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You aren’t going to figure out how to recover or heal in one day. It’ll take time. It’ll take a few steps forward and then some steps back. And that’s okay. It’s normal for these things to take time and not work in a linear fashion. You aren’t a failure because you aren’t doing it as fast as you want to. There is no time limit on healing.

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One of the most dangerous things in the world is not being able to say no to people because you don't want to upset them or dissapoint them. This will completely ruin your life in every way possible, at work, in your private life, your sex life and your friendships. It's a way of removing your own consent in your own decisions and go against your wishes, it is always a crime against yourself. Let yourself have a say. Upsetting people is better than traumatizing yourself.

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But I do think part of healing from trauma means sometimes giving people the chance to treat you right. And no, I'm not talking about forgiving your abusers. Or giving random people endless chances to hurt you. But sometimes you gotta fight that voice that says everyone just wants to harm you and give someone a chance to get close enough to actually prove it wrong.

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lost

lately ive been feeling lost. life’s been draining me and i just lost interest in everything. Ive been questioning my decisions, my thoughts, and especially my existence. I don’t know what happened to me. I used to be this happy go lucky girl with so much social energy and so much eagerness to look forward to the future. Right now, I just stay at home, barely getting any sleep, i don’t leave my room, and i just stay in bed staring at the ceiling. I have been feeling a lot of emotions lately and I cant seem to put them into words no matter how hard i try. I don’t know who to talk to or who to run to. I feel sad, lonely, unloved, unworthy, unimportant, unvalued. I want to cry but no tears came out. I wanted to scream, but somehow I can’t. I feel so unimportant. Like no one’s capable of really loving me even though I have a partner. What is wrong with me?? Why am I here?

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Don't test people by not actually telling them what you want, need and expect from them in the hope that they will figure it out by themselves. Test them by communicating your needs, so that you can then see whether they're willing and able to adjust their behavior accordingly. That says more about their quality than whether they can intuitively figure out what you want from them

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It's ableist to expect mentally ill people to function normally. It's ableist to blame, shame and judge mentally ill people for struggling. It is ableist to expect mentally ill people not to be affected by their diagnosis. It's ableist to expect mentally ill people to never fuck up or lose control. But it is not ableist to expect mentally ill people to put effort into working on their behavior when they're hurting people - even if their diagnosis makes it hard to fix the issue. What would ACTUALLY be ableist here is implying that they can't help hurting people indefinitely due to having a mental illness

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“Honestly I don’t even play an active role in my life. Shit just happens and I’m like oh is this what we’re doing now? Ok.”

— sushie

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“You can tell how dangerous a person is by the way they hold their anger inside themselves quietly.”

— Unknown

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Inner Peace | Affirmation Series

Hello and welcome to this new post! Because many people thought it would be a nice idea to have an affirmation series on my page I thought it would be a good thing to try out. In this post I'll give a few inner peace affirmations, I hope you guys like them and find them useful!

Masterlist > Questions

I am worthy of experiencing deep inner peace, and I cultivate it within myself.

I release all worries and anxieties, allowing a profound sense of tranquility to envelop me.

I embrace stillness and silence, finding solace in the present moment.

My inner peace radiates outwards, positively influencing my interactions with others.

I let go of the need to control and surrender to the natural flow of life, finding peace in acceptance.

I prioritize self-care and nourish my mind, body, and soul, creating a foundation for lasting inner peace.

I detach myself from negative thoughts and emotions, choosing peace and harmony instead.

I create a peaceful sanctuary within my mind, a space where I can retreat to find serenity.

I am the calm in the midst of chaos, and I respond to challenging situations with grace and tranquility.

I trust in the journey of life, knowing that inner peace is always accessible to me, no matter the circumstances.

Tip: The more you repeat the more affective affirmations are.

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No, you're not wrong.

You're not wrong for wanting a better life for yourself.

You're not wrong for believing that you are deserving of better.

You're not wrong for making those necessary changes in your life.

You're not wrong for changing the way you show up to life.

You're not wrong for distancing yourself from those things that harm you.

You're not wrong.

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“It’s about who you miss at 2 in the afternoon when you’re busy, not 2 in the morning when you’re lonely.”

— Unknown

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Working on Yourself Step 1.

Working on yourself means facing your own problems instead of pretending they don't exist, identifying with them, or making excuses for bad things you do. It's about understanding what you need to change and taking responsibility for your actions and feelings, acknowledging that you need to shift your belief system instead of clinging to it. This helps you become a better person by fixing the things that aren't good for you or others. It's like taking steps to grow and improve as a person.

This is how you start:

Face Your Problems: Instead of pretending your problems don't exist or pushing them away, you deal with them directly. This means being aware of your thoughts and feelings and trying to understand them in a helpful way.

Don't Letting Problems Define You: You know that your problems don't make up your whole identity. They're things you can work on and change, but they're not all that you are.

Being Open, Not Defensive: If someone points out things you're doing wrong, you don't get upset or defensive. Instead, you listen and try to learn from their feedback.

Changing Your Bad Habits: You actively try to recognize and change behaviors that are harmful to you or others. This might mean getting help, thinking about your actions, and trying hard to do better things instead.

Getting Better as a Person: The main aim is to improve and become a better version of yourself. This involves making good changes, learning new things, and building healthier habits over time.

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“I needed to be somewhere different. Maybe I needed to be someone different, too.”

— Heather Davis; The Clearing

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“You cannot make someone understand a message they are not ready to receive.”

— Unknown

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I have to get something off my chest. It's absolutely infuriating to witness someone who is well into adulthood throwing temper tantrums and acting like a spoiled child. I mean, come on! We're all expected to grow up and handle our emotions in a mature way, right? But apparently, not everyone got that memo.

First of all, let's talk about the tantrums. It's mind-boggling to witness a grown adult launch into a full-blown meltdown over the smallest inconvenience or disagreement. You would think they would have learned how to control their emotions by now, but no. Their reaction to a minor setback is akin to a toddler throwing themselves on the floor, screaming and kicking. It's embarrassing for everyone involved.

And let's not forget their constant need for attention. It's like they have an insatiable hunger for validation and praise. They always need to be the center of attention, and if someone else dares to steal the spotlight, get ready for an epic meltdown. It's exhausting to constantly walk on eggshells, afraid of triggering their fragile ego.

But perhaps what infuriates me the most is their refusal to take responsibility for their actions. It's always someone else's fault, never their own. It's like they have a permanent victim mentality, always looking for excuses and scapegoats. It's infuriating to see someone who should know better avoiding any kind of accountability.

So, to all the grown-ups out there who still throw tantrums and act like children, please do us all a favor and grow up. It's time to leave the childish behavior behind and start behaving like the adults you're supposed to be. The world doesn't need more adult-sized toddlers, it needs responsible, emotionally mature individuals who can navigate life without resorting to tantrums and drama.

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You’re not going to keep having issues with someone for no reason, everything has a purpose behind it and that’s why I don’t try to fix nothing with no one anymore. Not everyone is meant to be in your life and as long as you keep trying to deal with them knowing that it’s going to cause you to stress you’ll always be unhappy and it’s never worth it.