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you do know the acronym ends at t, right?

thought i’d make a helpful guide since yall knobheads don’t know how slurs work

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why is enby a bad term? also what are more acceptable terms for nblm and nblw instead of andro/gyno?

As a nonbinary person, the term “enby” just feels so infantilizing to me. I know other people dont mind it, but it’s best not to use it for every nonbinary person. Also for nblw, there’s the term trixic, and for nblm, there’s toric. I’m not exactly a fan of them, but they get the job done.

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Hi - I'm pretty convinced that I don't experience romantic or sexual attraction but, I would still want a relationship with a female (I'm a girl). Idek what that makes me, but what's your opinion and can I use queer? Would I be lying if I came out to my parents as lesbian because that's what they would see at the end of the day?

Personally, I would wait to give yourself a label until you’re absolutely sure you feel this way. It sounds like you might be a lesbian, but if you feel like you really need to tell your parents, maybe just tell them you like girls and leave ti at that for now? i think once you get into a relationship you’ll be sure whether or not you’re ace or aro, and obviously don’t push yourself to do anything you’re uncomfortable doing! You deserve a happy and healthy relationship, and you deserve to feel secure in your labels! 

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i know im op but i CACKLED

thought i’d make a helpful guide since yall knobheads don’t know how slurs work

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trans girls: I think I’ll call myself Samantha

trans guys, wearing Victorian boy clothes: I want to be called Duke Elliot Fernand the Fifth

nonbinary ppl: call me r̵̡̡̢̢͕̭̳̣̺̣̖̒̿̏͑̅̑͜͠o̵̢̳̠͈̮̯̤̗̳̿̀̑̍̈́͝ͅc̶̢̲͇̝̥̥͌͊̾̃̔ͅk̶̛̦̮̖̰̦̠̞̭̜̞̻̤̿̏̍̀͆̄̂̿

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lol I’m probably about to be burnt at the stake in a facebook group for my ever unpopular opinion that bi women calling their attraction to women gay isn’t a big deal

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get off my fucking post you dirty terf

thought i’d make a helpful guide since yall knobheads don’t know how slurs work

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thought i’d make a helpful guide since yall knobheads don’t know how slurs work

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i dont "make the rules", i state the facts. and i keep cishets from poisoning our already torn community

thought i’d make a helpful guide since yall knobheads don’t know how slurs work

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someone @ trisha paytas, we found her flag

If that isn’t proof these people see being trans as nothing more than a choice or a cute fashion accessory, I don’t know what is.

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“queerplatonic” is a gross word pass it on

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idk what shit-eating truscum needs to hear this, but your rhetoric directly harms people with culturally-specific genders. i’m native and two-spirit, that label describes my gender and my attraction. i use they/them pronouns and your “nonbinaries and cringey stargender trenders aren’t valid” bullshit is getting old. our languages were demonized and erased, our gender and attraction labels along with them. my experiences with dysphoria exist because of colonialist ideas of gender. we have been forced into arbitrary ‘male’ and ‘female’ categories by colonizers for centuries and truscum rhetoric perpetuates racist colonialist violence against natives.

your experiences are not universal, you’re not forwarding justice for trans people, and you’re definitely not an ally to natives or other people of color. you’re just a fucking colonizer. 

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queer

dude you just posted cringe bro

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idk what shit-eating truscum needs to hear this, but your rhetoric directly harms people with culturally-specific genders. i’m native and two-spirit, that label describes my gender and my attraction. i use they/them pronouns and your “nonbinaries and cringey stargender trenders aren’t valid” bullshit is getting old. our languages were demonized and erased, our gender and attraction labels along with them. my experiences with dysphoria exist because of colonialist ideas of gender. we have been forced into arbitrary ‘male’ and ‘female’ categories by colonizers for centuries and truscum rhetoric perpetuates racist colonialist violence against natives.

your experiences are not universal, you’re not forwarding justice for trans people, and you’re definitely not an ally to natives or other people of color. you’re just a fucking colonizer. 

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If the person identifies as queer, it’s fine, but if they’re just LGBT and a cishet calls them queer they’re getting their blood replaced with pop rocks

thought i’d make a helpful guide since yall knobheads don’t know how slurs work

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Do NOT Support ‘Adam’ When The Film Comes Out

I’ve talked about this before on this blog but this is the most disgustingly transphobic and lesbophobic narrative I’ve ever come across. 

CWs: transphobia, homophobia, lesbophobia, corrective rape, voyeurism

The book Adam by Ariel Schrag is being turned into a movie which has been named as one of the most exciting LGBTQ films of the year. You should know before watching that the book is about a cis boy who pretends to be a trans man in order to persuade lesbians to sleep with him.

Yeah… you read that right.

Book plot summary: 

boy spies on his lesbian sister having sex

boy decides to pretend to be a trans man (gross)

i.e. pretends to have a vagina because he thinks lesbians will want him then (he literally wants to fuck lesbians because he watched his lesbian sister have sex wtf)

he does get a lesbian to sleep with him, he straps his penis down using ace bandages and uses a strap on.

all the actual trans dudes we meet identify as lesbians this basically implies that trans men are not real men (lesbians i.e. women)  

another time they have sex again only he uses his actual penis but tells her its a strap on. that’s literally rape, she didn’t consent to an actual penis.

he confesses that he’s been lying to her this whole time but she doesn’t break up with him. she even says its okay cause she fantasised about him being “a real boy"

that’s a direct quote. massive transphobia. huge. not to mention this is now the “lesbian is cured by dick trope” which is disgusting and that trope leads to real lesbians and bi women being raped to “fix” them. 

he leaves new york, they’re long distance. they get in an argument and he calls her a slut and a whore among other things and then she dumps him

eventually they get back in touch and she has a new cis boyfriend so yep, she’s been “cured” woo she’s actually straight and he helped her realise that yay (massive sarcasm)

It is deeply deeply transphobic. To imply that our identities are just costumes for other people to put on erases who we are as people. More than that, to imply it is done to trick people into sex is a dangerous lie that literally gets us killed.

It is also deeply lesbophobic. To fuel this narrative that lesbians can be “fixed” by having sex with a man leads to real corrective rapes happening. 

Here is a review of the book by a trans man. I have yet to find one by a lesbian but will edit this if I do.

This book gives out incredibly harmful notions about trans men and lesbians that are used to hurt them in real life. It’s so entrenched in the narrative that I don’t see how the film can possibly be any better.

I do not say any of this lightly. it’s very very rare for me to call out a piece of fiction or for me to decide that a story is unfixable. But this… there’s no excuse for the bigotry in this. 

I’d like to tell people to boycott it but I can’t tell you what to do. So instead I’m going to ask that you share this because it being named as an exciting new LGBTQ film is going to make LGBTQ teens want to see it. And they should know beforehand how hurtful it could be. They should be able to arm themselves with that knowledge.

Don’t make queer kids see this film believing it will represent them only to be exposed to this hatred of their identities. 

Please reblog.

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