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another reminder to stop buying/watching/reading anything JK Rowling associated

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MASKING MYTHS BUSTED: “Masking = Acting NT.”

FALSE.

Autistic masking does not necessarily mean “pretending to be allistic/neurotypical," although you’d definitely be forgiven for thinking it does.

Non-autistic researchers have been referring to it as “camouflaging” for years, framing it as an intentional choice to suppress autistic traits and replace them with allistic ones in order to “blend in.” Doing an internet search on the term will return several similar results.

But now, Autistic researchers are in the game, and their take is much more nuanced and comprehensive than that. (Funny how that happens, isn’t it?)

They’ve found that:

- It CAN be intentional but is often subconscious and involuntary 

- It is a protective response to trauma and feeling unsafe 

- It is often about suppressing more than just autistic traits 

- It is about identity management and being able to predict how people will treat you, not just “blending in”

Some people will lean into being “the bad kid” because they know that’s what people expect of them. Some people will even act “more autistic” because they know that’s what people expect of them. Others still will do things to attract attention in controllable, more “acceptable” ways to avoid attracting attention in unsafe, more stigmatizing ways. Not because they WANT to be that way, but because it lets them predict people’s responses better, which feels safer.

Also, there are Autistic people who can’t “pass” for non-autistic no matter how hard they try. That doesn’t mean they’re not masking. They may actually be working hard to suppress A LOT, they just can’t do everything to neuronormative standards.

None of these people will be accused of “blending in,” yet they are still masking their hearts out. When we assume they are not, we miss all the harm that masking is causing them. But they are suppressing themselves and suffering the consequences of that just as much as any Autistic person whose mask successfully says, “Hey, I’m just like you!”

(For more on this, please see the work of Dr. Amy Pearson and Kieran Rose.)

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sorry for being a hater i want to be a lover but everything pisses me off

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working in retail has you meeting lots of families and ALSO hearing opinions of parents regarding the genders of their child and I always hear about how girls are harder to raise from mothers who..have their daughter act as a second mother to younger siblings. ma'am no one held a gun to your head and said "make sure your daughter operates like an adult at age 10". you're complaining about a gender role YOU assigned her 💀💀💀 i'm actually going to explode if I hear one more take about boys and girls being naturally inclined to behave in xyz way.

when my brother and I were little we used to swap clothes sometimes to play characters of the other gender. my dad was furious and said I must be forcing him to do that. we could only do it when he wasn't around. at what point do you realize how ridiculous and cruel you're being? who is getting hurt in rejection of gender roles other than people who believe this is a crime against humanity?

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my personal argument for open borders is really simple it just boils down to "i believe restricting human movement and barring certain people from certain places on this earth is a human rights violation"

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Poll: Are you reasonably okay with being at your current job?

Are you satisfied? Do you not hate it, mainly?

Im not putting show results because I need hard numbers and am bad at subdividing.

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quick little art about dysmorphia and how i don’t know what i look like

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