fairlyradmother

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Of course

radfems reblog this if it’s okay to inbox you for a casual chat sometimes. I need more friends on here, I’ve had a radfem blog for like 6 months but haven’t made any acquaintances really

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gender and theism are very similar.

I say I don't believe in any "God" and theists say, "Oh, so you worship the devil?" No, you're still thinking of it in a theist context. I literally do not believe in any of it. But they cannot imagine a world without this made-up dichotomy, just like people obsessed with gender.

I'll say I don't believe in gender ideology, AKA the idea that the socially enforced roles assigned to each sex are innate, and they'll say, "Oh, so you think that anyone with a vulva should be forced to be a woman (which in their mind means the feminine gender role) and anyone with a penis should be forced to be a man (again, they mean the masculine gender role)." Like, no! Your perception of the world has been hijacked by gender roles! Which sadly is inevitable bc we live in a world so thoroughly drowned in gender. They don't understand that I don't fucking believe in any of this!! They literally are so deep in gender koolaid bc of our extremely gendered world that they cannot conceive of a reality outside of it. They see that in our society humans with vulvas are forced to be feminine, docile, etc, and males to be dominant, strong, etc, but they still see these roles as intrinsically linked to sex, so they think the solution is changing their sex to fit what gender role they like best. So when I say that this is wrong, they think I must be a conservative who thinks that people should be forced to conform to their "assigned gender", bc in their mind there's no way to escape your forced gender role other than attempting to change your sex. There shouldn't be any genders assigned to anyone!!! Your sex is a neutral biological reality that has nothing to do with your personality and behavior outside of gendered socialization!!! But they literally cannot conceive of a world without gender!! It's fucking insane!!! How can they not see how fucking crazy it is!!!

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That poor woman. She has a second kid on the way and her husband pulls this

Ok time for another round of the TIM checklist

He came out when the attention was on a woman in the family ✅️

He is not out in public so he's still enjoying straight male privilege ✅️

Spent a lot of money on gender affirming clothes ✅️

Those gender affirming clothes aren't even feminine yet practical like a pair of women's jeans ✅️

He spent in on panties and bras when he doesn't even have boobs ✅️

He had a boner while wearing women's panties ✅️

He made up a statistic about how much women spend on clothes a month to justify it ✅️

He then spends three times that amount when his wife in her last trimester ✅️

Claimed its OK because it came from "his" money ✅️ No sir when you have one kid another one on the way large purchases need approval from both parents

When she called him out on why he has more money i.e. male privilege, she took time off for maternity leave and he has the fatherhood advantage, he claimed to be triggered to try to make her feel bad for hurting his feelings ✅️

Not planning on any what ifs ✅️ like what if the there's a complication during the birth and they have more medical bills than they expected? What if recovery takes longer and they consider spending on a cleaning lady or getting take out or prepared meals?

This should be the real trans bingo

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Eu já pensei muitas vez no Lula. Queria entregar meu coração pro Lula. Mas Jair Bolsonaro roubou meu coração.... Eu não sei o que se passa na minha mente! Tento pensar no Lula, mas dá sempre errado! Jair Bolsonaro, o que você me fez?.... Eu já fui louca por ti, Jair! Mas você não quer me dar atenção! Tatuei seu nome em mim! Mas você só tem me dado vácuo! Será que eu tenho que fazer algo? Pra você notar que eu existo? Jair Bolsonaro, eu só quero a tua rolaaa: Encaixada na minha xotaaaa!~ JAIR BOLSONARO! EU SÓ QUERO A TUA ROLA ENCAIXADAAAAAA NA MINHA XOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO taaaann~ <3

Alok

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What do you think of mandatory vasectomies for boys at puberty to fight teen pregnancy?

I believe in bodily autonomy for all

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hottt take but I don't think KAM/men are trash/yes all men/I hate men rhetoric "alienates potential allies" at all, sorry

actually I think it's pretty much the opposite. the only members of any given oppressor class that have the potential to be genuine allies are those who don't get their boxers in a bunch over oppressed folks venting frustration with the oppressor

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However, Farley was surprised to find just how much men in the study knew about coercion. She said they had described it similar to how “pimps control women,” in that they select the most vulnerable women. Most men knew that most strip clubs are commonly used for child sex trafficking.

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at this point, anything that prides itself on having an all-female cast/team/etc should have at least one trans girl if they don’t want to be considered transphobic

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You can't call yourself a Marxist and be ideologically opposed to trans people, those are incompatible modes of thought.

gender identity theory is incompatible with the Marxist scientific method.

believing your thoughts determine your reality is a product of subjective idealism. Marxism is not idealism but dialectical materialism, there is an objective reality and objective material conditions from which human consciousness stems. we exist as material, physical beings rather than immaterial conscious spirits. subjective consciousness is subordinate to and dependent upon the material world.

the correct Marxist position is not "i feel i'm a woman therefore i am a woman" but "i am objectively female, and this makes me a woman".

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Never thought about it like this. Very interesting take, OP.

all fetishism is bad because fetishes are fixations and sex is supposed to be relational - instead of being aroused by your partner and using things as props, you end up being aroused by a thing and using your partner as prop. if you fixate on a specific scenario for one and end up aroused by playing it out rather than the person you're having sex with, your partner is just an actor in it and could be replaced by whoever. that's why postmodernist pornography-fueled sexuality is so painfully unerotic - it's impersonal, without the intimate interpersonal element, desire of a partner as a person. it's literally regression in sexual development

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”but men fertility window longer its natural for old man and young woman to marry” i dont know how to explain to you that having your father die when youre a child bc he had you at 50 is a net negative for society. Youve never thought about the needs of another person a day in your life.

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https://www.tumblr.com/attistoc this is a castration fetish/femdom male who is following you and a number of other women, is creepy about lesbians, baits to get femdom fuel rxns, into right wing conspiracies like “white genocide” and “womens liberation=males castrated” … which whether as a fetish thing or not is fucked up

I never interacted with him. Unfortunately the internet is rife with pornrotten males, he's not the only one. If he's looking for castration fetish fuel from my blog, he'll get disappointed. I have no interest in this subject, since I focus on protecting women and children.

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Been thinking about that tragically common phenomenon of women volunteering for their own rape in intimate relationships in order to keep him in a good mood/reward him for doing basic tasks he should be doing anyway but won't if it's not "worth it", etc.. It does need a particular term, I'm just not sure what.

Date rape describes a forcible, coercive, or drug-assisted rape that occurs in the context of dating or partying. Marital and intimate partner rape describe forcible or coercive rape that occurs in an intimate partnership. Child sexual abuse when the victim is a child. Rape by deception is when consent was given based on intentionally false information.

"Self-rape" is not a good term and has very bad implications about the responsibility of the victim and "maintenance sex" doesn't convey how awful it is.

We know fawning is a common fear response, involving placating and compliance, but the terms for the other things are quite clear what they're about before you even describe what they are. "Voluntary rape" is confusing, "rape through fawning" or "situational rape" I don't think really gets it across either. "Rape through circumstance" maybe? I honestly don't know. But it does need a term.