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Date #1: Nick

Date Rating: A

Overall outcome: Big Fat F

I have been online/ app dating for years. In between I’d get into a relationship for a while and when that ended and I needed a pick me up I’d re-download the apps or download whatever new app has become more popular in the time that I was “married”.

This time for instance, it was Hinge that I decided to try. I have done Tinder and Bumble in the past but wanted to try something new. Obviously, with the hope that this app would be more for something serious than tinder or bumble. Surprise surprise they’re all the fucking same. Guys just want to have sex... it is what it is.

Ok, so, onto Hinge date numero uno with said “gentleman”: Nick.

Back ground: He was one of the first people I matched with on Hinge and he commented on my picture with “you’re absolutely gorgeous”. I read it, rolled my eyes and responded...”you’re not so bad yourself, Nick”. We went on to talk about what we did on new years and a bit about where we want to travel this year and what we liked to do in our free time. After the usual banter hearing about what he did for work and his ability to keep a conversation flowing and continually make me laugh, I decided I definitely wanted to meet up with him. After a few days of conversing on the app we exchanged numbers and made a plan to meet for drinks.

The actual date: We decided to meet at a local bar/ restaurant 10 minutes from my house. He arrived first and grabbed a table in the bar. I walked over to him and he stood up and hugged me and I got really nervous because he was a lot hotter in person than his pictures. Then.. he started talking. Immediately I realize he has a LISP. I was like holy fuck, this is hilarious and I was instantly not nervous anymore... i know awful right.. but hey it helped ease the nerves because it brought him back down to human level. We spent the next FIVE hours drinking and talking about God knows what. He made me laugh the entire time and I was having such a great time I didn’t want the night to end. Lucky for me, my wish came true. He ended up driving me home to my place and coming up “just for a little”.

OF COURSE... we all know what happened next. 4 drinks, no dinner, and an attractive male in my bed.. we went right to sleep with a pillow in between us fully clothed.

Jokes... of course he does fucking jujitsu and was a wrestler his whole life and decided he was gonna pull out some wrestling moves on me...in bed... so naturally he puts me in the hottest positions, pressing his hard dick against me and starts kissing me. One thing led to another and yes.. we ended up hooking up and surprisingly enough he got me to finish SO fast. I was amazed because that NEVER happens when I am sleeping with someone for the first time. I immediately thought “oh shit.. I’m screwed now”.

Cut to the next morning.. we woke up... hooked up again (it was super hot) and he said he wanted to take me to breakfast. So we got cleaned up and ready to go out. We ended up going out for brunch and drinks and mid- breakfast he suggested seeing a movie. It was a rainy day so I thought sure.. why not. We went to the movies and after the movies he wanted to come back to my place AGAIN.

This was quickly becoming the longest first date I had ever been on... I felt like I needed to find way to end it but I was having so much fun I didn’t know how. When we got back to my apartment I went into my roommates room and whispered to her... “he wont leave”... Next thing I know I’m getting a text from one of my friends saying “family dinner at 6:30 see you then ;)” . I then texted my roommate who was sitting in the other room and said... Are you going to family dinner tonight? She replied yes, we made the plan at the gym on Wednesday remember... ;). I COMPLETELY thought we made a plan when I wasn't paying attention (because I tend to zone out a lot) so I told him I had dinner plans and we could hang out again soon. He understood, grabbed his coat, kissed me goodbye for a very long time... and I basically had to push him out the door or else he would have ended up back in my bed.

After he left, I then found out that my friends are WAY smarter than me and they made the entire thing up just to get him out of my apartment... thank God for good girl friends.. am I right?!

The red flags: While this sounds like it was an incredible date, there were SO many red flags I chose to ignore. Naturally, I wanted to believe that the connection (and the sex) were too real to ignore... but let’s be honest the red flags are the reason he’s single and the reason we are no longer seeing each other or talking.

First Red Flag: He had 6-8 beers on our FIRST date. While I’m not completely sure of the exact number, I know he had half a beer when I sat down and I know it was much more than the 4 corona lights I had. If you’re having that many beers on a first date.. you definitely are a pretty heavy drinker to begin with. I’m lucky we made it home safely because in the moment I wasn’t thinking about it and I let him drive us home... NOT smart. Also... he could have been a serial killer and I got into his truck after only knowing him for 5 hours... yeah that wont be happening ever again.

Second Red Flag: He talked about his mother and father being alcoholics. His father is now deceased and his mother has been in and out of rehab and still drinks today. Not exactly the family dynamic you’re looking for when you’re looking to settle down with someone. Also, not really an attractive picture to paint of your family to a girl on a first date.

Third Red Flag (the worst one): He mentioned in his early 20′s getting heavily addicted to pills after breaking his wrist... which lead to a heroin addiction which landed him in the hospital with a blocked heart valve... forcing him to detox. From there, he told me he became sober on his own without going to any kid of rehab or a program. uhhh..... WTF. I should have said “check please” right then and there but apparently my brain was temporarily broken.

So.. after hearing all of this I definitely was skeptical but he was so nice and charming I thought hey...maybe he really is above it and has changed for the better. In reality, I knew it my gut he was bad for me and I should walk away. However, something... probably the attention from someone really hot and the sexual chemistry... was distracting me.

We hung out 3 or 4 more times, texted throughout the day and he was even calling me in the middle of the day while I was at work. Telling me he wanted to go away snowboarding together and we were planning all of these future dates. Kind of out of nowhere those texts, calls, and snapchats started to taper off and slowly but surely I wasn’t hearing from him at all. so... using the lingo of today ...I was GHOSTED by the guy I should have walked away from in the first place. I still don’t really understand why this happened but honestly it was a blessing that it did. He can be someone else’s bad boy. I’m all set.

#datenumberone #appdating

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