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i coupd have learned magnetic by illit to preform but we scrapped it and im so saaaaaaaddddd

#did i want to dance it for my boyfriend. MAYEB.

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i coupd have learned magnetic by illit to preform but we scrapped it and im so saaaaaaaddddd

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iHELP i just watched the my kink is karma video and i loved the whole thing but then at the end she had a small bow and i went oh no and she used it wrong, < theres nothing funnier to me than when the existence of a bow n arrow pulls me out of whatever im watching

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some of my favorite replies to this tweet. happy lesbian visibility week!

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for the ask game: you are in my mind THE falsesymmetry and to a lesser extent kath eliz person

YAAAAYY thank youuu ^-^

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me going to bed tonight

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@yawningawning

her ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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her ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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which one’s toshiro and whys he autistic?

[ID: full body colored illustration of toshiro from the dungeon meshi manga. /End ID]

THIS FREAKIN GUY!!!! anyway

[ID: anonymous tumblr ask: "would def love to hear ur autistic shuro thoughts". /End ID]

awesome. rant under the cut because it will be long

So before we understand why Toshiro is the way he is we must first understand two things abt him:

1. his household situation is a very traditional clan of warriors type situation. his father is very strict and he left his homeland to go to the Island and explore the dungeon to train and become a warrior to be someone suited as the family head

2. Eastern and Western cultures of respect/propriety are different, and Ryoko Kui highlights it well even in her fantasy world.

With that in mind, heres some bullet point rapid fire thoughts that consume my current state of dunmeshi brain:

Toshiro has an avoidant personality. He fears upsetting others due to his upbringing, and rarely tells others how he feels not because he thinks they would simply understand him but because he doesn't want to seem rude and imposing / cause offense to others especially since he's not in his own homeland / hes a foreigner that should respect the land's customs, not his own wishes.

Setting boundaries is hard for everyone, but especially autistic (and some other ND, like those with Avoidant Personality Disorder) people. Those with ASD, at least in my experience, don't want to be isolated from others. So they mask.

They mask what? their desires. their true selves. their opinions. their discomfort. all for the sake of pleasing others (who are often neurotypical)

With that in mind, suddenly, what Maizuru said abt him as a child makes sense. Due to his strict upbringing, Toshiro had to more or less hide his preferences and force himself to adapt to the rigid constraints of his culture and the pressure to be the next family head, this responsibility is his burden to bear and he cannot be someone who expresses his selfish desires instead of focusing on being a strong warrior and leader

"Why did he say he hate Laios and that it should've been obvious that he disliked/found Laios' treatment of him uncomfortable??" BECAUSE IT SHOULD BE OBVIOUS. I'm not going to write off Laios' autism/autistic coding, but its baffling (note: definitely racism and bias for white autistic ppl) to me that a lot of ppl don't see Toshiro's perspective and straight up ignores it. This is a lack of wanting to be rude by speaking up that is based on culture difference on Toshiro's part, and straight up ignorant of his microagressions/racism and lack of self awareness on Laios' end. They were both right, they were both wrong too. This is a complicated conflict that cannot be boiled down to simple ableist/the NT vs ND divide. There's something called . intersectionality. Which brings me to the next point

Toshiro never actually hated Laios. He found him uncomfortable, yes. But he didn't /hate/ him, he was speaking out because he's had enough!!! he's done tolerating Laios' racist bullshit, and he's done following the arbitrary Eastern rules of respecting others and not being rude!!! He. Wants. Laios. To Understand. What. He. Was. Feeling. Because he just had enough!!!!! alright!!! he's at his limit hes at his breaking point, the one he loves is now probably beyond saving, and this is a good time as any to break the news to Laios that he thinks that Laios is impulsive and doesn't fully understand how his actions have consequences!!! Hes right abt this. His feelings on this is valid, just as valid as Laios'

General autistic traits I find from Toshiro: his admiration of Falin's indifference towards insects ("woah shes so brave and gentle!! just like me, fr!!!"), His lack of regard for his own needs and wants (needing to sleep and eat and drink) because he was super focused on saving Falin, His lack of like drastic expression changes, his discomfort with physical touch when it's initiated without consent (see: Laios hugging ppl extra bonus art by Ryoko Kui), his manner of like speaking short and concise, people pleasing tendencies, his like quick way of combat, rule upholder/routine following enjoyer, he seems distant from others even those he consider family not cuz of like any terrible reason but hes just. someone who enjoys his own time alone like. yeah

aannnnndd. thats abt it? i think.

Big part of this is definitely me relating to Shiro as an Asian (specifically chinese indonesian) person who is probably Autistic lmao. I hope this brings more insight on why Toshiro is actually one of the silliest and epiccest dunmeshi characters ever I love him

#OH HELL YEAH

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theyre little clouds w stars n moons n um um. mywife

GOT EARRINGS THAT REMIND ME OF MY WIIIIIFE

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GOT EARRINGS THAT REMIND ME OF MY WIIIIIFE

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i miss my boyfriwnd.:(

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maybe this is too easy but anthea

GOOD. I WAS HOPING

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for the fictional character expert ask game: falsesymmetry

CORRECT. yeah

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Youre the expert on Lizzie and Ren/Lizzie from last life 2 me. Fairy fort in general <3

^-^ WIN ehe

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i love having mutuals who are the authority on a specific fictional character

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one of the kids is getting birthday wishes, you know? and she goes up to one of our like. adult-adults, you know, and she’s listing off like “i hope god smiles upon you and you have a wonderful day and your year goes well and you’re blessed” and the other one of my kids goes “and you get a bunch of hot dads this year,” and then our adult-adult goes, with the most disappointed voice: “ken. don’t say that last part.”

imgoing to die

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