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The last time we were on a long flight, my wife and I invented a game we call "Little Guy."

You start a game of Little Guy by saying, "I'm gonna hand you a little guy." The little guy is some kind of baby animal you are imagining. "Oh," she might say in response, "Okay," and hold out her hands for it. I will then mime handing her the animal. This provides some clues as to the little guy's size, weight, and general ungainliness.

She then gets to ask questions about what kind of little guy this is, BUT NO QUESTIONS ABOUT HIS ACTUAL APPEARANCE OR SPECIES ARE ALLOWED. Qualitative questions, or questions about his behavior, are the only ones permitted. She can ask "Is he soft?" or "Does he seem nervous about being held?" or "If I put him in the bathtub, does he seem okay with that?" or "Would he like a lil grape?" or "Is he the sort of little fellow who would wear a vest in a children's book?" but not "Does he have fur," "Is he a reptile," "Is he from Asia," etc. Some questions are in a grey area so you have to follow your heart, but the point is not to identify the animal as fast as possible: the point is to guess the animal purely based on vibes + how he would act if he were in your living room right now.

And I'm not limited to yes or no answers! If she asks, "Would it feel appropriate to see this little guy in a propeller hat?" I can reply, "Oh no, he has a gravity to him. A bowler hat would be a more appropriate hat." Or if she asks, "Does this little guy have protagonist energy?" I can say something like, "he probably wouldn't be the main character in a children's cartoon. He'd probably be the main character's ditzy best friend who's always eating sandwiches, or something."

We're big Twenty Questions to kill time in a waiting room people, but Little Guy is more about the journey than the destination. It's got a different kind of sauce that's nice if "killing time" and "lowering anxiety" need to happen hand in hand.

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It really does feel like the anxiety is a part of me and by getting the medication I would be putting myself under. What if it's integral? what if I lose myself? What if it takes away more than just the bad feelings?

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free subscription to streaming services but it’s my roommate never using earphones

#I don’t know what confrontation is help

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hey listen man, all im saying is that dean said to cas one, bert and ernie are gay, and two, you are not going to die a virgin, and then simply walked off with no further explanation. and cas followed him. and then, one car ride later, cas expressed surprise at dean having brought him to a brothel. that is not what he thought was happening

#that was probably a WILD car ride from cas' perspective frfr #prev tags #oh my goodness #this is WILD #such a normal heterosexual thing to say #there's definitely nothing going on here

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it's so funny how i spend more time battling my anxiety than doing anything else

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I’m so sick of policing myself every freaking second

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i’m being watched by myself

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the feminine urge to delete the message a minute after sending it

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I’m a heaven’s messenger, coming into people’s life to pass the word of god and disappear back to where I came from (my room where I can keep picturing myself as a saint to cope with reality)

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if you’re gonna introduce me to something new you have to defeat my 7 evil ex hyperfixations

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As someone who has never been able to take up journaling because I never knew what to say or got caught up in the perfectionism of it, I am begging everyone to take up junk journaling

#i needed it so much #i always give up on journaling bc of lack of ideas and perfectionism #overcomplicating things that are meant to make you feel good #turning them into competition

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EVERYONE PUT THIS GIF ON YOUR BLOG IMMEDIATLY IT WILL PROTECT YOU FROM THE VIRUS!!

this post was supposed to be about a computer virus but it has resurfaced both for ebola and now covid 

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Dreaming of cheese

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Shoutout to the freaks . Shoutout to the little girls who flew through books quicker than any adult could because she didn’t know how to have friends . Shout out to the little boys who liked to play with dolls and took one to show and tell and learned that adults aren’t kind . Shoutout to the therians . Shoutout to the furries . Shoutout to the people who draw themselves with fictional characters . Shoutout to the autistics with “creepy” or “concerning” interests . Shout out to the people who were told something about them was unnatural or gross . Shoutout to the littles who don’t regress in sunshine and rainbows . Shoutout to anyone who was called weird in middle school . We are freaks . We are strange . And to be honest , I like making them stare .

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Personal Fulfillment: What it is & what it isn't

Personal fulfillment is essential because it contributes to your overall wellbeing, happiness, and a sense of purpose in life. It provides you with a sense of meaning and direction, helping you align your actions with your values and aspirations. When people have personal fulfillment, it boosts their self-esteem, and self-confidence. It brings a sense of accomplishment, happiness, and fulfillment, leading to greater life satisfaction. Personal fulfillment fuels motivation, driving people to pursue their goals and dreams with persistence and resilience. It also has a positive impact on our relationships, as fulfilled individuals bring positivity and fulfillment into their interactions, resulting in healthy connections.

Conversely, those who lack personal fulfillment may feel lost, dissatisfied, and purposeless, leading to emotional distress, strained relationships, increased stress, and missed opportunities for growth and personal development. Pursuing personal fulfillment is crucial for living a fulfilling and rewarding life.

What personal fulfillment is:

Pursuing your passion: Engaging in activities or pursuing goals that align with your passions and interests. For example, if you love writing, starting a blog or writing a book can bring you a sense of fulfillment.

Setting and achieving meaningful goals: Setting goals that are meaningful to you and working towards achieving them. This could be completing a degree, starting a business, or making a positive impact in your community.

Building and maintaining meaningful relationships: Cultivating relationships with family, friends, and loved ones and investing time and effort in nurturing those connections can bring a sense of fulfillment and happiness.

Continuous personal growth: Committing to lifelong learning and personal development. It can be achieved through acquiring new skills, expanding your knowledge, or challenging yourself to step out of your comfort zone.

Making a positive impact: Contributing to the well-being of others or the greater good. This could be through volunteering, supporting charitable causes, or working in a career that allows you to make a positive difference in the world.

What personal fulfillment isn't:

Chasing external validation: It is not solely dependent on seeking approval or validation from others. It is about finding inner satisfaction and contentment rather than constantly seeking external praise or recognition.

Material possessions: It is not about material wealth or accumulating possessions. While material comfort can enhance certain aspects of life, fulfillment comes from experiences, personal growth, and meaningful connections.

Comparing yourself to others: Personal fulfillment does not come from constantly comparing yourself to others and measuring your worth based on their achievements or possessions. It is about recognizing and appreciating your unique journey and individual progress.

Settling for mediocrity: It is not about settling for a life that feels unfulfilling or unchallenging. It involves actively seeking growth, setting high standards for yourself, and striving for excellence in areas that are important to you.

Ignoring self-care: You cannot achieve personal fulfillment if you neglect your own physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Taking care of yourself, prioritizing self-care, and maintaining a healthy work-life balance are crucial.

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I understand that everyone has different tastes but not loving father Brian Finn is a crime