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A black dragón floating above the clouds

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Today’s advice from your Goth Auntie

Stop clenching your jaw. Drink some water, take your meds.

No one is managing to stay in touch with everyone and everything. It's not just you.

The Lurking Horror tried to invade Curseyland (the cupboard above the fridge). There was squabbling.

❤️ Auntie Jilli

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katara is one of those impossibly cool people who “has a guy” for everything. like run into any sort of problem and she’s just like “hang on i gotchu. just contact this number and they’ll know what to do.” but half the time that guy is just sokka

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They’re boyfriends 🥰

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NASA advertising "do you want to be an astronaut" to tumblr users surely means something. What have you found out there, NASA? What have you found that you believe tumblr users, specifically, are best equipped to handle?

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I'm often struck by comments made in Maintenance Phase (the a wellness debunking podcast) but I was listening to an episode this week and was struck by this section and I don't have an audio editing program currently so I typed it all up

(M=Michael, A=Aubrey, from the episode "'French Women Don't Get Fat'" where they discuss that book. CW, this is a book that basically prescribes an eating disorder)

M – -But then, I mean—in between the lines, what you’re getting is, this is a woman who can basically sit down in a weekend and write 140 pages about food, and wine, and the places she likes to eat, and the farmer’s—the specific farmer’s markets in [Paris, France] that she likes going to. But then all of her actual advice is this way to, like, deny herself pleasure. It seems that she spent her life constantly thinking about this!

A – Yeah, in some ways I do wonder about this whole diet book being, like, a letter to her dad.

M – Oh?

A – “I did it! Look how much I did it! I did it so much!” Do you know what I mean? Like, that stuff stays with people, those experiences of body policing, and unwanted comments, and, like, judgements.

M – Yeah.

A – I often wonder this when I’m reading diet books, is like ‘how much of this is you continuing to differentiate yourself from either fat people (which is, like, all of them are that), and/or some past bad experience of feeling like someone else was judging your body, to be like, “No I did it the most! I’m the best at being thin, I’m the best at avoiding these judgements, and you can’t get me now, because I did it perfectly,” right?

M – Right!

A – I have a lot of compassion for it, and that unleashes a whole new wave of garbage people doing garbage things, right?

M – What I was really struck by, reading this, was how, like, how desperate people are for this stuff, that somebody can basically spend decades of their life denying themselves one of their primary pleasures, just so that they can stay thin. That’s how much of a hold this stuff has on our society, that like an individual would do this, and would effectively just live with deprivation.

A – Yeah.

M – She talks about, you have to make yogurt the night before, she makes sure to drink a huge glass of water 30 minutes before she eats every time, she goes for a walk before breakfast, she lives on the fifteenth floor of some building in New York and she often takes the stairs up. She talks about making her own copies so that she has an excuse to get up and walk around during the day. She’s thought about this every single day for her whole life, and she’s essentially prescribing this as, like, “This is, this is what you should do!”

A – Yeah, “This is how you should live your life!”

M – Right! Once you really get down to it, it’s just, this is a calorie restriction diet that you’re on for the rest of your life.

A – Right. She’s not counting calories, but it is very intensely about restricting calories by restricting high-calorie foods and by restricting kind of all foods! Just eat that leek water!

M – Right! And staying thin should almost become like a part-time job that you have, right? Like it’s this thing that occupies so much of your time. She says that you should only eat out on special occasions, you should always eat in—I mean, I, I could list fifty more of these! It’s just, like, the ways that she has adjusted her life, to remain thin.

A – If you’re not eating out and you’re only eating in, like, eating out is often a social activity. That may also mean, for her, that she’s restricting her social opportunities, or that that’s what she’s recommending to other people, or that that’s how other people are taking it. Right? It’s like, you can’t be around other people when food is present, which is many of the times that we gather together as humans, there is food present! This is calling for not just a reorganization of the foods that you eat but a reorganization of your life and your connections to other people, and it just… is so bizarre to market this level of restriction, and judgement, and everything else, as, like, “Easy breezy! You’re gonna love the food! It’s all the leek water you can eat!”

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Mobility assistance

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hey did you know??? that if you stop stretching and maintaining mobility in your body then it goes away?? things get tight and you can't move the way that you used to??? and when you decide to try getting a stretch routine going that the first week fucking sucks because you keep going 'damn i used to be able to do this no problem' and then you have to switch gears and be kind to yourself and just focus on getting better from here instead of berating yourself for dropping the good habits in the first place??? and your body never stops aging so you gotta keep taking care of it and sometimes you gotta take care of it extra in certain areas because of things that happened when you were younger and it's boring and sometimes hurts but it's so necessary???

i am yelling this at myself right now i am going through An Experience (trying to get into a routine of body maintenance again for my physical and mental health)

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I can’t wait to hear how the bees are also Hamas.

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An Inuit otter amulet. Engraved and pigmented ivory, c.1870-1880.

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Please keep work place safety in mind at all times

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Wow, just noticed yet another instance of a trans women who appears to have had her account nuked for making a post about tumblr's obviously broken and biased moderation system, and the offending post appears to have been scrubbed from the site (I went looking for my reblog from less than a week ago and it's just gone).

Tumblr staff can not have it both ways. You cannot say the blatant instances of anti-trans hate speech and harassment, much of which does get reported, are abhorrent but technically not in violation of the terms of service under the excuse of "free speech" when you are at the same time deleting accounts for merely criticizing how you run this place!

At the risk of having my own account scrubbed I gotta say, that is some stunning hypocrisy. Also, I think the previous sentence demonstrates that this has a chilling effect! The way the TOS is being unevenly applied and the utter lack of clarity on how these decisions get made, makes the rest of us feel afraid to speak up. None of us know where exactly the lines are and it kinda seems like they're drawn and enforced according to staff's arbitrary whims!

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A Jessie/Misty zine is being made to help raise money for Rachael Lillis! I'll absolutely be doing a piece for this~ Join if you can!

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A strange alien doctor stands near the unconscious body of Padme Amidala. “It appears she has lost the will to live.” A older man with a limp hobbles closer with the aid of a cane. “That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard,” says Dr. Gregory House.

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I taught Matthew Mercer how to play DnD, and you can hear that story if you listen to me talk about something very important first

Please help me raise money to get Rajaa and her family out of Gaza so they can be safe.