One thing about labels is, they are merely a means to, vaguely and in shorthand, describe a set of experiences. "Gay" is a tool used to very broadly describe the experience of "being a man who is attracted to other men" for example. What exactly that "gay" experience entails (or indeed, what being a "man" is) is almost COMPLETELY fluid and context dependent and can change radically from place and time and community to place and time and community.
Being a gay man in the 1920s at the same time is and very much isn't reasonably comparable to being a gay man in the 2020s. There's an overlap in the internal emotional experience of it, but the material conditions are so radically different as to be almost entirely alien.
So a label isn't useful for prescribing or defining what an experience is, a label is just shorthand for a big, wibbly-wobbly mess of incredibly complex connections and conditions that can be understood intuitively and emotionally, even if it can't necessarily be parsed out rationally.
In the 1946 short story "On Rigor in Science," Jorge Luis Borges imagines an empire where the science of cartography becomes so exact and rigorous that the only way to make a map detailed enough to live up to the imperial standard of accuracy is to make a map which is literally the size of the entire empire.
In the same way, if you want to write a definition for terms like "bi" or "pan" that is so accurate as to encompass and account for every possible nuance and peculiar difference, what you'll end up with is a book the size of an entire library, which nobody could ever possibly read, much less use to describe themselves.
So it's much more useful to treat labels like ~vibes~, like a convenient shorthand that sort of mostly gets a general vague idea of something across, and if it needs to be defined more closely you can handle that in conversation.
Sometimes there will be a he/him nonbinary aroace lesbian in the world who is happily married to a man that he enjoys sex with regularly. It's unusual, but it's not useful to respond to it by pointing at a series of definitions and starting semantic arguments about them. If you want to understand how it makes sense, you have to ask questions and listen to him about it, and the way it makes sense is almost certainly going to be intuitive, irrational and emotional, that's just how human beings roll.
All of this to say, arguments and gatekeeping over label definitions is generally very silly. We are, as Terry Pratchett wrote, "A LUCKY SPECIES OF APE THAT IS TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THE COMPLEXITIES OF CREATION VIA A LANGUAGE THAT EVOLVED IN ORDER TO TELL ONE ANOTHER WHERE THE RIPE FRUIT WAS."
hihi!! stumbled upon your page randomly and i wanna say how refreshing it is to see someone who is still talking abt aphmau and the mcd series, etc. (and is - y'know competent lol)
turned anon cause im a nervous lil guy who doesnt want ppl to send me hate in dms for liking her rps (as i have had happen before)
also eats ur art its sosososo silly :3 /pos (ive seen like one doodle/wip but still)
aaa i was going to respond to this after i was done w/ the revamp but i have a bad habit of letting asks sit in my inbox due to stressing over them so :3c
tysm for the kind words !! i've been struggling with some pretty awful depression for the past year or so (i've started crying over it recently,, so embarassing,,) so stuff like this really does make my day ^_^ can't say i'm too competent though, i feel like 90% of my posts is just complaining abt the fandom lmao. deffo gonna cut back on that!
also god it sucks that you got harassed over liking aph rps? sending hate in general is weird but like... over a minecraft roleplay? genuine loser behavior on their part. if you ever decide to come back/join the aph fandom then i'm rooting you flowerbud o7
wooooo okay so michi has won the blog theme election ( as expected !! ) so the blog will be under construction + all posts will be privated for the next few days while i test out things~
EEEEEE THERE MIGHT BE A NEW APH ROLEPLAY?? I'M SOOOOOO EXCITED I CANT WAIT TO SEE WHAT'S IN STORE THIS IS MY ROMAN EMPIRE
personally, i don't think they're going to do mystreet or mcd quite yet because there's a huge risk of alienating their new audience. unless there's a disclaimer in the beginning, most little kids aren't going to understand the change in personalities and dynamics. while i do think aphmau, the channel, is too big to fail at this point, a huge decrease in watch time wouldn't be ideal for the team. not only that but i imagine there'll be a stylistic change
my bet is that it's going to be a new short roleplay series to test the waters before they begin relaunching the old series
hmm i feel a little silly about it tbh but it's the second time tumblr has unblocked someone i disliked so i'm a bit agitated...? they're someone i was having a bit of a panic abt recently and i've only recently gotten over it so seeing them on the dash kinda upset me. but bleh whatever i guess
hello!! i dont know if anybody has asked you this but opinion on Phoenix Drop Days?
silly anon, i'm supposed to be on break, y'know?~ but you took the time to ask me a question, so i'll indulge!
unfortunately, i haven't seen much of pheonix drop days to form a strong opinion (though i might finish it if anyone can convince me.) of the little i have seen though, i have such pure adoration for keori and her adorable design, and she's such a trailblazer for being the first non-aphmau protaginist (i know that's technically ava but... sorry, but that's just aph with pink eyes to me!)
i think the main thing holding me back from completing it is that the main love interest reads to me like an aaron knock-off, whom i'm already not the biggest fan of. though, i've seen a few people gush about how cute he is so i'd be happy to be proven wrong! i know jess enjoys her bad boy/good girl romances, but i prefer more delicate, cuter men.
(also that one char i saw with the red glasses was so gorgeous... why'd she end the entire character roster like thaaaat)
EVERYONE SHUT UP PROOFS FOR CHARM THING !!! IS HERE!!!
Ooouughh this means they’re about to be in production ohhh ohhh I’m gonna fling myself out a window NOT FUNNY NOT FUNYTTTT
:’3 also I couldn’t order that many cuz I’m perpetually broke so when I open the store that’s all there is for each !! I just took a gander because erm. Idc.
not going to lie this community has got a serious racism problem crazy how it's "racism is bad" until the conversation is uncomfortable for YOU and then everyone is happy to brush over it and move on, crazy how it's "whitewashing is bad" until an artist draws dark skinned or even tan characters with a gray, barely darker complexion but you're willing to let it slide because you like their style, crazy how "diversity in characters is important" until you admit you do it because you're afraid of being cancelled instead of out of genuine want to represent people, crazy how easily people brush off concerns from black and brown people in the fandom please reflect and change for the better for fuck sake
gonna rant about it later after i go to sleep but i'm sooo sick of writers who think good intentions equal good execution. apparently its forgivable to write tactless pandering bullshit just because it's for 💕 activism and representation 💕