that" is a perfectly grammatically correct thing to say in English. But they said that as though that were the only word that could be doubled up like that in English.

There is also of course "had had", but I think the silliest example of this is "do do". You may not have seen this but I assure you it's grammatically correct. Because while "do" can refer to a generic action, it can also be placed before a verb to emphasise it.

For example: "How do I know you’ll actually even pay me if I do do it?"

All this to say: English is a do do language.

[zemathememequeen]

I saw a post a bit ago of someone saying how silly it is that "that that" is a perfectly grammatically correct thing to say in English. But they said that as though that were the only word that could be doubled up like that in English.

There is also of course "had had", but I think the silliest example of this is "do do". You may not have seen this but I assure you it's grammatically correct. Because while "do" can refer to a generic action, it can also be placed before a verb to emphasise it.

For example: "How do I know you’ll actually even pay me if I do do it?"

All this to say: English is a do do language.

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shrimp friends. friendship but it's shrimp colours

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shrimp friends. friendship but it's shrimp colours

#no i don't mean a qpr

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Yeah sure I'll do this.

No bingo for me :(

@arotechno @raavenb2619 can you get bingo?

Arospec Bingo Card requested by anon

I finished the card! Have a go, and feel free to tag any aro friends :)

People who wanted to be tagged:

@feelingthedisaster

#raaven and techno if you don't wanna reblog this #you can just send it to me on discord

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Three quarters of aroaces realised they're ace first. That's a lot. I'm not going to theorise about the reasons, but that is actually pretty significant. There must be something going on to have numbers like this.

So, I was thinking today about how, as an aroace, I started identifying as asexual several months before I started identifying as aromantic. I just found it more difficult to come to terms with my aromanticism than my asexuality, thereby taking me longer to accept it.

And that got me curious:

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"There's no platonic explanation for this" just admit that you're a bad friend already

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When your plural friends have anxiety call that a nervous system

#plural #plural system #plurality #joke

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Girl math isn't that sexist bullshit that everyone always says it is. No, girl math is the stupid fucked up integrals that my friend does such as

and

It's normal for girls.

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Hi I saw you're poll about whether people realised they are aro or ace first and I have a question. Is it not an automatic thing that if you're aro you're also ace? Like I don't get it of you don't like anyone romantically why you would wnat to have sex? If people do that completely valid I just didn't really think about it? Like I just assumed it would be that if ur aro then ur automatically ace too.

Please don't at all think I'm trying to be rude or anything I'm just wondering and if people are ark but not ace then good for them,that's chill I just wanted to ask. It might just be my utter lack of understanding of attraction as a whole cause while I'm a lesbian I'm also 17 and have never had any kind of sexual attraction (I have considered that I may be ace before but I'm also a kid so that might also just be why).

But yeah anyway that's my question I hope it makes sense and doesn't come off as rude. Have a nice day:)

Not only can aromantic people not be asexual, there is even a term for it: allosexual aromantic, or alloaro for short. It is a very broad label as alloaros can be any sexuality that isn't ace.

It's important here to recognise that while sex can be an expression of romantic intimacy, it certainly doesn't have to be. Sex is just an activity that people can engage in for a variety of reasons. For some it's an expression of romantic love, for others it's about friendship, and for others it's just a fun way to spend their time. None of these are any more or less valid than any other.

I myself am not alloaro, so I certainly can't speak on their behalf. But I do hope that some people in my notes are willing to explain their own experiences of being alloaro.

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So, I was thinking today about how, as an aroace, I started identifying as asexual several months before I started identifying as aromantic. I just found it more difficult to come to terms with my aromanticism than my asexuality, thereby taking me longer to accept it.

And that got me curious: