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Hi 9. I hope you are well. Your blog has been a balm for my soul in dark times, read your comments full of confidence it's like fresh air.

I would like to ask if recently or in the past, you have received unpleasant comments saying that we are wrong in what we believe in addition to adding insults, etc. How have you learned to deal with it and if at any point have they hurt you emotionally?

aw heyy thanks for saying that!

oh yeah over the years i’ve had my share of flack and insults in my inbox or maybe i’ve had an altercation here or there, and sometimes you can put a bandaid on and go about your day but usually it’s still a cut you can feel. i guess the tl;dr: would be, i think that over the years ive learned to find the right blend of environment and outlook that sets me up to have it hurt less. also i think being able to contextualize hate dismantles its power greatly.

the big thing that youve got to have the ability to laugh at yourself. this is such a wild situation to be in! embrace it. a little self deprecation goes a long way. if you let go of the need to be understood by everyone and you recognize how wild of a situation it is that we are in, and if you can laugh about it, it cures most things imo.

next you have to keep the context of the hate in mind. a lot of things i’ve had said to me just dont hurt because i know the people saying them just don’t understand what they’re talking about 😆 maybe this comes with time.. like maybe if you hang around long enough it will click, but people from different parts of the fandom are speaking from completely different languages of meaning and beliefs and so i’ll see a comment and just be like wow that’s so fascinating how this person got compelled to compose that and say it with their whole chest. couldn’t be me!

another thing is just, it has a lot to do with where we are at and what i believe or what other like minded people do. to us, we have kiiinda already reached a kaylor win condition. i know people would disagree and i get why, but to me, in the grand scheme of things, i don’t feel the need to argue or defend because we’re already there. we’ve already made it! all the rest is a bonus to me. and so what this outlook does is it makes any hate seem really really quaint. like don’t care if rude people don’t understand. why would they deserved to? 😆 they should stay right where they are.

i think hate can hurt more when you at a point where you are less confident of what you think or if you want to listen to everyone and make sense of everyone as a way to uphold ‘fairness’ or a sense of a greater community but, when you are around long enough and get a better sense of each groups’ different motivations, you come to realize that your good intentions to involve and convince everyone is a bit of a fool’s errand because at the tops of each group is a core that will never move from their position. in the end it’s just more about a personal journey, i think. and i think usually you pick a lane or a group and just stick to it and most of the drama feels different because when you stop feeling the need to litigate, hate becomes confrontation for confrontation’s sake, and then the hate stops being about you, and you can see it as a part of a bigger thing.

also one key thing… i think it’s eons easier to avoid everyday conflict on places like tumblr than on twitter. it’s easier to curate what you have on your blog and its not a very public facing platform so things are more quiet and don’t spread to the general public. this filters out a ton. and there’s less eyes on your stuff and like people can screenshot and bitch on their own space but it’s not a quote tweet so you don’t really have this sense if you’re being talked about. you can block and even block individual IP’s, or on the flip side you can monitor activity on statcounter and see patterns of where messages come from and it kind of dismantles the mystique of them. tumblr makes it a lot easier to just do your thing. it’s not always in your face. and i would have a different persona and talk differently if i was on a different platform.

and i think people in general are better at staying in their lane here than on other platforms. over the years we have all sort of found our pockets and in general we stay in them, i think! so the stuff i do get is just always worded and delivered in the same way so i know its from the same people so it’s a little bit like kramer popping in on any given episode of seinfeld. it’s just part of the routine at this point 😆

#sorry this got kinda long!

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🙃

eye am gonna pass out

taylor

#sound on

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🙂

AJR’s 100 Bad Days pretty much sums it up huh… okay… hey! look they have a music video! cool cool. well then, let’s take a looksee

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the three horsewomen of the eyepocalipse

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I recall reading the og post back in the day. Felt like i was about to fall out of my chair when i SAW it 🫣 its been a wild ride since but I’m so glad we have people like you around here! 😊

i remember too watching the estée lauder face massage video and it clicking and it was like

i’m so glad to have had you and everyone around to enjoy it all this time. it’s been the best form of self care 😆 really helped me understand the importance of laughter and awe in staying healthy and happy 🥰

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like i don’t think i can fully express how much the eye theory popped off in late april/may 2019

here’s the april archive

here’s the may archive

like any given hour another friend would post like

#all eyes on us

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gaylor throwbacks thanks for all the eye theory love today 🥰

#late april 2019 was A TIME #all eyes on us

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Okay, there being a Citi Bike station directly in front of the Puck Building is super funny actually lol 🙈

as like uh, a smash up your bike reference?

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Was there a time recently (or in general I suppose) where you felt angry, annoyed or saddened by the bearding? Seeing them with the beards? More specifically Taylor but Karlie too I guess

there was a time years ago where it would quite literally ruin my day or even weekend to see a beard being dragged out to do something.

but no, not recently.

it required a big mindset shift!

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been seeing a lotta people on twitter asking “what’s the eye theory???” so i put together a little care package to send to people if you would like to 😘

eye theory pdf

the original post (2019~2020)

extension of the original post (2021~2023)

rep magazine puzzle walkthrough

eye theory one year anniversary post

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THE SNAKE

IS BLIND

IN ITS

RIGHT SIDE EYE

#sweet memories..

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remember back in 2019 when we had posted about the eye theory for the first time the week prior to lesbian visibility day and then jaime posted this 🤪

@birdykins i didn’t think i was more able to be knocked out of my chair but ya did it!

oh my god like it’s everybody

Je Suis Uncalme

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happy 4.26 to those who celebrate 😌 i’ll be having some pancake tea

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oh i love a rocky road situation 🥰

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Are you gonna marry, kiss, or kill me? (Kill me 🤪)

She could've said kiss me cause he choose kiss for her but Taylor be like please kill me idc 🥰🤣🤣

it’s that slight peppering of easter egg doubt that taylor is famous for and that i love

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https://x.com/bestofkloss/status/1661892405849628672?s=46

have you ever listened closely to the end of this video? do you hear a certain whispering giggle at end, or just me?

oh yes 😌 i mean how’s one to know.

in retrospect, i like that throw pillow!

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hiii 9 <3

hope this helps!

https://www.tumblr.com/mylittleredgirl/747945508536041472/how-to-find-literally-any-post-on-a-blog-in

sending you much love <3

thanks anon i haven’t tried this out and it looks promising!!

sadly it seems that /search produces the same results as on mobile and /tagged is nice but that’s the thing i don’t tag everything :((

i like /day/yyyy/mm/dd! i didn’t know this one and i can see myself using it a bunch!

#of course i do use archive all the time