Side: Let's conceptualize this question with a hermeneutics of power knowledge. We recall Judith Butler's observation that "which pleasures shall live and which shall die is often a matter of which serve the legitimating practices of identify formation that take place within the matrix of gender norms." Gay sex escapes the procreative expectation, but in the reproduction of these norms still adheres to the same performance principal. Under this discursive prison sex can never truly be about mutual pleasure. While some say our pleasure possibilities are hindered, I invert the accusation that yours are limited by an unimaginative phallocentric philistinism.
Vers: A hypocritical invocation of Butler when your argument is based on the presupposition of a prediscursive original desire, a flagrant departure from the Foucauldian tendency which Butler follows, and their further claims on the futility of trying to imagine a queer culture fully independent of heterosexuality. Your critique further ignores the treatment of anal sex as the defining sin of homosexuality and its place within a serophobic signifying economy. I implore you to read Leo Bersani's exploration of the topic, Is The Rectum A Grave.
Bottom: Did I really make it that obvious? Dhdhdjdjfjf
Frankly some of you should be hornier over weirder shit. The fear of being too genuine is the enemy of art. Be a bit of a pervert. It's good for the health. Doesn't have to be a sexual thing just own up to being a bit obsessed in some cringe shit it's fine.