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"The original sin was matricide. The toppling of the matriarchies and the rape and murder of the mothers was, and still is, the greatest of all sins. No purging of our culture has occurred since the Inquisition no public accounting for the sins of the 'fathers.' A major contribution to the continuing hostility and alienation of males is their deep core of guilt. Men continue to be guilty of matricide. No amount of purification will take that blemish away."

-Z. Budapest, The Holy Book of Women's Mysteries

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Me, every day between 4:37pm and 7:51pm:

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some of my favorite replies to this tweet. happy lesbian visibility week!

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i actually found a place that could give me the haircut i want so wish me luck and if it doesn't work then i'll shave my head 👍

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anatomically impossible

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INTERVIEW WITH THE VAMPIRE | 1.03 "Is My Very Nature That of the Devil"

#this literally haunts me #lestat u stupid piece of shit #u idiotic moron #u loser

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#this is how straight kpop fans sound like to me

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Today in: are the gender people okay?

“Being silent and moving to a different game does not make us more safe.”

Sir, this is about Stardew Valley.

But when you believe bullshit like the below to be true I’m sure the world is just littered with dangers:

>“Trans women are not biological men.”

> the study (which would not link to Tumblr no matter what I did but the New York Times has the quote from Pitsiladis) literally says trans women have an advantage over “cisgender” women in sports and also acknowledges that it studied fewer than 100 participants total (19 men, 12 trans men, 23 trans women, 21 women) so the sample size is so small as to be useless

> so now you’re just a male doped up on exogenous cross-sex hormones who’s better than women at a sport but worse than other men and doctors aren’t even calling you a man now

> and you’ll still never be a woman

> and you can’t even play as a trans or nonbinary farmer in Stardew Valley so are you safe anywhere?!?$?

#this is such a first world problem #im sorry but u people can be real #get a job struggle a little

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Tradeswomen, 1982

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It's a femininopticon

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i love discourse on kpop fandoms about one artist copying another. it just shows you people stan idols with no control over their own careers, with no voice to make decisions and you will admit that. out loud. why would you admit that out loud???

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Reblog if you didn’t write My Immortal

We’re going to find the author by process of elimination.

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im gonna be honest, my sister is probably gonna work in the medical field, i want her to see body hair on women as normal so she doesn't perpetuate ridiculous ideas on her patients.

my mom: you're setting a bad example for your sister by not shaving your legs!

my sister, 19, putting hair ties on my leg hair:

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my mom: you're setting a bad example for your sister by not shaving your legs!

my sister, 19, putting hair ties on my leg hair:

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EVERLYN

A female family member of mine got married to a man in the middle of the COVID pandemic. So I watched the heterosexual coupling via Zoom. She wore a white dress with a long flowing train and a veil that hid her face; a spectacle of patriarchal heteronormativity. After the vows were said, and just before kissing the bride, her husband turned to the camera and announced with glee, “This is the first time we will be kissing!” They had been dating for three years.

In that moment, I saw the future and person my family had envisioned and engineered for me. One that I had escaped by coming out. The box and script that I was supposed to fit into and follow was made visible in the person of my relative and I mourned for her – wishing that this was what she genuinely wanted and had chosen and not the script that she was unconsciously following in order to win the approval of her parents and her community. But I’ve also known her since birth and I mourned because I knew different.

I’d escaped the same fate by coming out at 19. My rebellion had begun long before that in small ways, easily dismissed by family and community as eccentricisms that would be corrected once I followed the “plan.” But coming out as a lesbian sealed the deal for my family – as it was THE scarlet letter that could never be erased from my forehead. For me, however, it was a joyfully revelatory catalyst that embedded in me the surety that I could eschew scripts, jump from boxes, carve a life without templates of heterosexism, gender conformity, and sexual confinement – a knowledge that I had the freedom to choose something other than the life that had been set out by society and family.

My brother reacted by saying, “I feel as if you’re getting away with something. I just don’t know what.” I didn’t either – not then. But now I do. Somewhere deep inside, without having the words for it, I knew that what I wanted as a child–to be a Renaissance Woman who felt free to pursue a life of intellectual, physical, and creative freedom–was impossible under the regime of heteronormativity and female sexual subjugation that I saw all around me. And so many years later, having come out publicly at age 19, I look back and can honestly say that I am that Renaissance Woman I envisioned myself to be when I was seven.

*Everlyn Hunter immigrated to the US from Jamaica at the age of 14. Her educational accomplishments include Masters and Doctoral degrees in Psychology, as well as a diploma from Vancouver Film School in Writing for Television and Film. Concurrent with her professional work, Everlyn has held numerous leadership roles as a board member of non-profit human rights, Jewish, and LGBT organizations. Dr. Hunter currently lives in Los Angeles where she works as a Psychologist. In her spare time, she is a student pilot who loves flying, and an aspiring jazz vocalist. She is currently working on her first full length novel.