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Reblog if you go to sleep crying and tiered and you're automatically angry+depressed when you wakeup. All because you hate the fact that you have to make it through another day.

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I know i probably should clean by cuts.. but i dont .

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will you watch the stars with me?

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Warding On a Budget (or if you're still in the broom closet and don't live alone)

*carefully* trim some honey locust, briar, rose, or blackthorn stems and twigs and place them in as many windowsills in your home as possible, line your property with them if they're abundant enough/your housemates are cool

every protection spell calls for black candles but some of us only have access to our nana's tealights. you can mix black salt (sea salt + incense ash or black pepper) in with the wax as it melts or just write "black" on it with a sharpie. or wrap it in black paper (carefully, don't burn down your house). or just pretend it's black or

some people, like myself, just can't afford to use as much salt as our craft demands. you can substitute with ground eggshells, and it's better for the critters in your grass too

do you have That Towel in your bathroom that no one uses? roll it up and stick it against the bottom of your front door and declare out loud "this will keep shit out". semi-effecfive against creepy crawlies, too

bury some coffee grounds in your yard and again declare out loud "this will keep shit out"

make some war water (take a mason jar, fill it halfway with water, put some nails and screws and staples or anything sharp in it, spicy herbs, some dirt from your yard, nail clippings and hair from yourself and any consenting residents of your home, a piece of paper with a protective sigil, and then pee in it and seal the jar) and bury it in your yard. again, preferably with all residents of your home consenting to it, but I understand needing strong protection but not being able to be honest about it.

salt in your windowsils is simple and effective and can be discreet depending on the windowsil

having a couple stones like black tourmaline, onyx, smoky quartz, shungite, citrine, or literally a rock you found outside and painted black and decided was protective in your windows can be innocent looking enough and effective. most of those stones are relatively inexpensive

line your property with brick dust. after it rains it'll hardly be noticeable (some people will say that rain will lessen its efficacy but I disagree because that would require me to brick dust my porch more often and I don't wanna and also rain is good?? no further explanation)

one of my favorites is to stand in my doorway and kind of make an X with my body and press on the sides of the doorframe so that I fill up the whole space and just loudly but calmly yell "stay the fuck out" 3x. my neighbors love it /s

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Advice for abuse victims!

- If you're arguing with them try to avoid semantics.

Arguing over specifics will just have you running in circles. Focus on how you felt. Focus on what you objectively know as true. For example "I didn't call you stupid I said you were acting stupid." It doesn't matter how it was said. You were insulted. They don't get to dictate how you're allowed to feel.

- If you're arguing with them try to stay on topic.

If you're communicating with a difficult person don't allow them to switch topics. Often when you accuse someone toxic of doing something bad they'll try to change the topic to distract you from the issue and shift the blame onto you. If you're easily distracted, it might help to write down what you were talking about originally.

- Be unaffected.

Their insults and blame are all projection. It's unlikely that you're the problem. If a toxic person is accusing you of something it's either something they've done or something they've wanted to do. If they're insulting you it's usually how they feel about themselves. You're not mean or ugly or stupid. They are and they want you to feel that way too. It helps them feel better about themselves.

- Don't lose yourself.

They want you to be a reflection of themselves. Often when healing from abuse you'll find out that you have so little personality. It's because you spent so long working around them and trying to appease or avoid them. You've spent a big portion of your time thinking of them so you don't think of yourself enough to build a relationship with yourself. Your hobbies and likes and dislikes are important. What you want in life is important. Don't let them take that from you. There's nothing wrong with being a bit self-centered or selfish. Practice being that way more often. Think of yourself before thinking of them.

- Don't sympathize

Toxic people are toxic. You don't feel bad for a plant when it poisons someone. Why feel bad for a person who does the same? The victim should never feel bad for the perpetrator! You were hurt by them. Not the other way around.

- Forgiveness isn't something you have to do

You're allowed to be angry for as long as you want. You're allowed to want revenge. You're allowed to want them to rot. You don't have to forgive them. It's a personal choice. People who preach forgiveness for all are usually very toxic (yes positive people can be toxic). If a therapist or mental health professional ever stresses that you forgive your abuser you should walk out immediately. They're not the help you need. Forgiving your abuser also doesn't mean forgetting. It doesn't mean letting it go. And no being angry at them forever isn't a bad thing. Just don't allow that anger to consume you. Don't allow your hatred for them to destroy your life.

- It's okay to love them

It is okay to still love your abuser. Those feelings are easy to let go of. They aren't easy to deal with. You cant get rid of them by just saying you hate them. Just don't allow your lingering feelings for them to cloud your judgment. They're still toxic. They're still abusive. Try to remember that.

I hope this was coherent my grammar is horrible and I don't use commas because they confuse me

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Story of my life people. You know what’s real ? The struggle.

Happy Pride Month ♥

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Random mansion generator

The Procgen Mansion Generator produces large three-dee dwellings to toy with your imagination, offering various architectural styles and other options. Each mansion even comes with floorplans:

https://boingboing.net/2019/07/12/random-mansion-generator.html

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A few very important needs

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adhd people also forget to make the 2nd panels font bold

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happy 420 and day i reserve a spot in hell

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Reblog and you might save someone’s life, especially with all our Black Girls going missing #ProtectBlackGirls #SaveLife

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YOOOO

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