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maybe this is co troh verse shell but i do not care about why people are lgbt. i will not entertain any effort by cishet people to figure out what “went wrong” with us to make us lgbt. i simply do not care.

if im nonbinary and bisexual because i chose to be, then goddamn i have great taste. i would make the same choice again and again in every lifetime.

if im nonbinary and bisexual because i was born this way, then goddamn i won the fucking lottery.

if i am nonbinary and bisexual because of a mix of genetics and circumstances, then i am the luckiest son of a bitch alive.

arguments about how lgbt people should be supported because “it’s not their fault/they didn’t choose it” are ugly. arguments that there’s a gay gene will only lead to eugenics/bio essentialist arguments.

trying to discover the “cause” of what makes people lgbt is counterproductive at best and downright malicious most of the time.

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“learn self love!” where, i wonder, were we supposed to learn this beautiful thing. so easily, could i have torn up every floorboard of my unsafe house and said - there! now i have made a home in the places my blood has spilled. was it hiding in the hearts of the people that bullied me, was it tucked safely in the teeth of my abusers. could i have simply learned self-love while online, in my sweatpants, unworried about the job where i am not a person but a clock in motion. i can burn my bills. i can wash my hands of my physical health. i can turn my back on my trauma. ta-da! now i have self-love.

i am much better than i ever was. i had to leave. there is no self-love where there is not safety. and there is no learning care without community. there is no good feeling, movie-star recovery without years of work, and support, and consistency. and tell me - where was i going to find that, when i was fourteen?

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“Are you seeing this sh*t, human?” (via convicttv)

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Brilliant ad

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last night one of my campers was like “well i lost one of my shoes in the swamp today” and i said “oh no!” and she shrugged and said “its ok. shoes are just objects” and damn. they really are

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Bohemian Rhapsody. We Will Rock You. Somebody To Love. All hit singles, and all the direct product of a band that was formed when an astrophysicist and a dentistry major found a new friend in an art college, who then went on to recruit a fourth member from the electronics school. Based on this alliance I propose the rift in society between Arts and STEM students was fabricated to keep us separated so as to dilute our true power - and fabricated by who, you may ask? The business major, the only member of society who reaps no reward from art and science and thus must weaken us so as to stay ahead. In this essay I will

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Nerdy Fact #1434: Wonder Woman was originally based on two women: the wife of creator William Marston and one of his former students that both he and his wife had sexual encounters with. 

(Source.)

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What to do if you’re white and someone says your art or writing is racist

This is just my experience as a white artist who’s trying to cause less damage. Feel free to add your thoughts!

Ask for more input from minorities or people of color who live racism every day. They are not obligated to educate you, but submitting your work to transparent, public review will help you learn from more people who experience racism. Remember: Racism callout isn’t about you. It’s about learning how to prevent yourself from hurting others. That should be your priority. If you’re white, you’re racist (even if you don’t mean to be) and hiding or pretending you aren’t racist doesn’t teach you how to stop hurting others. You will hurt fewer people and learn more if you remain transparent and willing. 

Don’t put white opinions ahead of black experience just because it feels better. 

Don’t expect kindness or understanding for your mistakes. If you hit someone with your car, no one is obligated to teach you how to drive better, and racism is no different. Think of racism as a weapon that you have sole possession and control of. You may not have asked for the weapon or even know how it works, but you have it, and people of color don’t. Your very first duty is to NOT hurt people with it, and to stop if you have been.

Apologize and own it. “I’m sorry you felt my work was racist” is not an apology. The onus is on you to acknowledge and appreciate that your ignorance has hurt others and to be responsible for yourself so you don’t keep hurting others.

Change. Fix your shit, and don’t do it again. Ask for help if you’re afraid you might.

Pay better attention to choices you make as a creator (and the choices made by past creators who influenced you) to understand how you hurt others and how you can stop, change, and grow. Examine why you like the things you like. Question how it may be racist because it almost certainly will be. This will be painful—the realization that everything you’ve done may be hurtful sucks a whole lot. The realization that your favorite books and movies growing up are racist sucks, too. You’ll start to see how deeply racism is ingrained in all your decision making as a creative person, and wokeness ain’t a picnic. It may entirely change how you create. But it’s necessary if you want to stop hurting others.

Follow people who don’t look like you. Learn from their perspective. Read about racism.

Be transparent. Should you remove or take down problematic work? It depends. Sometimes the best thing to do is to leave it up with disclaimers and apologies intact. Sometimes it’s better to take problematic work down so it stops causing pain. Sometimes you don’t have a choice. Transparency will give you something to point to as proof that you’re trying to learn and grow, but just remember that people of color have the right to be angry about racism at any time it hurts them, whether they are angry at you personally or not, whether the art is ten years old or two days old. It’s not your right to decide you’re forgiven. 

It IS your right to learn and grow, but remember your comfort is not more important than the damage caused by systematic racism to which you knowingly or unknowingly contribute—as a white person, you always have privilege. So as you learn and grow, be constantly willing to submit to education from people who experience racism and are willing to give it. Again, think of racism as a weapon: As a white person, you always have the weapon, and you can never put it down, even if you don’t want to use it.

Keep creating. You are still you, and you’re beautiful, and your experience matters. Be always learning, never finished. 

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Relationships get so bananas when you start deciphering the other person’s love language.

Like I thought I was just acquaintances with this person because they never told me details about themselves and we just talked movies and writing . But then they made time to have coffee with me and they showed up out of breath because they ran. Like. RAN to be on time for coffee with me?

And I was like “i don’t mind waiting” cause I never want to run

But they said they wanted every minute they could get because I’m so busy usually

Which is when it clicked that I didn’t get how much they considered me a friend because I just straight away didn’t see MY signs of affection in them and went “cool! Casual buds it is.” But now that I’m seeing their signs of affection, I feel a little silly for dismissing them like that even though I felt like we could be best bros.

Anyway, some people show affection through time or intensity or commitment and not vocally. I really have to remember that!

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sat through a lecture on paleolithic and neolithic culture and society and all i can think abt is how from as early as there have been anatomically modern humans (and even before in some cases) there is archaelogical evidence of gender and sexual variance, caring for the elderly and disabled, a drive to make art and music, a powerful affection for animals and each other, and a desire to learn as much as possible about the world as we can and yet people will still insist these things are not human nature and therefore unnatural, that the things we consider to be essentially human in nature are very recent in the span of our history or felt by only a rare few and not something integral to our humanity and success as a collective whole.

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1970s - photos by Stephen Shore

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This is not a joke or a fake. My sister got this on her phone and was smart and did not open it. I am proud of her. Seriously everyone do not open this and please repost this pic everywhere as much as you can. Lets watch each others backs on this please.

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Terfs: wombyn are their ovaries!!! Ovaries make a wombybybynnn. Accept that u are a womynbdgnn you have ovaries !!!!

Me, a trans man on the danger list for ovarian cancer and is going to get them removed in the distant or near future:

not for long