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“A man can’t lead a woman unless first lead by God. A lukewarm indecisive man is a danger to himself and who follows”

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Dark femininity literally transformed my life. You can call it what you want, it's simply about embracing your darkness, letting go of "being too much" or not being "perfect". It's about setting boundaries. It's giving yourself permission to be authentic, passionate, beautifully imperfect and raw, falling shamelessly in love with yourself, and most important of all, being fiercely protective of yourself (your inner child, your vulnerability, your softness).

Ladies, you need that edge, that boundary. Without it, you're an overflowing ocean that can be easily scattered or exploited. The only way to preserve your softness is learn how to be your own guardian first and foremost; because it's not possible nor healthy to always depend on others to do it for you.

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Madisonmbt

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Jeffrey's Interiors

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i can really brag on GOD cause he really be doing his big one when it comes to me. don’t write 2023 off just yet. may your expectations not be cut short. i pray that the last few weeks of this year are filled with peace, restoration and answered prayers. stay low and continue to have faith.

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❤️🫶🏽🫶🏽

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i expect a lot from me in 2024.

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words have so much power, so imagine what prayer can do. and not even just in the worst circumstances, but in the good. imagine what speaking life and hope into your daily walk can do for you and everyone around you.

and it doesn’t matter if you don’t know what to say or don’t believe it at the time. literally just putting your intention towards something, and believing solely that it’ll work out no matter what happens, is the first step to reclaiming your power from an otherwise hopeless situation. there isn’t a situation under the sun that God cannot handle. it will all work in your favor.

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something we should all be doing in 2024?

Use this new year to reinvent yourself from a girl into a woman.

Get help if you need it and chase after positive energy.

Journal about the woman you’d like to become.

Invest into your appearance.

Work out and work on your body.

Look at what’s hanging up in your closet.

Learn how to do your hair, makeup, and nails.

Begin figuring out your career path.

Work on learning a new language or getting a degree.

Make new friends and work on your social skills.

Plan a move or find joy in your current city.

Travel and see more of the world.

Do more of what you enjoy.

Find a subject to research and lean into it.

Go to a few lectures or night classes.

Learn more about religion.

Find what makes you laugh and do more of it.

Go to more art and history museums.

Find activities that make you feel alive.

Try playing a sport or doing something physical.

Meet someone you like and make good choices.

Do something daring and follow through with plans.

Make the most of your life and keep it moving forward.

You have 365 days to begin changing yourself for the better and a lifetime to make good choices.

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removing yourself gracefully instead of returning the negative energy is true growth. the more you evolve, the more you realize there really isn’t much to say anymore. words hold energy and the tongue holds death and life. i choose not to play with that.

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I love women who’ve created themselves. Forged themselves. Refined themselves.

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btw one of the key components of actually being in a healthy relationship is just asking for things that you want. i keep seeing posts on this website saying 'i really want to do/receive [X] but my partner has never done it'. just ask. 'nobody exchanges love letters anymore' ask. 'i want to have my partner's hair in a locket like the victorians' just ask. 'i want to be bought flowers regularly :((' literally just ask. your partner doesn't know they're being held to these expectations and that you're unhappy unless you tell them. it's so unfair to expect your partner to read your mind. 'it's less special if you have to ask :((' grow up and stop pretending you're the lead in a romcom. when people say communication is crucial they mean it !! just ask !!

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"You're so lucky!"

Reading the books.

Listening to the podcasts.

Attending the workshops.

Networking with the experts.

Participating in the community.

Keeping up to date with the news.

Reading the newsletters.

Seeking the mentorship.

Travelling to the conventions.

Asking the questions.

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So many steps have paved the pathway to your success. Behind every "You're so lucky!" is countless hours of dedication and commitment.

The people who choose to downplay that to 'luck' often don't want to admit that you earned what you have recieved because it means admitting that they could have done that too.

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Free yourself of the idea that success means fame, wealth and beauty. It does not.

One of the most toxic things we've managed to do as a generation is indoctrinate ourselves (yes, us. It's us) with the idea that it's only as good as it's being seen. You're only as good as who you're better than. Your blog is only useful when it gets 133k notes. Your pictures are only worthy when you get 400k likes or you delete it. You dropped piano because you can't make a career out of it it's not like you'll beat Elton John. You can write, yes, but you're no Jane Austen so you never post your work and when you do and all it gets is 500 reads and not an entire Fandom like that 13 year old who gets 500m reads for a book that's only good for toxic relationships and the worst sex scenes ever written so you give up. Yeah sure you could make a great singer but man you're no Ariana Grande and only 60 listeners on Spotify (friends and family) is embarrassing so you just don't anymore. Because we've managed to indoctrinate ourselves with the idea idea a thing is only as good as its being seen and we scroll all day on Instagram past 20 year Olds with 30M $ net worth from making tiktok videos and that one guy that plays piano like an actual God but he's from Old Money and will definitely get sponsored into a career and God what's even the point.

Your sign to free yourself from the idea that only massive external validation makes a thing worth it and you validating things makes them worthy, more so than countless people you don't know. Play that piano because you want to. Try for a career and fail and get one for your kids and cat to listen. If you have none play for you. You deserve to listen to those tunes and goddammit start doing things for the mere pleasure of doing them. You like art so you painted. Yes it sucks. No ma'am you are no Da Vinci that's for sure. But it made you happy. It's yours. You see it. You like it. That counts. And screw you if you don't think your own opinion counts. Genuinely. Screw you.

Next time you look at your B- in that subject you stayed up all night studying and there's ms smartkid that doesn't even come to class walking out with a 99 and the only reason it's not 100 is there's always room for improvement take yourself out to brunch and have the time of your life. It's no A but it's yours. And its your best. You're no Gordon Ramsay but that dish, oversalted and burnt, was fun to make so you pour yourself juice into your wine glass and eat it up, savoring every bite and wash it down with milk for the salt. You can't sing and honestly those notes could go unheard but it's YOUR bathroom one thing you'll do is scream Lana del effing Rey. You Paid to get into that club you'll dance .

Free yourself from the human gaze and chronic performance, unlearn the idea that you must be groundbreakingly talented or intelligent to do something or you must be unexplainably beautiful or ridiculously wealthy to be a success. If you're going to be on this planet, paying tax and dealing with unnecessary trauma the least you can do is live for yourself.

Sucess is doing something for the pleasure of it. Everything else is performance. The world is NOT a stage it's a planet you're meant to enjoy life on.

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STOP THINKING THERE IS A DEADLINE. THERE IS NO DEADLINE. TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND TAKE YOUR TIME.