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Silky Cascades | 4153 x 5191 | OC | Proxy Falls, Oregon - Author: michaelfoosh on Reddit

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Nathan McDine

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A foggy day at the local forest & park by 90377 Instagram | Etsy Shop

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Life would be so much easier if asking about romantic partners wasn't in the top five questions people ask when meeting someone new.

Or even, if after the question was asked, saying you've opted out of dating is perceived in any way as a reasonable response.

I start a new job, they ask if I'm dating anyone within the first hour, do I:

Lie and say yes, having to then remember and back up this lie for the rest of time, or stack onto it to break up with my s/o or,

Say I'm not dating anyone and risk periodically being asked about my progress in finding a s/o or even worse, have someone attempt to set me up, or

Try to explain to a group of people who I have no way of knowing how they'll react or if they've heard of it, that I am aromantic, whether I use the word or not.

I've deflected before, by saying I'm a lesbian and having it backfire. I've deflected by saying I'm just not interested in dating right now and had it backfire. I've never had any direction I've decided to go run smoothly.

And there are so many situations where you don't get to pick the people you spend large portions of your time with. If a friend is not cool about your romantic identity, you can get a new friend. That doesn't work with coworkers!!!! You didn't pick them, you're just stuck with them.

There is no right answer, just a game of russian roulette, hoping you land on the answer the most people are gonna be chill about.

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The Monterey Coast, 1980

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The Rainforest. WA, USA [OC][1200x1800] - Author: landscapeluke on Reddit

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i think about this a lot

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The Onion pulling zero fucking punches.

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Broke: vampires are vulnerable to the trappings of Christianity only, particularly Catholicism, no matter how dubiously applied. (See: Van Helsing's Communion wafer grouting).

Woke: vampires are vulnerable to sincere faith of all kinds, and atheist vampire-hunters need to believe very strongly in the Power of Friendship or their love of Star Trek to get by.

Bespoke: vampires are vulnerable to the faith that they followed when they were alive, and hunters tracking down an ancient vampire are obliged to learn about Neo-Babylonian theology or Middle Palaeolithic bear cults.

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Ok I want to say something controversial

But you are responsible for your own safe spaces. You can block tags, block words, block people.

“But i thought fandom was supposed to be a safe space” —yeah you have to curate it.

Unfortunately one persons’s safe space may be another persons’ trigger. That’s ok. Simply block them, block the tag, block the word etc. They can do the same for you.

Maybe I’m just out of touch, but I’ve been around since the days of “don’t like, don’t read” and that’s a good philosophy. If it squicks you, scroll past. If it causes you anxiety or upset, block! Plenty of people are responsive if you ask them to tag an upsetting trigger. And if they’re dicks about it, block em.

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For when you just need to get rid of as many arrows as possible...