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nemideia · 5 hours ago
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No problem at all!! Your experience isn't like mine, but if you also need help with this thing I don't see how there is a problem with you sharing your experience in this post.
Is there a name to when you feel attracted to someone but it neither a crush nor a squish? Like I felt attracted to that boy some days ago and like idk what kind of attraction it was but it didn't feel neither platonic nor romantic. Just like I want to interact with this human being and there was also aesthetic attraction. If someone can help me, I'd be really thankful!!
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nemideia · 5 hours ago
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Aromantic culture is liking to read romances, and then feeling fake because, well, you like to read romance.
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nemideia · 5 hours ago
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you wanna talk about why content creators are leaving tumblr and leaving you high and dry without material to fantasize over? let's talk about it.
hmm, lets see!
first of all, none of you fucking care to reblog our work. we are all aware of how tumblr's algorithm is absolute trash. writers have been BEGGING for readers reblog their works bc it's the only way our works can be seen and in turn, we receive the fruits of our labor via followers and exposure. but no, lets make MORE THAN HALF of the likes to reblog ratios consist of fucking LIKES. on top of that, we don't we shit on writers for wanting the absolute BARE MINIMUM aka a REBLOG bc well, they're not entitled to it aren't they? while writers aren't necessarily entitled to notes, answer this; do you work for free? do you bust your ass doing something knowing that there will be no pay off what so ever? that's what i thought.
secondly, you treat us like shit. you expect us to spit out content like we're a machine and when we don't get to it on time bc we have - idk - LIVES, you send the shittiest asks demanding for more content that you aren't even paying for. do you think people are gonna neglect their real life responsibilities to write for YOU and for FREE? absolutely not. on top of that, when we start writing for ourselves and our own spaces, we get push back. yea, not an effective way to encourage your favorite fic writers to give you more content to consume.
and lastly, YOU STEAL FROM US. each and every fic that a writer puts out has taken hours, days, weeks, or even months to write. that's lots of hard work and time invested into one single piece for you. free of charge. people put their fucking hearts into their work. and what do you do in return? disrespect them in one of the most hurtful ways possible.
so yea, i don't blame a single fucking person for leaving this shithole and NONE of you should be surprised. this is YOUR doing.
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nemideia · 5 hours ago
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I’ve seen a few people commenting on my recent aro survey with things like, “sorry I’m romance favorable / I experience romantic attraction sometimes and that influences my answers I hope it’s ok” and I just wanted to take a moment to say:
Your opinions and feelings are absolutely welcome
Yes, many vocal people in the aro community are romance repulsed, loveless, and don’t get what romantic attraction is. And those posts spread around a lot, because many aro people relate to them and many of us never had a space to talk about these kind of feelings outside of the aro community. But if you don’t relate to those discussions, that’s absolutely not a bad thing!
The aromantic community is not a monolith. If you are romance favorable, if you would love to enter a romantic relationship, if your favorite movie genre is romcoms, if you are demiromantic or greyromantic, your opinions still matter. I would love to hear them, and encourage you to share them. They may not be everyone’s experiences, but I assure you that there are going to be other people who feel the same way as you do.
You’re not “representation” that has to be relatable or meet certain standards to be “good”. You’re a real person. If you are aro, your experiences are aro experiences and they are good. I make surveys because I want to see if there are trends in the community at large, and they wouldn’t be good surveys if I just ran them by people who all have the exact same experiences as me, right? And if it turns out that the community has mixed opinions on something, well that’s still a good thing to find out.
Also, ironically, some of the people who were concerned they may be outliers gave answers that pretty much align perfectly with the majority’s opinions. So you know, you’re probably much less of an outlier in this community than you think you are.
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nemideia · 5 hours ago
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Is there a name to when you feel attracted to someone but it neither a crush nor a squish? Like I felt attracted to that boy some days ago and like idk what kind of attraction it was but it didn't feel neither platonic nor romantic. Just like I want to interact with this human being and there was also aesthetic attraction. If someone can help me, I'd be really thankful!!
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nemideia · 5 hours ago
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New to the aro community?
Here are some terms that you may come across and what they mean. Please reblog, like, and feel free to add onto the list via notes.
Aromantic: (or Aro) A term to describe someone who experiences little to no romantic attraction.
Aromantic Spectrum: (or aro-spec) A group of romantic orientations that all fall under the umbrella term of aromantic. This includes but is not limited to greyromantics, demiromantics, nebularomantics, etc!
A-spec: (or A-spectrum) An umbrella term for all identities on the asexual spectrum and aromantic spectrum. It can be used for anyone on the asexual spectrum, aromantic spectrum, or both. It is also sometimes used more broadly to include other identities that use the "a-" prefix, such as agender and aplatonic.
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Romance Repulsed: A term that is used most commonly by aromantic and other aro-spec individuals to indicate that they find romance or romantic activities to be disgusting, revolting, or otherwise uncomfortable.
It is sometimes also referred to as romance-negative or romance-averse, however these terms don't always work since they have their own definitions.
Romance Averse: A term that is used most commonly by aromantic and other aro-spec individuals to indicate that they find personally engaging in romance or romantic activities to be disgusting, revolting, or otherwise uncomfortable.
Romance Indifferent: A term used by aromantic and other aro-spec individuals to indicate that they have no strong feelings about romance.
Romance Favorable: A term used by aromantic and other aro-spec individuals to indicate that they enjoy romance, romantic activities, or the concept of romance.
It is sometimes also referred to as romance positive, however this this term isn't always accurate as it has it's own definition.
Romance Ambivalent: A term used by aromantic and other aro-spec individuals to indicate they have mixed feelings towards romance.
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Queerplatonic Relationship: (or QPR) A term for a relationship that bends the rules for telling apart romantic relationships from non-romantic relationships. It typically goes beyond what is considered normal or socially acceptable for a platonic relationship but is not romantic in nature or does not fully fit the traditional idea of a romantic relationship. (also called a quasiplatonic relationship, quirkyplatonic relationship, or qplatonic relationship)
Queerplatonic Attraction: A form of attraction experienced mainly, but not exclusively, by a-spec people. It is characterized by a desire to have a queerplatonic relationship with someone in particular. (also known as Quasiplatonic Attraction, Quirkyplatonic Attraction, or Qplatonic Attraction)
Plush: A queerplatonic crush, where one strongly desires to be in a qpr with a particular person.
Squish: A platonic crush, where one strongly desires to be close to a particular person, but not in a romantic way.
It is commonly used interchangeably or more commonly than plush.
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There's definitely more that I haven't listed here, but these are the main ones that you'd probably hear most often. Hope I was able to help. ₍ᐢ. ̫ .ᐢ₎
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nemideia · 7 hours ago
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I can’t get over this lmaooo
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nemideia · 7 hours ago
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Is it common to time to time a person feel lonely and like they don't really matter to their friends and that they don't have any real close friends and that their friends don't really like them but are just tolarating them?
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nemideia · 9 hours ago
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rick riordan really shot himself in the foot making frank the perfect representation for someone with intrusive thoughts and then turning around and making him the only neurotypical demigod because racist stereotypes i guess 
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nemideia · 9 hours ago
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I want to watch Koisenu Futari so badly.
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nemideia · 9 hours ago
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Rick really lost an opportunity when it was about Reyna, Octavian and Jason relationship/friendship.
Those three guys are the people on power in Camp Jupiter. And the huge difference between the way people look to Reyna and Jason compared to they way they look to Octavian would make their dynamic really interisting to explore.
They have a lot of pressure put under their shoulders and big expectations. And although there is no real proof in canon to support me, I believe that Octavian, just like Reyna and Jason (there is canon proof to these two) bottles up a lot of his emotions. So you have those three guys that mask all the time, they cannot show how tired, angry, emotional they are. They need to be the support of the entire legion.
Also their magical inheritance gives them their position. Octavian is an augur because of Apollo and the gift of prophecy he got from him. Jason is praetor because he is the son of Jupiter. And Reyna's power is literaly to support people during battle.
They all have complicated relationshps with the praetoria.
Both Jason and Octavian feel conflicted about being Rome's hero.
They all have complicated relationships with the Greeks. Reyna wants peace, but well the Greeks attacked Camp Jupiter, plus Percy and Annabeth are part of her past. Jason doesn't know if he is more Greek and Roman. And Octavian hate the Greeks, the enemies of Rome who have proved to be not trustworthy.
All those different opinions about the upcoming war would be really interisting to explore especially in the context of their friendship.
There was just so much potential. And it wasn't explored at all.
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nemideia · 11 hours ago
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I think that there must be a parallel between Jinx trying to kill herself and Ekko with a monkeybomb and Viktor taking some suspicious time to disarm the mokeybomb that could kill him and Jayce.
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nemideia · 11 hours ago
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There is also a big difference between Tamlin wanting to intruduce F/eyre to his court and R/hys just wanting to show off F/eyre like she is his property
Hello! I'd like to ask your perspective about Ta/mlin didn't make Fey/re his trophy wife. I actually like him but I can't deny that he was an asshat in maf and I think he and Riceman are the same but Tam's a villain while Rice is a hero.
hello!
i'm not sure if tamlin ever really wanted feyre to be his trophy wife. i think a lot of that was assumption on feyre's part, ianthe's input and rhys whispering into feyre's ear.
first of all, i can see how it would be interpreted that tamlin wanted this. he was retconned to be an asshat in ACOMAF, no doubt about that. his obsession with wanting to 'protect' feyre largely led to her being sequestered and controlled. but i don't think this translates to her being a trophy wife. because it's hard to know what tamlin's motivations even are, apart from the protection thing - tamlin and feyre never talk to one another. so feyre doesn't know what he wants, and likewise, he doesn't know what feyre wants (even though a lot of this should have been inferred by him).
feyre assumes that tamlin wants her to be a pretty dressed up doll for him, but we're never actually shown that this is what tamlin wants. so a lot of it comes from ianthe. ianthe is shown to be guiding tamlin post-amarantha about how to rebuild the spring court. she has a lot of power, and it's said by feyre that she sees her as a female companion in early ACOMAF. it's ianthe, not tamlin, who chooses what feyre wears, how she appears, she even chooses her wedding dress and advises against training feyre. and i guess because tamlin doesn't stop ianthe because he thinks she knows best, feyre sees this as him green-lighting it. but it's mentioned he doesn't like a lot of ianthe's choices either, and he is also to an extent being manipulated by her. and as this fandom likes to forget, tamlin is also severely struggling post-amarantha. so he's being manipulated by ianthe to do what she wants because he's struggling with his own trauma.
aaaand then we have rhys. he is largely the one who tells feyre that tamlin wants her to be a trophy wife, which then just become feyre's thoughts as she starts to echo him. rhys tells her what tamlin wants without knowing what he wants. but rhys' motivations are clear: to use feyre's vulnerable mental state to mould her against tamlin, so she goes with him rather than staying. and while he keeps saying 'iTs yOuR cHoIcE', the way he presents the choices are super fuckin manipulative: he insinuates that going with tamlin would be the wrong choice, and going with him would be the right one. he literally says 'a shame, but it would be your choice.'
you're right, the saddest thing of all is that they end up being two sides of the same coin. only for me, i think rhys is worse because rhys plans this shit. tamlin...i don't think he ever intentionally manipulated feyre's thoughts - not like rhys does. the tragedy of acotar is that feyre believed she walked away from an abusive relationship but just walked straight into another one, which was thinly veiled with 'happily ever after.'
both men are nauseating, but the fact that one is called out for his behaviour and another isn't is alarming and very concerning. because realistically, if one is going to call out tamlin for abusive behaviour, that should implicate rhysand too. they are both toxic male characters, except one is rightfully called out while another is glorified.
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nemideia · 14 hours ago
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I was thinking about Dolores and I think her power is super hearing because she pays attention on things. Like she was the only one that noticed Luisa's eye was doing that thing. And when she was without her powers she immediately realized when a chance to talk to Mariano.
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nemideia · 15 hours ago
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@captainwaffles I hope this helps you!
Okay allos, I've gotten every variation possible of "you just know" and I think I deserve the real answer now. So tell me, how do I know if I'm romantically attracted to someone?
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nemideia · a day ago
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Hi :)
I have a question about ace rings (and aro but mostly ace), is there a specific style/type of ring that is an ace ring or is it just any black ring on your middle finger?
Yeah, ace rings can be any style/type. And I've seem people get ones with cool designs or molds on them, etc. Any (generally) black ring on the right hand of the middle finger is an ace ring.
Same with aro rings, so long as it's (generally) white or white-ish and on the middle finger of the left hand.
And even then it's a bit loose, I've seen people do really creative things, like one person i know got one ring in each colour of the ace flag and wore one on each finger.
Basically it's all about expressing your identity the way you want to.
All the best, Anon!
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nemideia · a day ago
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How dare Jack Wolfe be that aesthetic attractive?
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