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Just out of curiosity - I read your post about how the “Australian” government abducted aboriginal children and assimilated them as part of the genocide against the native people, and it has me wondering, what is the land of Australia actually called? Since Australia is the name given by settlers, what do the aboriginal people actually call their home?

this is very easily googleable and I really encourage you to do your own research but I'm feeling generous. there is no one name for the land because Aboriginal peoples had (and still very much do have) our own nations that make up this land.

There are over 300 Indigenous nations on this continent. Each with its own language, laws, and cultural protocol. Some nations close in proximity share certain cultural protocols and language. Certain regions have names like "Koori" is most of the region also known as NSW and "Murri" is similar to the region known as Queensland. My people are Koori.

What is widely known as the Australian continent is large. First Nations peoples from Palawa, for example, rarely if ever interacted with Noongar peoples until after colonisation. Because of the size (the continent is 2 times bigger than Russia and only slightly smaller than the US) and differences in language, it's unlikely Aboriginal peoples had an agreed upon name for the entire land. But it's also worth noting that if we did have a name for it, that name has probably been lost due to violent colonial efforts to strip us of our language and history. You'll hear people say "so-called Australia" as a way to acknowledge all this.

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Routes where high-speed rail would be faster than both car or airplane.

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How many continents exist according to your country?

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Always use "excuse me" if you have to get into someone else's personal space.

Someone at the store is standing in front of the shelf where there's a can you want to grab? Don't just reach into their personal space without warning, say "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" first so that they at least have a warning that someone is about to reach into their personal space, and most importantly, so that they have a chance to move before you get into their space.

Or if someone is standing on a walkway or in a doorway you need to get through, don't just silently shove past them or squeeze past them, say "excuse me" so that they have a warning that a someone is about to squeeze or shove into their personal space, and they have a chance to move out of the way before you do you.

People deserve a fair warning if someone is about to squeeze or shove or reach into their personal space. A lot of people are not okay with having someone, but especially a stranger, randomly shove or squeeze or reach into their personal space without warning. They also deserve a chance to move out of the way first for the sake of their comfort.

Try to avoid just staring at people who are in your way and expecting them to read your mind that you want them to move. Most people cannot, in fact, read minds, so having someone stand in front of them and stare at them often only leads to making them feel uncomfortable and frustrated.

But also more importantly, if you are standing somewhere someone needs to get to, and they say excuse me, you should move aside for them even if just temporarily, so they can avoid the discomfort of having to reach into your personal space or squeeze past you.

If someone is saying "excuse me" it's because they would like you to move because they don't want to have to get into your personal space, whether it's out of respect for you, or just because they themselves are not comfortable getting in your personal space.

All of this goes double for people with trauma and/or people who are neurodivergent. If someone has trauma related to abuse or assault they may find it more upsetting or possibly triggering to suddenly have someone shoving or reaching in their personal space without warning.

Or, many types of neurodivergence can make it especially disturbing and unpleasant to have someone else in your personal space, especially without warning.

You can never be 100% sure who is and isn't traumatized and/or neurodivergent, so always practice respecting other's personal space by giving them a fair warning with "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" before getting in their personal space, and moving aside when you hear those magic words. Or, even if someone isn't traumatized nor neurodivergent, it's still fair to not like someone in your personal space without warning and not being given the opportunity to move first.

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i feel like europeans who judge americans for never leaving the country don’t quite get that 90% of us have 10-15 days of vacation time per year that we have to ration for doctors appointments and sick time and hardly get to use as actual vacation. like how exactly do I squeeze an intercontinental trip out of there babe please spell it out for me i’m too stupid to understand

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If someone flinches or looks uncomfortable when you swear, or even directly says they feel uncomfortable and don't like it when you swear, be respectful of this. Don't mock or tease them, or judge them assuming they're a sheltered goody two shoes.

It is, after all, an awfully childish mindset to assume that swearing makes you cooler, tougher, or more grown up than people who don't.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that for many people and in many places, swearing is often associated with being an expression of irritation, anger, or even aggression. For some people, and in some places, that connection of associating swearing with anger or aggression is stronger than for other people or places.

Especially if someone has endured a lot of verbal abuse, and during the verbal abuse swearing was used a lot as an expression of anger and hostility towards them, they could find swearing uncomfortable or upsetting because of that association with the verbal abuse more so than someone without the same experiences.

If you can understand why someone can be uncomfortable with shouting or door slamming or other expressions of anger or aggression, then hopefully you can understand why people who associate swearing with anger and aggression would also be uncomfortable with swearing.

And it's not necessarily a bad thing if a person or culture designates certain words as expressions of irritation / anger / aggression / hostility, especially if that means some people might be more likely to just use their words to express strong negative feelings, rather than feeling like they have to resort to displays of physical aggression to express how angry or upset they feel.

Some cultures have designated some word as having a "stronger" meaning than others specifically so we can express the magnitude of a situation, or our feelings, when need be.

And of course this doesn't mean that you're not allowed to swear when you're in the company of others who you know feel the same way about swearing as you, go ahead and cuss your heart out when you're among people who are comfortable with it. Just be polite and respectful if you're in the company of someone who isn't as comfortable with swearing as you.

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Growing up I always heard “when boys are mad at each other they just punch it out, whereas girls are catty and hold grudges” and the latter was always presented as the less favourable option. Obviously I’m not excusing cruel behaviour, words do hurt, but I think it’s a great example of how boys’ bad behaviour starts to be forgiven or not taken seriously so early. Men using violence as their emotional outlet is the cause of so much suffering in this world, towards women, nonbinary people, children, and other men. This is not disconnected from behaviour exhibited and internalized in childhood. Maybe we as a society should show a bit more concern to boys seeing violence as an acceptable outlet for their emotions, rather than placing the brunt of this critique on girls who might say cruel things about each other but rarely lay a finger on each other physically. Just a thought

Not to mention how much it's overlooked that boys and men often are cruel and manipulative with their words too.

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Always use "excuse me" if you have to get into someone else's personal space.

Someone at the store is standing in front of the shelf where there's a can you want to grab? Don't just reach into their personal space without warning, say "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" first so that they at least have a warning that someone is about to reach into their personal space, and most importantly, so that they have a chance to move before you get into their space.

Or if someone is standing on a walkway or in a doorway you need to get through, don't just silently shove past them or squeeze past them, say "excuse me" so that they have a warning that a someone is about to squeeze or shove into their personal space, and they have a chance to move out of the way before you do you.

People deserve a fair warning if someone is about to squeeze or shove or reach into their personal space. A lot of people are not okay with having someone, but especially a stranger, randomly shove or squeeze or reach into their personal space without warning. They also deserve a chance to move out of the way first for the sake of their comfort.

Try to avoid just staring at people who are in your way and expecting them to read your mind that you want them to move. Most people cannot, in fact, read minds, so having someone stand in front of them and stare at them often only leads to making them feel uncomfortable and frustrated.

But also more importantly, if you are standing somewhere someone needs to get to, and they say excuse me, you should move aside for them even if just temporarily, so they can avoid the discomfort of having to reach into your personal space or squeeze past you.

If someone is saying "excuse me" it's because they would like you to move because they don't want to have to get into your personal space, whether it's out of respect for you, or just because they themselves are not comfortable getting in your personal space.

All of this goes double for people with trauma and/or people who are neurodivergent. If someone has trauma related to abuse or assault they may find it more upsetting or possibly triggering to suddenly have someone shoving or reaching in their personal space without warning.

Or, many types of neurodivergence can make it especially disturbing and unpleasant to have someone else in your personal space, especially without warning.

You can never be 100% sure who is and isn't traumatized and/or neurodivergent, so always practice respecting other's personal space by giving them a fair warning with "excuse me" or "pardon my reach" before getting in their personal space, and moving aside when you hear those magic words. Or, even if someone isn't traumatized nor neurodivergent, it's still fair to not like someone in your personal space without warning and not being given the opportunity to move first.

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Offer to let other people go ahead of you in line, especially if you're approaching the line at the same time. This is double applicable if you're in a store and the other person has fewer items than you.

This is a small gesture of kindness that in most cases will cost you very little time or effort. It shows consideration for other people's time. Especially in the case of being in a store and letting someone with fewer items than you go first, there is no sense in making someone else wait for you who would otherwise be able to get in and out much quicker.

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If someone is doing something that is thoughtless and not so considerate, but not malicious or in any way intentional, be patient when you address it to them especially if it's the first time you're bringing it to their attention.

If, for example, your neighbor has their T.V. turned up too loud, or if a stranger has a bag hanging on the back of their chair that is in your way and/or in your personal space, you are certainly allowed to address this, but be polite and patient if this is the first time you're bringing it to this person's attention.

While something like a loud T.V. or someone's bag in your way and/or in your personal space are annoying and something you're certainly allowed to politely address if it's bothering you, it's more likely than not that the other person had no idea this was bothering you and would be happy to turn down the T.V. or move their bag if you politely bring it to their attention. Human beings aren't infallible machines, as such we're all prone to accidentally doing something that is bothersome to another person, so it certainly doesn't call for a hostile or aggressive response to what is likely an honest mistake.

If it becomes a repeat issue from the same person even after it's been politely addressed, or seems like it could be malicious or intentional, such as your neighbor actually turns up the T.V. even louder after you politely ask them to turn it down, then you can dial up the assertiveness within reason and/or get help from someone who can back you up (such as other neighbors who are also bothered by the sound).

But first, always give people the benefit of the doubt that they're making an honest mistake and had no idea they were bothering you.

Besides, people are more likely to respond positively to someone who addresses something patiently and politely. If a neighbor comes pounding on your door and screams and cusses at you for watching T.V. loudly when this is the first time it was brought to your attention and you didn't even know they could hear it, or if someone takes your bag off the back of your chair and dumps it on the floor because it was in their way when you couldn't even tell it was in anyone's way, a lot of people might get spiteful or aggressive themselves as a defensive response to feeling attacked. If, however, it is addressed politely they're more likely to respond politely in return.

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When having a conversation with others, make sure everyone in the conversation is getting a chance to speak and everyone who is speaking gets a chance to finish their thought. Avoid speaking over others or cutting others off. Even if you do accidentally interrupt someone before they had a chance to finish their thought, give them a chance to finish by saying something along the lines of "sorry for interrupting, please continue what you were saying"

And, if you do notice someone in the group keeps trying to speak but someone else keeps speaking over them, or someone else speaks first every time they try to open their mouth, you can create an opening for them by saying "what did you want to say?/what was it you were saying?" or you can look at them after someone else in the group has spoken over them / cut them off and say "go on, I'm still listening" to make them feel heard and included.

Ideally in a conversation everyone deserves equal speaking time, and everyone deserves to finish their thought. If someone is dominating the conversation by not giving others the chance to speak and interrupting others before they can finish their thoughts, it can give the impression that they view what they have to say as more important and more valuable that what others in the conversation have to say.

Likewise if someone isn't getting the opportunity to speak or finish their thought due to always being spoken over, it gives the impression that others in the conversation don't value what they have to say, that what they have to contribute to the conversation isn't as valuable or as important as what those dominating the conversation are contributing.

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if ur in the tags of that debunked callout being like “I’m soooo sorry for spreading misinfo by rbing this I should’ve researched more and done my due diligence” consider that you could easily do your due diligence by never reblogging another callout post ever again in your entire life

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the problem with not voting in order to send the message that you hate all the candidates and the entire system and therefore refuse to participate is that it's completely indistinguishable, as a signal, from not bothering to vote because you think the system is great and all the candidates are great and you'd be fine with any of them. so you might want to rethink the strategy there

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Actually I'll take it another step forward and say, even if someone is past their early 20's and isn't partying and isn't sexually active, so what? Why does that bother you so much what someone else is or isn't doing with their own life?

Some people like sex/alcohol/weed, but some people just have no interest in those things, and guess what? That's perfectly okay. You can lead a happy and fulfilling life without sex/alcohol/weed. The only cringe losers are the ones so obsessed with what other people are doing with their own lives, and somehow feeling personally threatened when someone isn't doing the same thing as them.

Those posts about how Tumblr is the cringe virgins who never drink alcohol or smoke weed website started out as funny and probably good natured ribbing. But I'm starting to think too many people, weirdly enough adults in their 30's and beyond, are way too serious about it the whole "this website is full of cringy virgins who deserve to be bullied for being virgins who don't drink alcohol or smoke weed"

It's especially concerning when you do consider that the age demographics of this website are slanted towards being a lot of teens and people in their early 20's, and it's completely normal to be in your teens or even early 20's and have never drank/smoked/had sex.

I didn't start partying until I was around 19, and I didn't become sexually active until a few years after that when I was in my early 20's, and honestly? I'm happy I had those experiences at those ages and not younger. I'm glad I had more life experience and self esteem to better navigate those situations as a first timer.

If you're in your 30's and beyond and making posts on Tumblr about how we need to bully the "cringy virgin losers who've never even drank alcohol or smoked weed" when most of those "cringy virgin losers" are just actual kids at a very normal age to not have had those experiences yet, idk what else to tell you except that the cringy loser is actually you.

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Those posts about how Tumblr is the cringe virgins who never drink alcohol or smoke weed website started out as funny and probably good natured ribbing. But I'm starting to think too many people, weirdly enough adults in their 30's and beyond, are way too serious about it the whole "this website is full of cringy virgins who deserve to be bullied for being virgins who don't drink alcohol or smoke weed"

It's especially concerning when you do consider that the age demographics of this website are slanted towards being a lot of teens and people in their early 20's, and it's completely normal to be in your teens or even early 20's and have never drank/smoked/had sex.

I didn't start partying until I was around 19, and I didn't become sexually active until a few years after that when I was in my early 20's, and honestly? I'm happy I had those experiences at those ages and not younger. I'm glad I had more life experience and self esteem to better navigate those situations as a first timer.

If you're in your 30's and beyond and making posts on Tumblr about how we need to bully the "cringy virgin losers who've never even drank alcohol or smoked weed" when most of those "cringy virgin losers" are just actual kids at a very normal age to not have had those experiences yet, idk what else to tell you except that the cringy loser is actually you.

#Why are so many 30+ year olds on this website acting like a bunch of fucking high schoolers #“I wanna bully these kids because they haven't had sex or drank alcohol” #Grow the fuck up or better yet get psychological help

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When absolutely 0 of Biden’s accomplishments have made any kind of news, and we’ve been fed a steady diet of fear and panic for 3 years, no one gets to be shocked when he loses the next election to Donald 2.0.

Posting anything positive about the president here will get you called a capitalist bootlicker.

What do we expect to happen?

Anger sells better. Anger feels better, it feels righteous.

It’s easier to protest against a president you don’t like then to actually remain in charge and keep pushing ahead, even if small, consistent accomplishments are all you receive.