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extended trailer kiss scene in the let's try MV

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moonlight

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I'm not going to use you. I'm going to love you instead.

Unintentional Love Story Episode 10

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What if Nines, instead of arguing back with Gavin when he tried to pick a fight, just started flirting whenever Gavin tried to insult him, leaving Gavin confused rather than angry.

Gavin: (After tripping Nines) Plastic prick, can’t even fucking stay upright? Pathetic.

Nines: (Completely straight faced) Apologies detective, I appear to be malfunctioning, I just can’t seem to stop myself from falling for you.

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A quick drawing 😝❤️

Nines: "You're so warm, Gavin..."

Gavin: "Humans are naturally warm, tin can"

Nines: "But you are the warmth that I love the most... my warmth"

Gavin: "Hehe, phcking androids..."

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Sometimes it is your fault.. Sometimes you don’t listen well enough, you’re selfish, you’re rude and you aren’t always right. Sometimes you fucked it up and tbh that’s okay. It happens, learn from it, apologize and keep it moving. Just because you fucked up doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Don’t dwell on it

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Yes, I love you very much, but I also hate you.

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I’m finally confronting how unfair mental illness is, how much of my childhood and teen hood was taken from me. That my foundation for life was quicksand. How the body stores trauma and forces us to eventually release it. How trauma changes you. The fact I may never be the person I would have been otherwise but I can be better than I’d otherwise be. I have to. Living your whole life in your head is like living your whole life in prison and you have to readjust to the real world once your released. Blame satan, blame demons, blame psychological processes, blame society, I don’t care. I will keep moving forward and I will live.

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This Property Is Condemned (1966) dir. Sydney Pollack

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“Expect, at some point, to want to run away from all this. It’s a little like opening a can of worms, or maybe caterpillars—you may want to shove them all back inside. But as you walk this path, you will also have glimpses of feeling freer, of a more direct connection to your life and the people in it. And once the pull of that greater freedom and authenticity takes hold, it becomes harder to turn back. It’s as though an inner volcano has started to erupt, and despite the danger, we welcome the release. The pain of the truth still feels better than the pain of self-deception. As we settle into the process, at some point we tend to go through a natural grieving as we let go of old identities, familiar habits and ways of being. Eventually those caterpillars disperse, weaving themselves into protective cocoons while shedding their former identity. Unraveling the membranes of our schema patterns, we too begin to emerge from our cocoons, feeling lighter and more alive—as if, metaphorically, we were growing wings.”

Tara Bennett-Goleman, Emotional Alchemy: How the Mind Can Heal the Heart

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You do not deserve pain. You do not exist to suffer. I know in your darkest times it is so easy to feel that you deserve this agony but you do not. Your life will get better, and you will receive the love and kindess you deserve.  

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Pokémon have gotten loose on Tumblr again!

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I know you can feel hopelessly stuck in your unhealthy coping mechanisms and like you’ll never be able to break out of them or stop doing the things that hurt you or others just because you’re trying to kill the pain, but healthy coping mechanisms can be learned.

You wouldn’t believe how unhealthy my coping mechanisms used to be and how destructive, reckless and impulsive I was just to cope. 

You can learn new coping skills. You don’t always have to be stuck in the ones you’re using now. You can replace them over time with healthier ones that don’t hurt you or anyone else. You can make healthier long-term decisions. It is not impossible. No matter how many times you return to the same unhealthy ones. No matter how many times you relapse. It is not impossible.

It may take a long time but it means that you won’t always be stuck in this seeming cycle of unhealthy coping. Over time, like exercising a muscle, it gets easier and easier to access your newer, healthier coping mechanisms, and to leave the old ones behind.

I just want to remind you that there is hope and even the most destructive, addictive coping mechanisms can be replaced with new ones, no matter how hopeless you think it may be, or how hard you’ve been trying. As someone who has replaced their destructive coping habits with new ones, and who never thought they would have been able to, it is possible.

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