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you guys need to be normal about people who don't like penetration. people who don't get hard easily. people who finish quickly. people who participate in kink without having sex. people who don't like being touched. people who don't like giving head. people who only like penetration. people who (almost) always squirt. people who take a long time to cum. people who have a hard time getting wet. people who don't talk during sex or anything else that is not part of the way you think people or bodies should behave during sex

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im having feelings about the uffington white horse again

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A lot of younger people have no idea what aging actually looks and feels like, and the reasons behind it. That ignorance is so dangerous. If you don’t want to “be old,” you aren’t talking about a number of years. I have patients in their late 80s who could still handily beat me in a race—one couple still runs marathons together, in their late 80s—and I lost someone who was in her early 60s to COPD last year. What you want is not youth, it is health.

If you want to still be able to enjoy doing things in your 60s and 70s and 80s and even 90s, what you want to do, right now, is quit smoking, get some activity on a regular basis (a couple of walks a week is WAY better for you than nothing; increasing from 1 hour a day of cardio to 1.5 will buy you very little), and eat some plants. That’s it. No magic to it. No secret weird tricks. Don’t poison yourself, move around so your body doesn’t forget how, and eat plants.

If you have trouble moving around now because of mobility limitations, bad news: you still need to move around, not because it’s immoral not to, but because that’s still the best advice we have. I highly recommend looking up the Sit and Be Fit series; it is freely available and has exercises that can be done in a chair, which are suitable for people with limited mobility or poor balance. POTS sufferers, I’m looking at you.

If you have trouble eating plants because of dietary issues (they cause gas, etc.) or just because they’re bitter (super taster with texture issues here!), bad news. You still want to find a way to get some plants into your body on a regular basis. I know. It sucks. The only way I can do it is restaurants—they can make salads taste like food. I can also tolerate some bagged salads. On bad weeks, the OCD with contamination focus gets so bad I just can’t. However, canned beans always seem “safe,” and they taste a bit like candy, so they’re a good fallback.

If you smoke and you have tried quitting a million times and you’re just not ready to, bad news. You still need to quit. Your body needs you to try and keep trying. Your brain needs it, too. Damaging small blood vessels racks up cumulative damage over time that your body can start trying to reverse as soon as you quit. I know it’s insanely, absurdly addictive. You still need to.

You cannot rules lawyer your way past your body’s basic needs. It needs food, sleep, activity, and the absence of poison. Those are both small things and big asks. You cannot sustain a routine based on punishment, so don’t punish your body. Find ways to include these things that are enjoyable and rewarding instead. Experiment. There is no reason not to experiment—you don’t have to know instantly what’s going to work for you and what won’t, you just need to be willing to try things and make changes when things aren’t working for you.

You will still age. Your body will stop making collagen and elastin. Tissues you can see and tissues you can’t see will both sag. Cushioning tissues under your skin will get thinner. You’ll bruise more easily. Skin will tear more easily. Accumulated sun damage will start to show more and more. Joints will begin to show arthritis. Tendons and ligaments will get weaker and get injured more easily, as will muscles. Bones will lose mass and get easier to break. You’ll get tired more easily.

But you know what makes the difference between being dead, or as good as, in your 60s vs your 90s? Activity, plants, and quitting smoking. And don’t do meth. Saw a 58-year-old guy this week who is going to have a heart attack if he doesn’t quit whatever stimulant he’s on. I pretended to believe it was just the cigarettes, and maybe it is, but meth and cocaine will kill you quicker. Stop poisoning yourself.

Baby steps; take it one step at a time; you don’t need to have everything figured out right now. But you do need to be working on figuring things out.

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this stupid dream I had

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having anxiety is like being given permanent unwanted custody of a halter arabian. like okay buddy is it panic time again. cool you probably need more exercise and an apple and then maybe you'll calm down.

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Cocaine was a stimulant used by a priestly caste of the middle period United States called businessmen in order to commune with The Market. [1]

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person who is chronically outside

#idk how many times I've reblogged this #still the most accurate description of my coworkers i have ever seen in my life

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ok i know i hate discourse. but.

terfs are so obsessed with the idea that “the left” doesnt care about women they’ll literally day “including trans men, a group who is literally a victim of roe v wade and has high rates of sexual assault/forced pregnancy, in our activism is so threatening to me that i’ll make up a scenario where trans men are erasing womanhood”

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Graffiti encountered on my way to work this morning.

(Note: no actual fish titties were observed.)

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disgusts me deeply to say it but 30 dollars is basically the new 20 dollars

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If you're having trouble keeping up with what's going on in Palestine because of US news coverage of university protests, here are some articles you can read and a video you can watch:

While CNN & all the other mainstream media try to paint the university protests as "pro terrorism" (which they're not, they're literally anti-war protests.) Palestinians are being slaughtered by the minute.

Please don't stop speaking about Palestine.

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I kill you

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#me but i made the server

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We all know why callout posts and such are bullshit, but at the very minimum, if you truly believe someone has been doing something harmful for your community / space and you write up a whole thing about it and try to get it out there... Sorry but you HAVE to prove the accusations you're talking about?

I saw a whole thing that's apparently happening on the twitter indie authors community this morning, never heard of anyone involved before someone put the 'callout' thread on my timeline, and reading it to try to figure out what happened left me very confused because there was absolutely no real proof of the accused person's wrongdoing at all. Just a claim that they were lying about their identity, and vague accusations of bullying/harassment. The rest of it was proof linking various pennames and accounts back to the same person, which is not proof of anything else - From the outside looking in, without having seen any actual documented wrongdoing, it literally just looks like a bunch of stalking. Including sharing this person's legal name, and potential deadname?

Because yeah, this all seems to be about a trans man who wrote some controversial dark fiction which... Makes me even more suspicious of the whole thing, sorry. We know how that one usually goes.

This person might be guilty, and a real asshole, I don't know. But I am extremely wary of these types of callouts and you should be too. I think it's good to read them and think for yourself. Is any of what's provided actual proof of the claims? Are the accusations specific or vague? What does this situation look like if we don't uncritically assume guilt?

This just happens to trans people too often online to just accept the first thing you read as the truth tbh.