mkscatgirl

[mkscatgirl]

public libraries are so sick. there are five books I want to read and they're all relatively new so they're only available in hardback which is so expensive but it just cost me $0 to place holds on them. five books for zero dollars. it requires nothing but clicking a button and then going to the library to pick them up when they're ready. zero dollars. that's crazy

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I'm pretty sure the gay waiter from the restaurant I was at last night is the desk guy at the airport today

#its 6am 😭😭😭

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[mkscatgirl]

to succeed in adult friendship you must remember the key tenets of child friendship:

Play Toys

Play Pretend

Snack Time

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i’m gay but i’m always gonna choose the well developed straight ship over the 2 bland and incompatible white dudes that have 500,000 fanfics written about them. you guys just hate women.

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"Guy" and "man" have different connotations with adjectival nouns. Like "tree guy" = arborist but "tree man" = he lives in a tree, or maybe he is a tree.

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so with the dawn of spring breaking over the horizon, it's time for some regular springtime safety reminders:

If you live somewhere prone to wildfires, get your air filters early (now) so you're not a part of the rush. One or two 20x20 inch furnace filters and a box fan make a great cheap diy air filter for those smokey days. If you have access to a costco you can usually get 4 packs of filters there for a reasonable price.

If you're going on a road trip, get an atlas. yes, you have gps on your phone, but when you're in the middle of nowhere you might run out of power, or have no signal, or break your phone, or any number of things. A comprehensive north american road atlas will only run you about $20-30, and it's well worth it. Just make sure to look over it before you go so you know how to read it.

Take sunscreen seriously. As someone who has had numerous family members deal with skin cancer, please. UV can pierce cloud cover too, so even if it's a bit overcast, play it safe. good sunscreen is well worth it.

Ticks! A lot of people think we don't have them on the west coast, but we do! I found a western black-legged tick in my yard just the other day. If you walk through tall grass or bushes or anything of the like, be sure to check yourself for ticks when you get the chance (or have a partner/friend to it).

Please, i am begging you. keep masking. Covid is still a very real danger, it's widespread, and it can be debilitating. Wear n95s if you can. for your sake, and the sake of your community.

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literally any upper middle class tiktok self-identified ‘that girl’ in a pastel workout set with a thirteen step skincare routine and a green juice is a million times closer to being patrick bateman irl than any self-identified sigma film bro

#and they were right

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#every other dsy or so unless ive been sweatinh a lot

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Something that literally changed my life was working with a friend on a coding thing. He was helping me create an auto rig script and was trying to explain something to me but his words were just turning into static in my brain. I was tired and confused and there was so many new concepts happening.

I could feel myself working toward a crying meltdown and was getting preemptively ashamed of what was about to happen when he said, “Hey, are you someone who benefits from breaks?”

It broke me.

Did I benefit from breaks? I didn’t know. I’d never taken them.

When a problem frustrated or upset me I just gritted my teeth and plowed through the emotional distress because eventually if you batter and flail at something long enough you figure it out. So what if you get bruised on the way.

I viscerally remembered in that moment being forced to sit at the table late into the night with my dad screaming at me, trying to understand math. I remembered taking that with me into adulthood and having breakdowns every week trying to understand coding. I could have taken a break? Would it help? I didn’t know! I’d never taken one!

“Yes,” I told him. We paused our call. I ate lunch. I focused on other stuff for half an hour. I came back in a significantly better state of mind, and the thing he’d been trying to explain had been gently cooking in the back of my head and seemed easier to understand.

Now when I find myself gritting my teeth at problems I can hear his gentle voice asking if I benefit from breaks. Yes, dear god, yes why did I never get taught breaks? Why was the only way I knew to keep suffering until something worked?

I was relating to this same friend recently my roadtrip to the redwoods with my wife. “We stopped every hour or so to get out and stretch our legs and switch drivers. It was really nice. When I was a kid we’d just drive twelve hours straight and not stop for anything, just gas. We’d eat in the car and power through.”

He gave a wry smile, immediately connecting the mindset of my parents on a road trip to what they’d instilled in me about brute forcing through discomfort. “Do you benefit from breaks?” he echoed, drawing my attention to it, making me smile with the same sad acknowledgement.

Take breaks. You’re allowed. You don’t have to slam into problems over and over and over, let yourself rest. It will get easier. Take. Breaks.

#i NEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEED to remember this #everytime im struggling to do smth my bf is like 'just take a break' and then when i complain that i dont have time to stop working #hes like okay and? youre not getting any work done pushing yourself past your limit go take a break

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#i hate the soulmate ones thwyre sooooo boring and like..... bad........ #omegaverse is too funny to remove i LOVE joking about it

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#MY HUSBAND 💕💕💕 #i havent used that tag in 1000000 years omg

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#umm it smells nssty snd fucks you up?? im not trying thst shit

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#oh bssed i was right #yall are so easy

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This is literally the core of what our fight for liberation means

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The current state of pop girlies is so funny like

Ariana Grande: getting dragged for homewrecking with the guy who played SpongeBob in the SpongeBob musical

Taylor Swift: dropping her worst album in years about how deeply obsessed she is with Matty Healy

Billie Eilish, for some reason:

#nah shes so real for that #taking notes tbh