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Focusing on goals that matter in 2024!

Yesterday my wife and I were talking about leaving 2023 and hoping to experience a much better 2024. This past year was incredibly difficult on both of us, with my cancer diagnosis (and eventual prostatectomy in November) and her returning to work full-time to support our family. I’m so thankful for her and Gabriel, as they’ve encouraged me daily to deal with the challenges and changes this…

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Emotional #10: Your Emotional Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 1 – A Loving God)

Goal: To develop Emotional Healthy Adult Mode behaviors due to your connection with a loving God.      Your Emotions are biological, physiological, and psychological messengers that are “hard-wired” into your being and are gifts from God in that they help you to experience a range of emotions such as happiness, anger, joy, fear, surprise, disgust, shame, and love, along with a host of other…

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The Triple P’s of Loving Others: PREPARE, PEACE and PASSION by Dr. Ken McGill 

Download a printer-friendly PDF of the Triple A’s of Loving Yourself and the Triple P’s of Loving Your Neighbor the-triple-as-and-ps-of-loving-yourself-and-your-neighbor-by-dr.-ken-mcgill-2023 Use this quick-reference chart to prepare your mind to create then employ the best cognitive (and spiritual and emotional) strategies to generate peace and passion with those you love. As mentioned in…

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The Triple A’s of Loving Yourself: ASSESS, ATTEND and ATTUNE by Dr. Ken McGill

Download a printer-friendly PDF of the Triple A’s of Loving Yourself and the Triple P’s of Loving Your Neighbor the-triple-as-and-ps-of-loving-yourself-and-your-neighbor-by-dr.-ken-mcgill-2023 Use this quick-reference chart to reflect on areas of your life that deserve your assessment (to change), attention (to heal), and energy to create internal and eventually interpersonal attunement (to…

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Cognitive #12: Your Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 3 – Loving Your Neighbor)

Goal: To develop Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode behaviors that demonstrate you’re Loving Your Neighbor. This has to be one of the most important entries in the Healthy Adult Mode series, and allow me to share why I’ve reached this conclusion. Most human beings are relational beings, and as such we’d like to experience various types of love in abundance, along with (but not limited to) values like…

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Cognitive #11: Your Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 2 – Loving Yourself)

Goal: To develop Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode behaviors that demonstrate you’re Loving Yourself “The concept of differentiation has to do with self and not with others.  Differentiation deals with working on one’s own self, with becoming a more responsible person, and permitting others to be themselves” – Murray Bowen (Family Therapy in Clinical Practice, p. 468). One of the most rewarding…

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Cognitive #10: Your Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 1 – A Loving God)

Goal: To develop Cognitive Healthy Adult Mode behaviors due to your connection with a loving God “I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know Him better.  I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you…” Ephesians 1:17 –…

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Spiritual #12: Your Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 3 — Loving Your Neighbor)

Goal: To develop Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode behaviors that demonstrate you’re Loving Your Neighbor In Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors, Part 1 of 3, we looked at the 19 core components of Agape Love, how they serve as a foundation for Healthy Adult Mode behavior, and how God would like to pour these into our spirit freely and abundantly for our benefit.  Our engagement in the Healthy…

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Spiritual #11: Your Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 2 – Loving Yourself)

Goal: To develop Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode behaviors that demonstrate you’re Loving Yourself You may recall my shortened definition of Wisdom is “to become skilled in living,” and a word-picture of the Greek word Sophia describes Wisdom as an artist, or any person standing before a blank canvas, who creates (with God’s help, inspiration and guidance) a beautiful picture that depicts their…

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Spiritual #11: Your Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 2 – Loving Yourself)

Goal: To develop Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode behaviors that demonstrate you’re Loving Yourself You may recall my shortened definition of Wisdom is “to become skilled in living,” and a word-picture of the Greek word Sophia describes Wisdom as an artist, or any person standing before a blank canvas, who creates (with God’s help, inspiration and guidance) a beautiful picture that depicts their…

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Spiritual #10: Your Spiritual Healthy Adult Mode Behaviors (Part 1 – A Loving God)

Goal: To understand the nature of God (His Love and Wisdom for Our Heart) as Healthy Adults  “We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity” – Step 2 “We love because He first loved us” – I John 4:19 (TNIV) Healthy Adult Characteristic #1 – LOVE: You knew it was coming!  The titles of all the books I’ve written begin with “Cultivating Love,” as the virtue…

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Spiritual #9: Introduction to the Healthy Adult Mode Series

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Spiritual #8: Discovering Your Spiritual Gifts

Goal: To discover your Spiritual Gifts and how your gift(s) assist you in your effort to live and love your neighbor(s) effectually. “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works,  which God prepared in advance for us to do” – Ephesians 2:10 (TNIV) The good thing about learning to love yourself and learning to love your neighbor as yourself is you don’t have to do…

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Spiritual #7: The 66% - 33% Solution (Part 3 of 3)

Spiritual #7: The 66% – 33% Solution (Part 3 of 3)

Goal: To understand your role in the change, healing and growth processes of your “neighbors.” The third and final part of the “66% – 33% Solution is just that, it’s a “Solution,” and allow me to explain what I mean by this term. In Part One, we identified among the many gifts we receive from God is the gift of our Conscience, which helps us to know and understand the character and true meaning…

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Spiritual #6: The 66% - 33% Solution (Part 2 of 3)

Spiritual #6: The 66% – 33% Solution (Part 2 of 3)

Goal: To be intentional and consistent with choices then behaviors that demonstrate healthy expressions of self-love.      In this post we’re going to look at Part Two of the 66% – 33% Solution, which I call “the middle commandment,” and this commandment is to Love Yourself.  In Part One, we identified that among the many gifts we receive from God is the gift of our Conscience, which helps us as…

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Twenty-Three (Goals, Activities and Skills) for 2023

Twenty-Three (Goals, Activities and Skills) for 2023

Good morning to you and good morning to 2023! As you begin to think about the new year and what you’d like to accomplish, allow me to suggest a template to organize your thoughts, goals, activity and skills you’d like to achieve. My suggestions are threefold. First, think about viewing then developing your goals (which are a reflection of your values, needs, behaviors and priorities) through the…

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Spiritual #5: The 66% - 33% Solution (Part 1 of 3)

Spiritual #5: The 66% – 33% Solution (Part 1 of 3)

Goal: To personally and relationally benefit from the application of principles embedded in the Two Greatest Commandments (Luke 10: 25 – 28). To achieve this goal I’d like to introduce you to a concept I call “The Sixty-six and Thirty-three Percent Solution.” It’s based on a Theological premise located in the Bible commonly known as “The Two Greatest Commandments.”  The premise is simple and has…

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