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😉 Desmina 🖤🖤🖤✨🌈 #QTmodel

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Okurrrrr QT @Desmina #QTmodel #immortalfemmefashion

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I think I’m into this QT Model @Desmina 🫶🏾🩷😏

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It would mean so much to me if you could check out my fashion instagram, here is a sneak peek of today's post!

Krikor Jabotian Chapter XI

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City Lights

[prints]

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as someone who has been scarred for life by experiences at gay bars, i need people to understand it's beyond tacky to mock people who want queer spaces beyond queer bars- it's dangerous.

let me explain. i went to 2 of my local queer bars a lot last year, as much as i was able to despite being poor. i witnessed a fist fight that was so bloody that ended up with a transmisogynistic drag queen getting hit in the head with a metal baton. the sight caused me to uncontrollably throw up in the bathroom of the club because of how gruesome it was. they had to close down the club and forard people out the back door because of how out of hand this person got- he was screaming transmisogynstic slurs and phrases at the bouncers were were transfem.

i was also sexually assaulted at these places, i was repeatedly groped by several people who i was not interacting with in the first place who found me attractive and decided physically grabbing me on numerous occasions was the way to get my attention. being femme in a queer bar is dangerous even if the people groping you are gay men.

i am also a recovering addict who dealt with alcohol issues in the past and could be considered a recovering alcoholic. i don't want to be around alcohol. i don't want to smell it. it triggers awful memories and also sometimes makes me consider getting a drink, but i can't have one, because the medications i take will cause a fatal reaction- i don't want to be tempted to drink, because it will kill me.

it's not right to mock someone or call them childish or whatever for not wanting to go to a club. whenever alcohol is involved, people's inhibitions are gone and they will do whatever. this includes fighting. i witnessed several other fights. just because it's a queer bar doesn't mean there won't be fights. and it especialyl doesn't m ean that you won't get groped or assaulted because, like i said, since alcohol is involved and it's a bar, there's a high chance this can and will happen.

queer people are not inherently safe angels to be around by virtue of being queer. there are still transphobes in queer bars. tranny chasers come to these bars. homophobic lesbians show up and lesbophobic gay men show up. drag queens and performers bring their cishet friends and family to support their shows. these are not perfect havens. they are not safe. we should not force other queers to interact with inherently dangerous spaces if these are supposed to be our safe spaces.

also these spaces are not friendly to people with disabilities; wheelchair users have nowhere to go especially when it's very crowded. other mobility aids get kicked and knocked over. neurodivergent people can get overstimulated by the deafening music very quickly. photosensitive people can have seizures due to the strobing lights. people with emetophobia like me run the risk of running into those types of triggers. people who are overstimulated by intoxicated people have no choice but to deal with it. dancing is one of the only activities to do other than drink and not many disabled (or even abled) people can dance for extended periods of time comfortably.

not to mention these spaces are not geared toward aromantic or asexual people at all, either. there is a long list of reasons why bars should not be our primary venues of interaction with one another. they serve a specific purpose- for people who want to cruise- but for the rest of us, it's really crucial that we have spaces that provide meaningful interactions with other queers on other levels of our identities.

some people just want to hang out with other queers in a quiet environment and craft, or shop, or drink coffee, or read books together, or just about any other activity on planet earth, and that's not "lame" or "cringy" or bad in any way- these are extremely normal and necessary parts of human interaction that we all require and crave and it's normal to want to do healthy, domestic things with other queers. we need this in our lives.

please take it seriously when people attempt to create queer spaces that don't involve alcohol and bars. it's necessary for our survival and well being as a community.

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i care about you if you are a trans person who feels they were born in the wrong body, have very strong dysphoria and/or don't like being reminded that you're trans. it's not an easy experience to deal with, and it's certainly a very legitimate one; it's very okay to not be at peace with one's transness, that does not mean one is not at peace with other people's. it's okay to struggle, to feel guilty for identifying as trans, to stay or go back in the closet, to never come out, to never tell anyone else, to never attend queer spaces, to never feel like your real gender, to feel depressed when you think about gender, or any other emotions that leave you feeling drained or negative. it's okay if you have a phase like this or you live this way the rest of your life

i care about you. you are still who you are even if those feelings are strong. take care

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Here's a clever little girl...

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the reason why you can't define gay as "man loving man", or define lesbian as "woman loving woman", or define trans as "person who has dysphoria and identifies as the 'opposite' gender " is because all queer identities defy being defined in a reductive, singular statement. the entire point of these identities are that they cannot fit inside the rigid boxes of what gender, sexuality & expression "should" be according to our societies.

people with these identities will always break the rules. we will always blur the lines and exist outside of the boundaries you set around us. you can't try to force us into boxes and hard definitions all over again, we intrinsically defy them no matter what.

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Cuando cobras por productividad

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Absoluta y completamente necesario

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daphne and velma, noir style 💜🧡

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this zine is available for $5+, and buying a copy supports a transmasculine bigender man & woman who is currently struggling with housing, food, medicine and more. we appreciate any support and interactions with our post and ko-fi page, thank you so much!

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Synastry interactions -

Venus/Sun in 6th house

Venus/Sun: Did you eat today baby!?

6th house person: not really, I had some fruit for breakfast though.

Venus/Sun: You know that’s not enough babe. I’m about to make us some enchiladas 😋

6th house person: I mean that does sound really good lol

Venus/Sun: Seeeee?! And mentally how are you feeling baby? I know yesterday you had a rough day so I was thinking we could go for a walk by the lake to release some stress and have a picnic at the park later today.

6th house person: That’s sounds like just what I need baby, some fresh air & peace. You always know how to make me feel better ☺️. I love the way you take care of me. ❤️