childlessoldcatlady

[childlessoldcatlady]

all rape is premeditated. theres no "he was innocent until he raped that woman." once a man formulates the idea in his head that it's ok to hurt a woman, he deserves to be gunned down.

[childlessoldcatlady]

It never ceases to feel odd to me when people freak out when a woman refuses to excuse a misogynistic and violent man and be the “bigger person”. You’re not under any obligation to see the humanity in someone who refuses to see it in you. Don’t give into a mentality that will keep you trapped, allowing someone to control and disrespect you while you gently turn the other cheek.

[childlessoldcatlady]

I'm reading up about "gender affirming care" in this country and after every mention of a sex organ/characteristic like breasts, uterus, testicles, etc. there's an obligatory parenthesis saying "we use this word for clarity, even though we understand that you might prefer other words for it!" and I don't understand how that right there doesn't clear this up for everyone: if you possess too much self hatred to hear your body parts referred to as their neutral medical names you are in no state of mind to undergo surgery to remove them. You need therapy first and foremost.

[childlessoldcatlady]

soooo do all the women who have fought tooth and nail against the notion of women being inferior to men mean nothing to her compared to men who want to be women or...?

[childlessoldcatlady]

It is not a coincidence that asexuality is becoming more popular as mainstream depiction of human sexuality is becoming more violent. Perfectly normal, healthy young people, are looking at this filthy and feeling understandable disgusted by it. But because sex is depicted by porn and online discourse as violent and "kinky", the disgust for this type of sex becomes disgust of sex in general.

You are not asexual, you are a sane person in an insane world.

[childlessoldcatlady]

people make fun of the "oh you only hate her because she's a WOMAN" crazy feminist mentality but yeah actually you guys do only hate her because she's a woman a lot of times. for every hated female tv character there's ten male tv characters who are a million times worse and still given at least the "intriguing morally grey character" treatment if not straight up praise. for every hated female celebrity in real life there's one hundred famous men who have done worse and don't get half the hate she does.

[childlessoldcatlady]

I think we've all seen news of former porn stars who tried to pursue another career, but were fired from their jobs because men recognized them. Now, imagine this in the era of OnlyFans. Thousands of young women are faced with the harsh reality that they cannot make enough money to survive by selling nudes/pornographic videos online. What are the chances of them being able to hold down a regular job before one of their "clients" recognizes them? That is going to be a gigantic social crisis. And we will need to demand government measures to protect these women or they will kill themselves in droves.

[childlessoldcatlady]

behind every successful man in history is a wife he stole ideas from, took advantage of, and likely abused.

[childlessoldcatlady]

Shrug. This has probably been said before and better but I think in a lot of ways women are still going through witch trials. (e.g. if she lives shes evil if she dies shes innocent) If a woman dies she was a real abuse victim, if she lived she lied about it. If a woman kills herself she was in real pain, if she gets over it it was just a cry for attention.

[childlessoldcatlady]

people on tumblr dot com will be like:

ummmm pornography has ALWAYS existed???? you see this sketch of intercourse from 1564? this is TOTALLY comparable to millions upon millions of videos of women being abused on camera in our modern age lol stop being such a prude we've always been breaking boundaries 🤛🤛

[childlessoldcatlady]

I can’t even express how bad I feel after reading this..

[childlessoldcatlady]

calling women who exist in their natural state "cross dressers" is wildddd

dumb ass TRAs 😭

[childlessoldcatlady]

ah, so gender is just mannerism! Got it :)

[childlessoldcatlady]

“Passing” as a concept is bs but this is especially true for non-binary. You’re asking everyone else to pretend that we can’t tell what sex you are and to be up to date on gender trends so we can accurately guess how you want us to perceive you. Like is [some hypothetical male] wearing an ugly dress and lipstick in a trying to be a woman way or a trying to be non-binary way. We know we’re supposed to pretend he’s not a man but we also have to guess if we’re supposed to tell if he’s just badly dressing up as a woman or is deliberately being some other third thing.

Many trans identifying females only perform androgyny in ways that cater to the male gaze. Sure they’ll have a stylish short haircut and wear flannels but they almost always remove their body hair and continue to wear makeup in a “lighter” style. Unlike mean hairy butch dykes, who they would never look like (gross) they “reject gender” without meaningfully challenging gendered roles. They seek to position themselves as “not women” while safely obeying the most sacred rules of presenting as a woman. By adopting new pronouns or a new label they can justify fulfilling the tomboy, girl next door, effortless beauty male fantasy. A woman who rejects the patriarchal beauty standards without rejecting her identity as a woman is infinitely more transgressive than a woman who takes no meaningful actions and invents a new label to reframe her conformity as deviance. It’s just lazy.

[childlessoldcatlady]

I want fantasy and period piece shows and movie made for adults that don't have brothel scenes like that. Like, either show it for what it is with no titillation or don't show it at all. So sick of brothel scenes. If you can't get men to watch your shows otherwise, then cater to women or have more fight scenes idk. Just enough is enough. We can't get out of the fucking brothel.

[childlessoldcatlady]

“Should men be allowed to buy and sell women? Isn’t there something wrong with men getting off on sex with women who don’t desire them? This is about men’s choice and men’s freedom at the expense of women, and often argued for in the name of women. Yet the tendency to focus on women’s rather than men’s choices asserts itself whenever there is a conversation about male violence against women. Domestic violence: Why did she stay? Rape: What was she wearing? The ‘grey areas’ of consensual/non-consensual sex: But did she actually say ‘no’? Prostitution: But what if she wants to?”

- Julie Bindel, Feminism for Women

[childlessoldcatlady]

it's always good to remember everything on earth was shit until like 30 years ago