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I saw this today and thought somebody might need it

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“Well it made you a stronger pers-”

HEY DID YOU KNOW PEOPLE DON’T HAVE TO ENDURE TRAUMA TO BE STRONG

“Well, at least it taught you to show kindn-”

HEY DID YOU KNOW PEOPLE DON’T HAVE TO ENDURE TRAUMA TO SHOW KINDNESS

“Well, at least it made you into who you are toda-”

I’M PRETTY SURE MY TRAUMA ISN’T WHAT MADE ME LOVE BASEBALL, KAREN

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Gentle reminder that the brain gets used to intense stimuli over time and that it tends to seek out things that make you feel bad again once you’re in a better place

So if you’re suffering from trauma, abuse or depression then don’t beat yourself up about wanting to feel bad again and seeking out triggers or abuse. It’s not because you deserve any of that, it’s because your brain was exposed to bad things for so long that it can’t make sense of how you’re doing now.

We’ve all been there. It’s going to be okay. You can do this.

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victims of abuse be like, this person has now made me cry myself to sleep about 30 times, i have flashbacks of things they’ve done and said to me, they know how to hit me right in my worst insecurity and guilt so i feel horrible for days and months, their comments make me feel worthless and like i shouldn’t even be alive, and being around them makes me feel small and meaningless and sometimes suicidal but maybe that’s just me, maybe they’re not abusive? i have to give them benefit of the doubt, what if i’m not justified to kick them out of my life?

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Poisonous abuser.

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Just an important message for my fellow trauma survivors:

What happened to you wasn’t fair. Don’t downplay it, or tell yourself that other people have it worse. The bottom line is that it should NEVER have happened. What you feel about it is real and valid. It might not be okay right now, but one day it will be. Thank you for surviving. I’m so glad you’re here. 

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Part of my trauma journal. Ok to rb.

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I hope Chad enjoys being single

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I wasn't mature for my age, they were just a pedophile.

#trama #rape #pedophile #rape culture #asult

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behind closed doors

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Geneital response just means it was sex related stimulus, dosn't mean it was wanted or liked, certainly dosn't mean it was consented to.

Emily Nagoski, from her ted talk: the truth about unwanted arousal.

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Just going to leave this here.

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Cycle of abuse (click to enlarge)

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Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. 

It was not your fault, you’re safe, it’s over.

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you are more than your abuse

(also I’m aware I spelled trauma wrong lol)

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no matter how much I hide it, my abuse still shows. I jump when I’m called, I shake violently when people raise their voice, I am terrified of people seeing what I’m doing; I have severe performance anxiety and I start to cry when I don’t do something perfectly on the first try. my scars may not be physical but they are just as visible and I hate every one of them. but more than anything, I hate my parents for making me a freak like this. I hate them so much it hurts.