and is your shame helpful? is it inspiring goodness and change? or is it keeping you frozen in time unable to move on and be everything you have expanded to be?
also i am literally always thinking about this: when people write about nature, about direct and meaningful contact with the world, they often frame it as being about solitude. that the important thing is that people are absent and they are experiencing the world as it is meant to be. just nature, wih no people in it.
this seems to me to be patently silly -- when you are alone in the desert alone in the woods alone in the ocean you are not experiencing the absence of people from nature because YOU are a people!!! the thing you are experiencing is the *presence* of people in nature!!
you are experiencing people interfacing with the world! you aren't experiencing the removal of an incompatible human factor; the thing that is revealed to you is your fundamental human *compatibility* with nature. you were simply distracted before. but you belong. you have always belonged. we all do.