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What helps me the most, is to talk to a friend (that isn‘t one of my players) and then talk about any loose ideas i have. Usually they will also have some ideas. I do this with everything, even academic papers. It‘s much easier to come with things when someone else is there to build metaphorical bridges with you

how do I start the story I’m writing I’m so stuck

ok I do write prose as well as ttrpgs so theoretically could answer this *but* I generally write stories chronologically because I'm weird so the usual advice (do it deliberately badly, write the scene you're most excited about first, etc) doesn't work for me so idk what's good. followers, reynardswritings calls for aid! - Paper

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shout out to my gross disabled people

to the disabled people whos rooms are messy bcuz they dont have energy to clean

to the disabled people who cant brush their teeth

to the disabled people who rarely shower

to the disabled people who wear the same clothes for days at a time

to the disabled people who are depressed

to the disabled people who cant do laundry

to the disabled people who dont eat due to being unable to cook

to the disabled people who dont eat due to low appitites

to the disabled people who wet the bed

to the disabled people who vomit

to all my disabled people who do anything considered 'gross'

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writers and artists will go "this isn't good enough." my brother in christ, you're creating something new out of nothing and expressing yourself creatively. your productivity and unrealistic standards of perfection do not define you or the worth of your art. you're doing great.

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Do you mean the sunset flag? Because to me it‘s the most beautiful. I love nothing more than the combination of orange and blue.

There are many people tho, that dislike it and will use a combination of the ace and aro flag

Why is the aroace flag so ugly. I say this as an aroace person. The ace flag is great, and so is the aro flag. Why they ugly when together.

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Sex-averse aces you deserve:

To set boundaries

To discuss your experiences without invalidation

To feel comfortable in supposedly safe spaces

To say no or speak up when you aren't comfortable

To be included in your community

Each time you honor your preferences and boundaries, you're setting an example for self-advocacy and expanding the definition of the human experience

-Mod Ama

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If you're fifteen or older an still sleep with a stuffed animal please reblog this.

#27 #and i got a long dog plush #i sewed it a few years ago and haven‘t slept a night without

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Even when I think in English and say German (my native language) names, I pronounce them English, because the German phonetics don‘t make any sense in English and it just sounds weird af

I will open the fucking TikTok app just to watch this video multiple times

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the humble "like" is oft mocked despite what it does for us. "like, three people" is a vastly different statement from "three people". "and i was like 'what the fuck'" is vastly different from "and i said 'what the fuck'". i love you "like" and anyone who says you make people sound stupid will be killed on sight

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Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

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i hope one day, aroallos will get to have conversations about our aromanticism without it being derailed. i hope one day i can make an aromantic post and not have people tag it "#asexual"

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"All autistics have low empathy" - This statement is wrong.

"Autistics having low empathy is a MYTH, we actually have HIGH empathy!" - This statement is ALSO wrong.

Autistics can have low empathy, they can have high empathy, they can have learned empathy. The myth would be that all autistics only experience one end of the empathy spectrum.

In spreading around misinformation that autistics actually have high empathy, you are disregarding the autistics who do have low empathy. And vice versa.

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My two best friends, while one is demisexual, are both wildy alloromantic. (One bi one straight). They can not survive a day in their life without having a romantic partner. Which is absolutely wild, because just the though of having someone around me more than one day at a time drives me insane

IF YOUR NOT ASPEC DONT VOTE JUST WAIT

IF YOUR NOT ASPEC DONT VOTE JUST WAIT

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Also 15 is young. And only a small percentage of people, those who are similar to your age would actually start flirting with you.

There are so many factors to consider here. I’m 27 and I am fairly attractive. But I look unapproachable (resting mad face) and I also avoid talking to people as much as I can. So of course no one would just approach me and start flirting. I know there have been people that were attracted to me and I know that there have been people who flirted with me. And I might talk about it, if the topic comes up. So imagine I talked to you about the five (number made up) people that have been flirting hard. And maybe I even talk in detail about it, it could seem that it is a big part of my life. But it is not at all.

I absolutely understand where you come from. I also appreciate it when someone expresses that they find me attractive. (Little tangent: I remember walking down the street a few years ago and I saw a very beautiful man and was just looking him up and down to take in his style and all. And as i was passing he gave me a nod. And i almost died because it felt so incredibly emotional(?) to think that someone so attractive would in turn find me attractive)

Also maybe people actually have been flirting with you, but you didn‘t notice. I swear most interactions I have with people I only know over text have been misinterpreted by them and I only noticed when they started to make sexual comments

To get back to the point of „constant“. There might just be a missinterpretation of the given words. Or you just happened to see exactly those posts/comments, or maybe people who don‘t have to deal with it that often, don‘t feel the need to talk about it.

Our brains like to do this thing of forming an opinion and subconsciously selecting information that feeds that opinion. Without any statistical relevance. (Example: brain thinks that apples are always red. I go to school and a person takes out a red apple. Another person takes out a green apple. Brain will only see the red apple, because it connects apples to red)

You are not alone, you are not worth less.

I'm 15 and I've never been in a romantic relationship, no one has ever expressed having a crush on me, etc. Some of my friends have never been in relationships while others have several exes, but in my daily life at school I pretty much never encounter romance of any kind directed at me, so I usually forget it's even a thing.

It feels weird to me though when I see other aros/aces online talking about fending off constant flirtations, love confessions, crushes, etc when that's literally never happened to me? And even though I'm more than fine with that, it makes me feel like something's wrong with me because I've never had anyone behave like that personally. I don't want to date, but I want to be *likable*, and given how much emphasis society in general places on romantic attraction, the lack of romance in my life feels like it reflects poorly on me :P

Yeah, I do think it's someone normal/common to want to be perceived as attractive, even if you're not actually interested in any kind of romance/sexual situation with other people. Though I would say that:

a. Being asked out or frequency of being asked out isn't necessarily a reflection of how attractive you might be. There's a lot of factors that go into being asked out like aproachability, the kinds of situations you're in/people around you, etc. For example a lot of aroaces aren't really connecting to people in a flirty/mutual attraction kind of way (though sometimes this can be misread), and aren't asked out as often because of that. Some people are very attractive, but kind of intimidating and get asked out less for that reason, etc. and

b. your self worth isn't determined by how attractive you may or may not be. When determining self worth it's important to focus on the things you can control. Value yourself for the things you do. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and you can't control, or often even know, how another person is perceiving you in that context. It's fun to know if people do find you attractive, but remember that you're a cool and interesting person in your right no matter what and that matters more.

All the best, Anon!

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I'm not trying to be a party pooper - but if you don't want to burn out and break down, then you have to learn to honor your mental and physical limits and make sure that you work in a way which is actually sustainable long term. Because if you don't, it'll eventually catch up with you and that won't be fun.

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body positivity has largely failed because people started arguing for attractiveness and romantic prospects instead of respect and dignity

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This makes so much sense

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a weird thing is that we got waves of people going "who cares if its cringe or youre annoying! have fun!" but no one really learned how to accept the fact that some people will find you annoying or think your art or your work or posts or anyrhing sucks and thats ok. rather it just became a weird "if people think youre annoying theyre just morally bad. let people enjoy things!". like no i think this yes man only biome sucks and people are allowed to not like artstyles and shows and media and other things