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Being poor is just a series of emergencies.

Emergencies really do crop up more often for poor people. Necessities, like vacuum cleaners or phones or bedding or shoes, need replacement or repair more often when you only buy the cheapest possible option.

Poor people’s health tends to be compromised by cheap, unhealthy food; stress; being around lots of similarly-poor contagious sick people who can’t afford to stay home or get treatment; inadequate healthcare; and often, hazardous and/or demanding work conditions – including longer hours allowing less time for sleep, home food prep, and mental or physical exercise.

Our homes may not offer much respite, as we’re less likely to have comfortable furniture for sleep or relaxation, more likely to be forced to rely on abusive people for financial reasons.  We’re also more likely to live in high-pollution areas, food deserts, and in poorly-maintained rental housing. We’re less likely to have access to heat or cooling even in dangerous weather.

For all these reasons and more, we get sick more, and when we do, we have less access to medical care – even the poor people lucky enough to have adequate insurance and a doctor who will provide appropriate care without discrimination may face significant difficulties getting to and from a doctor and pharmacy.

Poor people have less reliable transportation; any cars that are affordable for a poor person will usually need major repairs at least a couple times a year - more emergencies! - and poor people are less likely to live anywhere near an adequate public transit system. Just the cab fare to and from a doctor visit can easily cost a week’s worth of groceries or more. Ignoring medical needs as long as possible and not accessing preventative care causes massive future expense.

Many people are poor specifically because of disability, making work difficult or impossible in addition to the expenses of managing chronic illness, accessing mobility aids, or other costs associated with disability.

Poverty runs in families, and friend groups are often based heavily on class in our stratified society, so in addition to your own emergencies as a poor person, you’ll likely also be sharing resources to keep your loved ones alive. You’re not likely to have wealthier friends or family who can or will help.

Poor people are less likely to have enough clothing that we can wait to replace unwearable items. Because our clothing collections are smaller (and often secondhand and/or poorly made), our clothes wear out faster. Not having clothing that marks us as ‘respectable’ can bar us from employment, make us more vulnerable to violence from police or other harassers, and make resources like social programmes less accessible.

Overdraft fees target poor people specifically. Being a few pennies off in your maths can mean sudden huge bills that compound themselves. Predatory banks routinely run all charges before processing the deposits you make earlier in the day or week, which can mean huge overdraft fees can happen even if you deposit your money hours or days before trying to spend any of it.

There are thousands of examples. For poor people, unexpected expenses happen more often. And when you’re poor, any unexpected expense can be an emergency with serious consequences.

Even the cheapest (most temporary) solution for an emergency often breaks the bank.  People who aren’t poor don’t realize that an urgent expense of thirty dollars can mean not eating for a week. Poor people who try to save find our savings slipping away as emergency after emergency happens. Some poor people turn to predatory lending companies, not because they don’t know it’s a bad deal but because being hugely in debt tomorrow is better than your kids starving today.

I don’t think people who’ve never been poor realise what it’s like. It’s not that we’re terrible at budgeting, it’s that even the most perfect budget breaks under the weight of the basic maths: we do not have enough resources.

Cos we’re fucking poor.

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girl help i cant remember whether it happened in 2020 or 2021-

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Hibernation would fix me

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Wanna help Maire get through December 2021?

Hi everyone, I’ve been messaging with Maire and she is still very sick. She is excited though to have a surgery consultation in January to look forward to! This doctor may be able to help her.

However, in the meantime she is still totally unable to work as she’s in extreme amounts of pain and other overwhelming symptoms. Any time she has to get out of bed, her pain spikes and sometimes she passes out.

She’s survived for the past year on donations, since she is living in a Republican state with very little social safety net. I’m asking you to help her get by just a little longer.

This is what her unmet needs are for the next month as of today:

prescription meds for December $50ish/mo other meds $80 cat food $60-90/mo cat litter $40/mo storage for December $119 toiletries etc. $20/mo door dash subscription $10/mo sanity saving entertainment $23 new undies $14 pay back the very poor family she had to borrow $100 from

=$~546 total

She’ll also need help to actually get to her appointment in January, but right now her main priorities are getting through the month and paying back the broke mom with 2 kids that she had to borrow from for some unexpected expenses. It’s the end of the month and things are getting stressful for that family, so that’s a priority for her too.

Thank you again for all your help keeping Maire alive. Here’s hoping her January appointment goes well and she will finally get the medical care she needs.

Maire’s gfm: https://gofund.me/0799702d PayPaI: @MaireGrupp Venm0: @Maire114 Ca$h app: MaryBear23

Maire also sent me this picture of her and her cat Tuesday and asked me to add it to the post so you can see who you’ve been helping! There are also a lot more details on her gfm.

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Heating you, warming you, lightly toasting you🥰

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compilation

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I was searching for some pretty Hanukkah gifs to schedule a post tomorrow wishing my Jewish followers Happy Hanukkah and I found a fit/shape/body building site that posted this

And I thought to myself, I simply must show my Jewish followers fit Menorah Man

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People like to comment on my tattoos - I like to tell them this.

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― Anne Sexton

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a page from Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe that means a lot to me

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