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mrsman · 1 month

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Joe is so dull. It’s more infuriating when someone like that is pissing you off because you’re like bro you quite literally have nothing going for you. I just know after hitting send on that eviction notice she smiled to herself for a second. You thought you could be dull, minimally employed and a cheater? Now you’re also unhoused and single. The locksmith is on the way. Hope the email started with “Joe, I hope this email finds you in shambles.”

eviction notice🤣

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mrsman · 1 month

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I have a question for you that maybe you don’t feel comfortable answering, but if you do here it is. How do you manage to connect with faith? People in my community have such a close view on it that I thing goes against a lot of what it is supposed to be about (like kindness and companionship towards others etc) and they make it more of a political statement. I’ve been feeling extremely disconnected and it’s sad. And it’s because of people lol. So I was wondering if you have any advice. (Also I was waiting for you to wake up because what a treat this was today)

It makes me incredibly sad how religion has been used to oppress and discriminate against people because it has turned so many people away from the concept as a whole. In my opinion my faith is between me and God, the relationship I have, thus I don't really care much about the noise behind it. For me my faith brings me peace, joy and hope. It's a good thing in my life. I am not a believer or a follower because I'm afraid of punishment or the afterlife, that's not how it's supposed to be. Humans are inherently flawed and will keep making mistakes and committing acts of sin until the day we die but that's okay cause this is known by the one who created you, as long as you strive to be better.

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mrsman · 2 months

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Been reading @taylortruther's posts about ttpd and joever this morning and wanted to articulate another part of the discourse that bothers me. (If you haven't read her posts though read them because they scratched the part of my brain that has been unable to articulate anything about this for days).

The defense of joe in preparation for ttpd is to a scale we haven't seen before with previous partners. For some reason, people think that there's no way he could have done anything wrong, and they're begging for Taylor to be mature and not make an album that's dissing him for no reason since he "saved her life". I'm specifically referring to the people who are like "they could never make me hate you Joe!!"

And to that, I don't understand WHY these people fail to recognize that a big portion of why they view Joe in this lens is because of Taylor's writing, and Taylor's perspective. He doesn't do that many interviews. We barely know about him, outside of her writing. We learned of him through the context of her pen. We also trusted her then, as a source of information, even though it was a first-person narration. Nobody was asking for Joe's perspective, even as she alluded to non-rosy moments in their relationship. Now, people all of a sudden want to make it clear that this is *Taylor's perspective* - to the degree that they are invalidating her right to tell her side of things. Essentially, they're saying over and over that this primary source cannot be fully trusted, because it's only her perspective - as if that barred them previously from loving HIM through her pen!

Moreover, nobody has ever accused Taylor of silencing her previous partners - so many of them have written about their perspective (John Mayer's Paper Doll, Joe Jonas' Much Better, etc etc). They've talked about her in print. And more to that, nobody, in their "response" to her work, has ever denied that her version of events is accurate. Nobody, and I do mean NOBODY (including the omnipotent version of Tree that the fandom has drawn up, who has NDAs shooting out of her fingertips like spiderman apparently) is silencing Joe. He is able to say whatever he wants about this situation, and to be honest, could probably get a profile interview from any magazine to do so if he really wanted, since anything about Taylor gets clicks. This interview's blast radius would be essentially the same as TTPD's, especially given social media.

There is simply no reason to act as if the difference in their fame should prevent Taylor from speaking about her experience. In fact, I would argue that her fame equalizes the difference - it is because of her fame that Joe could go to any magazine and ask for a profile, simply on the basis of promising that he would talk about her. This discourse is idiotic, and so steeped in misogyny. Like @taylortruther said today, the same argument was used to defend Tom, and many other previous partners. I wonder why...

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mrsman · 6 months

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I'm not gonna be specific bc I just wanna say it but the fact that this woman is so vulnerable and open about her dating life and her experiences and how men treat her but fans still want to sit here and romanticize these relationships after she's long out of them and even some of the men publicly long for her after treating her badly like huh? We're all just ignoring the cheating, hiding and lying?? For what?? Romance?? It's not romantic for her to cut herself to the bone and fit into these tiny boxes to fit their lives only for them to pay her in dirt. Then she finally leaves and suddenly the fans and these men just can't believe she'd leave and act like that was her only chance at true love like fuxking excuse me? And some of her female friends too who she gets shipped with that leave clues for the fans after their friendships have already been dissolved it's giving clout chaser it's giving stop giving these fucking vampires attention this is terrible and shitty of them to do after already breaking her heart like be so fucking fr rn as a fan do you actually like this woman or do you just want to play with her like a doll as if she's not a human person

Like the career less loser who she wrote "love songs" about that are filled with real bleeding anxiety and fear and all the inspo she found for her "fictional" songs about heartbreak and begging for a crumb of attention and love and even on the most recent releases coming right out and saying this man didn't put her in his priority list to the end and running with her to avoid being seen like she's an embarrassing person to spend so much time with and now that they're over he makes a fucking post w references to her lyrics like how heartless can you be she left you she won't release the song everyone wants her to about you probably bc she doesn't want you to regret it or receive hate from her fans she's a nice fucking lady so nice and so sweet and so deserving of a real true love that puts her first and is proud of her and yea I'll say it like the one she has now bc excuse me it's night and day yet I still see stupid ass comments talking about "I miss her ex come back dad" like shut the fuck up you're a grown adult and you want this woman to turn back on a decision she obviously agonized over making they were together for 6 years do you think it didn't hurt her do you think she made that choice lightly do you think she wanted anyone else's input beside her own beating heart that told her it was time to go like once again this a woman who's been baring her soul for us making such gorgeous beautiful music that we relate to and allowing us in and to pay her dirt by ignoring her pain and her truth and the real desire there to be loved by someone who isn't afraid to give her what she needs that's crazy

And then today I saw a timeline of her and the teenager she dated and I was shocked bc I remember growing up and vaguely thinking they were cute but the way this man emotionally led her on for years and essentially called her the person who "he can always come back to be pushed and inspiration" like huh?? That's romantic??? The way he still obviously longs for her is cute?? After he cheated on her and never fully committed and let her suffer in silence and never said ily back except in a song like wait what?? It's totally fine and okay that he continually disrespects her existence as a woman with needs and desires that asked for the bare minimum and just acts like she was a home he'd always have the key to or like a dog waiting by the door basically an ex girlfriend who'd always have him back even if he couldn't get it right the first second third or fourth time if she hadn't put a stop to it like how can there be fans of this relationship almost a decade after it ended I've seen the videos I've seen the interactions she's such a kind human being and he's so grimy for the way he still feeds into these theories and probably his own feelings but couldn't ever commit to an actual relationship don't you think that hurts her to see don't you think she sits awake thinking what the fuck could she have done differently when the honest answer is nothing bc he's never going to grow up and he needs to keep it to himself and stop being a selfish asshole it's just crazy how low the standard is for these men who are famous

And don't get me started on that horrible witch and the other girl who is on thin ice in my eyes for always feeding the theories that she was in relationships with them when she's tried as politely as possible to emphasize that she is not bisexual or a lesbian if she was she'd be out and proud anyone who is a real fan and respects her and the words she says and the music she puts out would be able to read that and these delusional theories these women feed into drives me insane why would they do that to what was once a good friend of theirs?? Encouraging people to undermine her and her stance and the validity of her identity? When did that become okay? Stop calling her homophobic for not being what you wanted and stop giving that horrible model who was a horrible friend the time of day she's literally riding off the coattails of this insane theory while being safely in her stupid castle with her HUSBAND like give me a break it doesn't affect her at all

Meanwhile we have our girl out here fighting for her life she can't use social media anymore normally she can't make posts or like things without a million and one different analysis' and theories about what it means and people interpreting it however the voices in their head tells them to like don't you think she's tired of feeling separated from the general public and being unable to step outside or go online? And if she made a fake account it would be found immediately bc the fans are insane and they can't leave her be everything's become a clue and something to entertain us rather than just a normal person consuming media the way the rest of us do no she's apparently not allowed that privilege bc her music is too good and she's too pretty 😐

I'm not gonna name names or use tags bc I've seen how this goes I've seen the arguments I've seen everything that goes down in this fandom and I vibe with the good that comes from her and the way she connects with fans I love it makes my brain feel less abnormal bc she gets it most of her fans get it everything is connected there are no coincidences really I love that I love Mastermind as a concept as a song and as a part of who she is but the fans really put her in these boxes and play w her identity like an American girl doll and I refuse to fight anyone on this I just had to say it and get it off my chest bc shit I can't imagine why so many people have so little standards when it comes to men but don't put that on her she's thriving she's finally being put first and celebrated the way she should be and I pray she is truly happy bc she deserves it I grew up on her music I left the same time a lot of millennials did after this Era originally came about and I regret my opinions and choices and judgment I was wrong I would apologize if I'd ever said anything that she could've known or heard but she's a big name and luckily it's unlikely but I'm a fan and I appreciate everything she has given from her heart and soul and God will bless her path that's what I want and I hope the desires of her heart are for her and that's it that's all

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