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Listen to me. Listen. Listen to me. Please.

You don't have to earn the right to call the suffering you went through abusive.

I keep seeing people say, "I don't think I have a right to say I was abused because it was never physical," and "I don't have the right to say I was abused because it wasn't that bad," and most infuriatingly, "I don't have the right to say I was abused because I know I was loved."

Please. I am begging you.

I was abused in countless different ways for a long long time, and I am telling you, you are allowed to call your situation abusive.

You don't need permission, and I don't care if someone else 'has it worse.'

You are allowed to call it abuse.

It's okay. You aren't disrespecting anybody. You aren't taking attention away from "real victims." You can acknowledge your situation is fucked up. You can call it abuse.

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Me by day 5 in the hospital...

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When I haven’t worked for like 6 years...

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Why I didn’t get out of bed today...

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No one will know the violence it took to become this gentle.

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romeo and juliet didn’t drink poison they drank flat tummy tea and died

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Chronic pain problems •

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The power coming from these falls was incredible

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Tiny bun

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Gates of Heaven | by hotelvillacipressi

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one thing that was really helpful is realizing me being an addict is not a 'failure', I didnt fail at anything. Some people are just better at managing substance use than others due to a variety of factors, some of which are outside of our control. But what we can control (with practice and good support of course) is how much we use. For some people recovering means not using anything at all while for others it means minimizing usage as much as possible. But what matters most is realizing you're not a failure, its okay to admit when a coping mechanism is maladaptive. Recovery is a process but the first step is admitting to yourself and accepting that something isn't working and that change needs to happen <3.

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by  Ron Lute

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You don’t need to wait to get worse. You deserve help now. You deserve help whether you’ve been worse before, or seen others be “worse” and not get help. You deserve help. Right now. 

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“Remind yourself that you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing.”

— Unknown