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classic post rant quora phrase

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Do you know any radfems in real life?

-Yes

-No

-I think so but I'm not sure

-I used to but I don't anymore

-Other

Thanks for the submission Anon!

#yes… but dont get to see yall very often

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#a duck!

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the simple fact is that christianity is a very deeply and inherently paternalistic and patriarchal religion, and no matter how progressively any particular sect or church or individual tries to spin their particular version of it, nothing can change that. claiming christianity isn't inherently misogynistic is as willful and disingenuous a distortion of its very fundamentals as prosperity gospel.

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as of 1:30 am we finally finished packing and left and now as of 2:40 am we are in our hotel room knowing in the morning we need to go BACK to the storage unit in the morning to leave some extra things behind and re-pack other things… because we wont be able to fit our luggage in the car with everything that’s currently puzzle boxed in there (:

ugh im so tired idek how im gonna pack all this tomorrow 😭

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One feminist related thing that I think about a lot (and that’s impossible to really solve) is how much of beauty, fashion, and ‘femininity’ can be salvaged from patriarchy

#im pretty aware of the fact that i’ve started dressing a bit more femininely again over the course of this past year #while i still have hard no’s like i will never shave i will never wear makeup i won’t wear anything that exposes me in a way #where my thinking is impaired by awareness of my body being exposed #so by dressing more femininely i really just mean wearing more women’s button-downs and a maxi skirt on ocassion #but i realize how subconsciously this has been potentially motivated by being in such a male dominated environment #where men see me as less of a threat or challenge if i dress more femininely #and it’s not like i woke up one day going ‘i’m gonna dress femininely again so men in my program treat me better’ #it felt like my own decision like ‘oh i feel happy today it’s spring the weather is nice i want to dress to reflect how i feel!’ #but when i think about how differently i dressed at the beginning of the year on just an average day vs. now #the shift hasn’t been that extreme but it’s noticeable and i feel like it was my subconscious brain #wanting to fit in better

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these motherfuckers don’t deserve any pussy. fuck their dumb asses. ladies, when a guy asks you out and suggests a place to go, ALWAYS suggest another place to see if his ass is some lame pua wannabe. fellas, stop being a bunch of insecure pussies. this ISN’T how you prove yourselves to be alphas. smfh. real men know when to flex and when to chill, this was a fucking “chill” moment and he blew trying to be “alpha.” dumbass.

“do not tolerate disagreement” wtf?!?! some of you motherfuckers want a fucking dog NOT a woman. 

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yeah somehow i just do not feel all that bad for the poor college students whose graduations are ruined and who feel it is a “big hit to morale.” compared to life in the gaza strip i think somehow they’ll survive. the nyt’s bothsidesism is fucking ridiculous.

#what the nyt finds newsworthy these days… their coverage of these protests is so fucking evil #if my mom didnt use my subscription i would not have one #i also read the op-ed from the music professor at columbia where it was like #ohhh the protests r not peaceful! i can’t have my students listen to john cage’s pretentious ass 4’33” because my poor #israeli students will have to hear the chanting of the protestors instead of peaceful street noises #like yeah that’s the fucking point of civil disobedience. to disrupt #it is not a step too far for protests to shut down college campuses that is the entire fucking point #shut things down. force the administrations to divest. force the public to not turn a blind eye to genocide

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ugh im so tired idek how im gonna pack all this tomorrow 😭

#packing up ur whole life sucks like #it’s every single belonging that u need and use on a daily basis #and having to judge what to put in storage because it’s only a necessity while at school #like my personal kitchenware etc. #and what i actually want to have over the summer at home

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Landlords are currently making videos about the newest hot commodity; mobile home parks!

There is no place in the nation where a lot rent should cost $1000 a month, and yet I’m seeing lot rents hit that point. I paid less in rent in 2015 for a 2 bed apartment in a metro area for that.

Remember too, mobile homes are usually not mobile, unless you have access to $2000-5000 to hire a company to move your home from one lot to another.

What this means is that private landlords are now pricing the elderly, the disabled, and the destitute out of one of the last affordable forms of housing, and oftentimes, that person has to leave behind the home they bought on the lot too. They’re lucky if the landlord will give them a few grand or waive their past due rent in exchange for the title of the home.

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I might still have to vote for Marlene Dietrich bc she’s just so cool, but I couldn’t let this round pass without sending the best Kim Novak propaganda I know of (and apologies if I missed it when I checked the tag): https://youtu.be/5oivcG31tDY?si=E6h_U5EKYxxZBkk7

This is a clip of the dance scene in Picnic and it is one of the hottest scenes in cinema. I first saw it as a kid and it’s stuck with me for almost 30 years. When Kim starts clapping to the beat and descends to the dance floor, everyone stops, holds their breath. It’s night, there’s a light sheen of sweat on everyone from the heat, you can practically live in the atmosphere. The older women watching her lament the loss of their youth, her kid sister jealously despairs at her impossible beauty and instant ability to draw attention to her, and William Holden, an unsuitable trainwreck of a man, can’t take his eyes off her. It is exquisite.

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high me just remembered that not high me left a half container of blue bunny peanut butter bunny ice cream in the freezer the other day :D

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Were anti-porn feminists being hysterical? Censorious prudes? In the age of internet porn, DVDs and video cassettes, let alone centerfolds and seedy theaters, can be joked about as nostalgic throwbacks. It may seem to some, looking back, that feminist anti-porn campaigners must have been overtaken by anxiety about a mass culture that was becoming more open about sex, and that was quite capable of separating fantasy from fact. Feminists, anxious about sex under patriarchy found it easier, a group of pro-porn feminists wrote in 1983, “to attack the picture of what oppresses us than the mysterious, elusive . . . thing itself.” The implication is that anti-porn feminists were overestimating the power of porn: they had lost perspective. But what if the true significance of the perspective of anti-porn feminists lay not in what they were paying attention to, but when? What if they weren’t hysterical, but prescient?

It was my students who first led me to think about this question. Discussing the "porn question" is more or less mandatory in an introductory class on feminist theory. But my heart wasn't really in it. I imagined that the students would find the anti-porn position prudish and passé, just as I was trying hard to make them see the relevance of the history of feminism to the contemporary moment. I needn't have worried. They were riveted. Could it be that pornography doesn't merely depict the subordination of women, but actually makes it real, I asked? Yes, they said. Does porn silence women, making it harder for them to protest against unwanted sex, and harder for men to hear those protests? Yes, they said. Does porn bear responsibility for the objectification of women, for the marginalization of women, for sexual violence against women? Yes, they said, yes to all of it.

It wasn't just the women students talking; the men were saying yes as well, in some cases even more emphatically. One young woman pushed back, citing the example of feminist porn. "But we don't watch that," the men said. What they watched was the hardcore stuff, the aggressive stuff—what is now, on the internet, the free stuff. My male students complained about the routines they were expected to perform in sex; one of them asked whether it was too utopian to imagine sex that was loving and mutual and not about domination and submission. My women students talked about the neglect of women's pleasure in the pornographic script, and wondered whether it had something to do with the absence of pleasure in their own lives. "But if it weren't for pornography," one woman said, "how would we ever learn to have sex?"

Porn meant so much to my students; they cared so much about it. Like the anti-porn feminists of forty years ago, they had a heightened sense of porn's power, a strong conviction that porn did things in the world. Talking with my graduate teaching assistant after that seminar (she was a handful of years younger than me), I realized what should have been obvious from the start. My students belonged to the first generation truly to be raised on internet pornography. Almost every man in that class would have had his first sexual experience the moment he first wanted it, or didn't want it, in front of a screen. And almost every woman in the class would have had her first sexual experience, if not in front of a screen, then with a boy whose first sexual experience had been. In that sense, her experience too would have been mediated by a screen: by what the screen instructed him to do. While almost all of us today live in a world where porn is ubiquitous, my students, born in the final years of the last century, were the first to have come of age sexually in that world.

My students would not have stolen or passed around magazines or videos, or gathered glimpses here and there. For them sex was there, fully formed, fully interpreted, fully categorized—teen, gangbang, MILF, stepdaughter—waiting on the screen. By the time my students got around to sex IRL—later, it should be noted, than teenagers of previous generations—there was, at least for the straight boys and girls, a script in place that dictated not only the physical moves and gestures and sounds to make and demand, but also the appropriate affect, the appropriate desires, the appropriate distribution of power. The psyches of my students are products of pornography. In them, the warnings of the anti-porn feminists seem to have been belatedly realized: sex for my students is what porn says it is.

-Amia Srinivasan, The Right to Sex: Feminism in the Twenty-First Century

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Can I please have a cappuccino but with oat milk and a big pump of sugarfree chocolate syrup and... Lol I remember your stupid ass from 2,300 years ago. We were living in seleucis on the tigris river during the same span of summers... do you rememver a red ibis bird with beautiful plumes? Yeah U were a sort of dull brown goat that didn't train and dint make milk or kids. Yeah? No? Eventually the Zoroastrian homesteaders who owned you started feeding you contaminated barley to try and kill you lol. Maybe you remember the ergotism? Anyway. also I want one of these 🫵stupid little breads in the case

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#6 exclusively weed #my dad’s an alcoholic so #never alcohol for me

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oh no i think im gonna cry now

#i dont want this to end #why do i not want this to end when im also so lonely here? #but im lonely at home too #im lonely everywhere #at least here i can sometimes feel connected to others #even if i’m so so aware of how shallow that connection seems to be #compared to the connections they all form with each other #and i’m sad that i’m going to miss some people more than i’m sure they’re going to miss me